Hi to all who dont know me. Im Chantel.
Anyways I was wondering if there is a such thing as setting too many standards for a potential love interest of yours. I mean my friends will tell you Im picky but I just think I wont settle for less. For example my last boyfriend had the complete package and Im pretty sure in the future could make it in the NFL (he's that good) but he started sellin **** so I had to drop him like he's hot. I just wont allow that in my life. I think the best have to be with the best. Am I wrong. here's what I expect
*leader(i hate followers)
*at least a 8
*funny
*smart (common sense and can hold a conversation)
*has his own style
*has "it" (cant describe just has as amerie can say "that one thing")
*clean
*healthy
*not ignorant
I think thats a realistic list.
Here are my results...Josh, you're single because you don't want to settle
You, more than others, have a fairy tale fantasy of how things should be. Ever since you were a kid, you've probably dreamed of the perfect wedding, coming home to a white picket fence, dog, and 2.2 kids (how does that work, anyway?). When someone asks what you're looking for, you don't skip a beat: You're likely to have a handy checklist that details your perfect partner. Hair and eye color, height, religion, education, career, interests, the list goes on.
While it's great to have standards — Hey, you shouldn't have to settle, after all — there's one slight glitch in your master plan: No one has made the grade in real life — at least not yet. Next time you're out with someone, keep yourself from mentally checking that list, and give love — and others — a chance. That special someone who you've written off may be perfect for you after all...
:lol: I'm mad everybody postin they test results now, but anyway like I said earlier there is no need for both of you to have a jacked up life. You are only going to resent him in the long run, so all you can do is learn from the experience.
:x Nope there is no such thing as having too many standards for urself
because ur only slimming down ur options.........and u might not be able to find ur "perfect companion"........If u know what you want thats wonderful stand ur ground and neva lower ur standards for ne one becuz ur only hurting ur self in tha end........
I think there is a such thing has having to many standards when it comes to guys, at the same time it is ok to want certain things in a guy. The thing about being picky is that sometimes we could be so picky that the little things can turn you away from a good catch. I mean no one is perfect. Sometimes that right person could come along and you may over look them because they don't meet all of your requirements but to me it is all about the chemistry. Over all it is good to have standards just as long as you don't over do it.
I think there is such a thing as having too many standards. Too many stadards = nit pickiness, and if you are too nit picky you may lose out on a great guy because of sumthing really minor or unimportant. Dont get me wrong. Standards are very important, and we should all have them. You shouldnt just " settle " with mediocrity, but if you are too high maintenace that means you are hard to please, which means you will more than likely NEVER meet the " perfect " guy on your standards list. You gotta learn how to bend a little without comprimising too much.
I dont think standards are put high. I think a particular person likes things the way they want them. Everyone is like that. In some ways, standards are based on what exactly ur looking for. If you're jus looking for some1 to "date" and not really have LONG-LASTING relationship with, then no, standards are not going to be that high. But if I feel that I want to actually "be with you", then yes there are some things i want/dont want. For example:
- NO GOLDS PERIOD!
- dont particularly care for dreads
- hold a conversation other than sports,music,etc.
Hell no. There is no such thing. People say the same about me. I have been blessed to know how a lady is supose to be treated. A wonderful man.....my DAD taught me to never settle for less than the best. Now i have a man..he is great. I AM VERY PICKY and we have a good relationship and he meets my everyneed. Hell, i am surprised because for a looonnnggg time i couldn't find one because guys thought i had too much expectations, too picky or anything. There are just things that i have no tolerance for. Girl, ur good..dont lower your standards for anybody.
dont settle for anything less than what you believe you can handle. but dont set unrealistic standards. if you dont set unrealistic standards then there are no such things as to many
example.
" i want him to have bill gates money, treaches body......" you know lil things like that
