hey i'm planning on pledging aka in college. i really want to, and i'm a legacy. but what if i'm horrible at stepping. do i have to step. i'm going to be honest, i go to an all white prep school, and never really learned how to dance as pathetic as that might sound. i know aka's love to step what will happen if i just can't get it? many people have told me just go to a white school, and don't pledge. but i don't want that. i really want to attend spelman, and become an aka. will i be ridiculed for being a bad stepper. please help.
It is imperative that you do some research. I'm telling you more than I should. Your mother has to be active for 2 years before you pledge and be currently active when you submit an application during MIP. If she isn't currently active with nationals, which means being up to date with dues, you will not be able to pledge legacy. As you mentioned before, your mother doesn't have anything good to say about AKA, so I'm sure she will not want to pay any money out to nationals or reactivate her membership. You know your mother more than I do, and you would have to talk to her about reinstating her membership so you could go as a legacy. Even if she does, she will still have to be active for 2 years before you can submit an legacy application and is not an guarantee that you will make it. I've heard of many that have gotten rejected going legacy. If they don't like you, they will find grounds to reject you, even if you have a 4.0 and have a lot of community service hours.
Anyway, you are going to have to do some research and I have given you a lot of info that you should have researched on your own. You can't just go around hollering that you want to be an AKA because it is going to take more than that. You will have to do all the ground work in researching. You are concerned about the wrong things. Knowing how to step isn't your issue. Your issue is not doing research and knowing the basic stuff you need to know. The reason why they are laughing at you on this HBCU connect forum, is because you are asking questions and saying things you shouldn't be saying. It will be 10 times worse, if you go to some AKA members and say the things that you are saying on the campus you are thinking about pledging at. I have found that AKA's aren't the nicest chicks. Now.. Delta's and Zeta's might be sympathetic, but the AKA's will be very rude to you if you go and approach them talking the way that you are on this HBCU forum. They will take that stuff and run with it! Anyway, just trying to help.
you don't know how much research i've done, or me for that matter. i don't do anything without intense research. i spent three years picking a high school, making out charts, and pro's and con's lists while all my friends were playing video games. i don't do ANYTHING w/o research. i even made a pro's con's list for the guy i'm dating if that gives you an idea of how detail oriented i am. the reason that was my major concern it that no matter what sorority i pledge i know that they step, and it is a simple question. if i obviously know i can't step, and they require it i wouldn't pledge, and that is why i asked. i don't care if these people on these forums laugh at my question, if they are that bored with their own pathetic existance to laugh at the question of a high school student who truly wanted an answer, then they need to get a life. they are the ones who clicked on a clearly labeled topic they didn't feel like answering not me. And i know better than to say any of that on a campus, but that is kind of the point of these forums. To ask questions about your favorite fraternity or sorority, so i asked. It's not like i'm meeting any of you in person. I know AKA's aren't that nice. My mom may not be active, but she was still an AKA and i know how they can be, and if they decide that they don't want me to be a member because i'm not going to lie and pretend not to know things that i know good in well happened then too bad for them. i could care less. it is a social group not my life long goal. Gosh people here need to lighten up they act like sororities and fraternities are the c.i.a. everybody knows what they do. if they want to continue pretending as if nobody knows they can go right ahead, but that still doesn't change my level of knowledge. as far as you telling me too much..all you said was don't act like you want to be an aka. ok well seriously i'm sure i would have figured that ok. its the same as don't act like you like someone too much because then they'll quickly lose interest and move on. plus you'll look desperate. i know that. but again this is a FORUM not real life. Plus i'd be giving them money to be a part of their organization so its not like i'm begging to give out hundreds of dollars a year. if they accept me for who i am then good. if not then i probably wouldn't have liked the organization anyways.
as far as you telling me too much..all you said was don't act like you want to be an aka. ok well seriously i'm sure i would have figured that ok. its the same as don't act like you like someone too much because then they'll quickly lose interest and move on. plus you'll look desperate. i know that. but again this is a FORUM not real life. Plus i'd be giving them money to be a part of their organization so its not like i'm begging to give out hundreds of dollars a year. if they accept me for who i am then good. if not then i probably wouldn't have liked the organization anyways.
What I was referring to, about your lack of research, was the legacy stuff. If you have done your research you would have known those details. When I wanted to pledge I knew the ins and outs of everything. (As you see, I said "wanted" to, because that stuff is behind me and I could careless about pledging. That stuff is for the birds!). I didn't have to come to any forum to ask questions because when you do your own research, you will find most of the answers you need. It isn't all about stepping. They wouldn't see a need, for you to be a part of their org, if all you're thinking about is the superficial stuff such as: stepping, wearing a shirt, or strutting at the club. You are paying out a lot of money just to hop around and dance at a club, and you will be wasting your time and money. If that is all you want to do, you might need to reconsider joining a Greek org. Also, it isn't a hundred dollars a year. It ranges from $800-1000 dollars to join a Greek org. As I mentioned before, it is too expensive just to want to wear a shirt and hop around at a club. You can join a dance team at your school and save alot of money if dancing is all you want to do.
What I was referring to, about your lack of research, was the legacy stuff. If you have done your research you would have known those details. When I wanted to pledge I knew the ins and outs of everything. (As you see, I said "wanted" to, because that stuff is behind me and I could careless about pledging. That stuff is for the birds!). I didn't have to come to any forum to ask questions because when you do your own research, you will find most of the answers you need. It isn't all about stepping. They wouldn't see a need, for you to be a part of their org, if all you're thinking about is the superficial stuff such as: stepping, wearing a shirt, or strutting at the club. You are paying out a lot of money just to hop around and dance at a club, and you will be wasting your time and money. If that is all you want to do, you might need to reconsider joining a Greek org. Also, it isn't a hundred dollars a year. It ranges from $800-1000 dollars to join a Greek org. As I mentioned before, it is too expensive just to want to wear a shirt and hop around at a club. You can join a dance team at your school and save alot of money if dancing is all you want to do.
did you not listen to anything i said. I said HUNRDREDS as in plural.I know it isn't a hundred dollars a year. Its not a cost that bothers me. I don't have financial issues because if i did spelman wouldn't exactly be the right school for me. Furthermore, the whole point of my post is that I DON'T want to step. Did you miss that? It seems that you did because all you seem to think is that I want to step, and want to stroll. The whole point of my post was that I don't want to do that part of a sorority. Also I already knew that your parent had to be an active member for two years, but I thought it was after they pledged not currently. Again this is a forum to ask questions, that is the whole point of the forum. Big deal you did all the research alone. If you have that much time on your hands then go ahead. Considering that I'm in high school I still have plenty of time to do research, and I'm sure I'll have it all done by the time that I pledge. It was just a question, If you felt the question that annoying you shouldn't have answered.
did you not listen to anything i said. I said HUNRDREDS as in plural.I know it isn't a hundred dollars a year. Its not a cost that bothers me. I don't have financial issues because if i did spelman wouldn't exactly be the right school for me. Furthermore, the whole point of my post is that I DON'T want to step. Did you miss that? It seems that you did because all you seem to think is that I want to step, and want to stroll. The whole point of my post was that I don't want to do that part of a sorority. Also I already knew that your parent had to be an active member for two years, but I thought it was after they pledged not currently. Again this is a forum to ask questions, that is the whole point of the forum. Big deal you did all the research alone. If you have that much time on your hands then go ahead. Considering that I'm in high school I still have plenty of time to do research, and I'm sure I'll have it all done by the time that I pledge. It was just a question, If you felt the question that annoying you shouldn't have answered.
Excuse me? I would think at least you could say is "thank you". I am the only one that gave you some very helpful information. In a sense, I saved you from making a fool out of yourself. You would have made some huge mistakes going on a college campus asking the questions you asked and saying the stuff you were saying. Also, the way you worded your first question, on this thread, gave the impression that you were just worried about some superficial stuff. Everyone should know that joining a Greek org isn't all about stepping. Come on now.. use common sense. You didn't have to even ask that question on this forum. Yet, instead you were given helpful information, from me, that didn't have anything to do with your original question and I still haven't heard a "thank you". Anyway,... I'm starting to agree with Afromentality. There are some other important topics than this, and why am I even wasting time giving advice to someone that isn't appreciative. Alright, I'm finish with this thread.
Excuse me? I would think at least you could say is "thank you". I am the only one that gave you some very helpful information. In a sense, I saved you from making a fool out of yourself. You would have made some huge mistakes going on a college campus asking the questions you asked and saying the stuff you were saying. Also, the way you worded your first question, on this thread, gave the impression that you were just worried about some superficial stuff. Everyone should know that joining a Greek org isn't all about stepping. Come on now.. use common sense. You didn't have to even ask that question on this forum. Yet, instead you were given helpful information, from me, that didn't have anything to do with your original question and I still haven't heard a "thank you". Anyway,... I'm starting to agree with Afromentality. There are some other important topics than this, and why am I even wasting time giving advice to someone that isn't appreciative. Alright, I'm finish with this thread.
see where you made your mistake was becoming a complete **** after your first post which was helpful. and btw if you'd have taken the time to actually read the post you would have noticed a thank you in post number 3.
If you go around telling people you want to be an AKA that will leave the door open for hazing and possible rejection. There are some legacy people that get rejected, because they don't like the fact that you "assume" that you are going to make it. I know it sounds crazy but that is how the Greek stuff works at black or white schools. There is a system in the Greek world and you better learn it before you make some huge mistakes. For one thing, you don't ever tell your interest and you have already made that mistake. Anyway, you better be glad for HBCU connect to school you, but why hasn't your mom told you these things if she's an AKA? She should know about discretion. Anyway, take care.
What's worse is she said SHE IS going to be an AKA??!!???!
All I can say is do you shorty... but remember that the internet is not a safe haven... Be mindful of how things can be taken here and in real life. DISCRETION is KEY!!!!!
All I can say is do you shorty... but remember that the internet is not a safe haven... Be mindful of how things can be taken here and in real life. DISCRETION is KEY!!!!!
