females please answer this one 4 me,why is it that we see yall on some online dating services and when we see yall walking around,us fellas try to say whats up,yall straight bust out that "u aint tryin hav no relationship" and "u dont want friends" but yet u be on the internet lookin at other **** in other states looking for love?please explain this to me.i guess its flason season huh!!!
I kinda feel you on this.
There are two topics in play here. The approach and online dating.
The approach:
I get mad play from online, but in person I have a harder time. The thing is: my online persona is the same as my everyday persona. My approach is just the Hi, how are you, normal conversation piece, which often gets me nowhere. All I do is be myself, which is the goal oriented, cordial, funny, hardworkin average guy. Some may say, that is because of "who" you are approaching. I have to disagree because I have approached a myriad of women from numerous backgrounds (church, school, my military sistahs, on the street, in libraries, etc.) No, I am not an **** guy, inside or out. Now when I used to approach like "can I *bleep*" I also got hella play!?! I honestly don't know how to approach a woman anymore. If what comes out of my mouth works, good. If not, oh well--plenty of fish in the sea.
Online Dating:
I hear some saying you get to know the person first before you see them. Problem with that theory is: the majority of people online are not being themselves just like in everyday life. (you meet their "representative" until after the relationship is well on the way) Maybe the inhibitions are not present online. That's why some female will be like nah in person but steadily lookin online. Ionno Someone school me on this one.
I kinda feel you on this.
There are two topics in play here. The approach and online dating.
The approach:
I get mad play from online, but in person I have a harder time. The thing is: my online persona is the same as my everyday persona. My approach is just the Hi, how are you, normal conversation piece, which often gets me nowhere. All I do is be myself, which is the goal oriented, cordial, funny, hardworkin average guy. Some may say, that is because of "who" you are approaching. I have to disagree because I have approached a myriad of women from numerous backgrounds (church, school, my military sistahs, on the street, in libraries, etc.) No, I am not an **** guy, inside or out. Now when I used to approach like "can I *bleep*" I also got hella play!?! I honestly don't know how to approach a woman anymore. If what comes out of my mouth works, good. If not, oh well--plenty of fish in the sea.
Online Dating:
I hear some saying you get to know the person first before you see them. Problem with that theory is: the majority of people online are not being themselves just like in everyday life. (you meet their "representative" until after the relationship is well on the way) Maybe the inhibitions are not present online. That's why some female will be like nah in person but steadily lookin online. Ionno Someone school me on this one.
Online dating shouldn't be your first priority when it comes to spittin at females. It should be a backup. There's too many deceptive **** females on these websites. The best way to meet women is to be out there in the field, face to face with these women. This way you can see how they look in person, peep their hygiene, style of dress, etc. You can't do this on myspace or BP because everyone's the Sh*t on there. People are flawless on there. Also, you can't read a female's nonverbal language on dating sites. 90% of communication is nonverbal. You can only peep out a female's nonverbal language in person. Her body language will tell you if she's feelin you or not.
You missed my point. I said the same thing you just did. The only difference was you went into the verbals and nonverbals. However, I can see and hear who I spit to online. I have a mic and cam. But all that is besides the point. I get out there. As I said in the first paragraph, I meet all kinds of women on the streets, in church, the military, etc. I just get more play online. I am trying to figure out why? If you figure it out, let a brotha know.
Well i dunno maybe shes nervous, just dont want u, playin hard to get , or just strait up dumb as hell prefering to meet someone they have no idea about, who can claim to be one thing but really is another RATHER than starting raw with a person u meet face to face that u can actually have a more tangible out look of what ur working with...
You right. Maybe shes nervous, just dont want me, playin hard to get , or just strait up dumb as hell prefering to meet me online. Maybe it's what I said earlier, the inhibitions are freed online.
Some people are sick of the people around them and if they try some one that s far away they think they would want to be in a serious relationship cuz they out there looking on the internet like like them little do they know is that some of them our just like all the other guys
Some people are sick of the people around them and if they try some one that s far away they think they would want to be in a serious relationship cuz they out there looking on the internet like like them little do they know is that some of them our just like all the other guys
Not saying that's you, but that sounds like the person lookin for a LD (long distance) relationship, really don't want to be bothered or do not want to commit. It's harder to cheat if you live in the same area as your partner.
Far as dating online, I'm not really into that. But I'm not gonna lie, I have talked and even flirted probably a bit too much with guys online. It's not real personal, because you figure the other person is probably lying anywayz. Some people don't take it serious, while others do. So it all depends on the individual. Also it's easier, because you get to know the person before seeing them so you get kind of comfortable with the person; which kinds of eliminates the nervousness.
Most females are stuck up in the fantasy rather than the real reality of things. Because if you look at most people who go looking for love online is just looking for a fantasy I believe someone to tell them what they want to hear, and to be blunt, fall in love with a picture...because in all honest how in the hell do you know who's on the other side of the screen you don't? Alot of people set themselves up with this online dating crap mainly because they are too shy or simply lazy as hell and don't want to put forth effort into finding a real man or woman instead of a cyber one. In reality real "courting" is ****..and it's not gonna come back w/o work from both parties.
