How Much Time Is Too Much Time

17 replies · 2260 views · Started by DCHoney_0629 · Apr 2005

Well...I have been having this issue with my boyfriend for a while about him spending more time with his friends than me. He goes out and chill during the day with them, he comes home for 2 hours and goes and chills again in the night. He doesn't see it though and just says that I'm jealous of his friends. Ladies, do you think that it is okay if your man spends more time with his friends than you even if he's known them longer??? Any other input is okay.

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· Apr 2005

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MeganJerai wrote:
Yall are young. Let him get all of that out of his system so if yall stay together he'll have that "been there, done that" mentality in the end. A lot of committed men wile out cause they didn't get to flourish.

Pretty much. If the you (the girl who started this thread) is as old as I think you are, you and your boyfriend will learn how to spend time/separate yourselves SOON enuff. P.S....There's nothing worse than a super-clingy girlfriend.

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The Nomad from Silver Spring, MD · Apr 2005

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Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Instead of thinking that he is spending time away from you, think that he is preparing himself for a lifetime of "catching up."

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Focused247 from San Dimas, CA · Apr 2005

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let him do what he feels he needs to do at the time (hangin with his boys). u just make sure u do the same. dont stay at home waitin on when HE has times for YOU. go out and do your thing, in time he should wake up and change....if not...let that **** gooooo.

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· Apr 2005

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Focused247 wrote:
let him do what he feels he needs to do at the time (hangin with his boys). u just make sure u do the same. dont stay at home waitin on when HE has times for YOU. go out and do your thing, in time he should wake up and change....if not...let that N*gga gooooo.

Now that is some good adivce without judgement. I give him plenty of space ( at least 16-20 hours out of the day he is out doing his thing or sleep), but the fact is that we live together now and plan for marriage within the next 2 years. I do my thing too, don't get it twisted ( I got out with friends too). I've discussed how I feel with him starting a month ago. Yeah he changes for like 2 days, but then he goes back to hangin with the boys all day...every day from that point on.. Yeah were young ( in our twenties) but this man just is out right disrespectful to our relationship sometimes. Cause in point: he came home from the club at 7 this morning claiming that he fell asleep over his friend's house. To me if we are living together and claim that I am going to be his wife someday he should act more like it cause to me it seems like he acts like he's single. He says that he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but I'm tired of takin his sh!t. I told him this morning when he came home that if he wasn't ready for the realtionship then I would let him be single, but he stresses that he is In love with me and only me. I'm working on not getting mad at him so much, but I still feel the same deep down.

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· Apr 2005

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DCHoney_0629 wrote:
Focused247 wrote:
let him do what he feels he needs to do at the time (hangin with his boys). u just make sure u do the same. dont stay at home waitin on when HE has times for YOU. go out and do your thing, in time he should wake up and change....if not...let that N*gga gooooo.
Now that is some good adivce without judgement. I give him plenty of space ( at least 16-20 hours out of the day he is out doing his thing or sleep), but the fact is that we live together now and plan for marriage within the next 2 years. I do my thing too, don't get it twisted ( I got out with friends too). I've discussed how I feel with him starting a month ago. Yeah he changes for like 2 days, but then he goes back to hangin with the boys all day...every day from that point on.. Yeah were young ( in our twenties) but this man just is out right disrespectful to our relationship sometimes. Cause in point: he came home from the club at 7 this morning claiming that he fell asleep over his friend's house. To me if we are living together and claim that I am going to be his wife someday he should act more like it cause to me it seems like he acts like he's single. He says that he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but I'm tired of takin his sh!t. I told him this morning when he came home that if he wasn't ready for the realtionship then I would let him be single, but he stresses that he is In love with me and only me. I'm working on not getting mad at him so much, but I still feel the same deep down.

Isn't all advice based on judgement?

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Kinkee · Apr 2005

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Nah I think he needs to balance his time. That way everyone is satisfied.

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· May 2005

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I don't know, I still think that to give good advice, you have to assess the situation and make a judgement about it. The advice you are giving is based on that judgement. You just happen to agree more when someone's judgement is that he just needs time or whatever, as opposed to someone's judgement that he may like dudes.

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