Aiight yall.....Its been a minute since I had a more SERIOUS post so....
Peep game, I was listening to the radio while I was gettin ready for work this mornin an the Topic of the day was "Light SKin vs. DarkSkin Black People...is the rumors true about Light SKin having an advantage over more darker tones or is it a myth?"...what chall think about this...an have you experienced anything dealing with the tone of your skin?....DO TELL!!!
My "sister" use to get the "ooooh you cute to be dark" comment.
Personally i prefer my girl to be a lil darker. there are gorgeous women of every shade....cept white, lol...sorry i just can get wit'em.
Someone said "lightskinned girls are stuck on theirselves" kinda true.
I also remember my mother tellin me about the Paper Bag test. My uncle (RIP) she said was the only one of the four of them that could pass it.
I get on all the people i know about how they think lightskinned girls are prettier. I always bring up the India Arie and Alicia Keys thing. most guys go "Hands down, Alicia Keys"......"explain?"....*no answer*
there's preferencial treatment but the world is going to continue to turn, there are guys out there that stil believe in the words of 2Pac reciting the old sayings "the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice. you know the darker the skin is, the deeper the roots."
I think that light skinned still does have an advantage over dark-skinned esp. if you are so light you could pass for Caucasian like some of my family members.
It all stems back to the days of slavery when the separated the slaves into house slaves and field slaves. The house slaves were the light skinned people who either were just born lighter or had some white in them and were able to work by the master instead of working the fields. From that time until now we have been taught to hate each other. One of the main points of slavery was to dismantle the African race and make them as weak as possible, and one way to do that was turn them against each other. It is all very well documented in the "Willy Lynch Letter" I suggest that book to everyone of color.
But yea key point is it still goes on now just not as blatantly and it all stems from slavery.
it goes even further than that...even further than that...
think back to when spain had a full monopoly on African **** trade. Think to the African Diaspora all through out the world...think to england and in the country spain...they had the black townships and the white house holds...blacks worked in the White houses all their lives and the only way to get out was to either die or get pregnant. systematically you know the white spaniards and english **** these servants and sent them out...villages rejecting them and the lighter toned people ended up having to set up a seperate area...not fitting with white, and not fitting with africans...
Aside from the Willie Lynch issue, what do you think about preference from the man's side?
Most of us are aware of the historical role of skin color, as well as many womens' experience that some men prefer light-complexioned women. For discussion sake, what about the other way around?
I've found that most Black women nowadays prefer dark-complexioned men, so I can relate to the frustration that many dark-skinned females are going through. Has anyone else had experience with this? Holla!
Aside from the Willie Lynch issue, what do you think about preference from the man's side?
Most of us are aware of the historical role of skin color, as well as many womens' experience that some men prefer light-complexioned women. For discussion sake, what about the other way around?
I've found that most Black women nowadays prefer dark-complexioned men, so I can relate to the frustration that many dark-skinned females are going through. Has anyone else had experience with this? Holla!
I haven't noticed a major effect in terms of lifestyle, although it has come up in discussion. Being light-complexioned, I can't say that I have noticed any variance in treatment or opportunity over other Blacks, either from Blacks or Whites. If there is, it is usually attributable to some other aspect of behavior. There is the usual experience of people not considering you "Black enough" which is an entirely different topic.
I actually think that light-complexioned Black men have somewhat of a disadvantage over dark-complexioned Black men at times. I can't speak from a woman's perspective, though. Holla!
Cot damn, I like this brotha. We need to talk sometime or somethin... He hit it on the head. I think that the only reason a light skinned person would have an advantage in life is because of self consciousness of darker skinned people. Therefore, its all in your head! What's more, I'd actually like nothing more than to have a
caramel skinned
:twisted:
or
chocolate skinned
:twisted:
princess at my side...
But that's besides the point... In the 20th century, we have to get it out of our heads that one colour is inferior to the other. If you walk into a place with the confidence that you can do the job (if you actually can to the job), or that you can get the guy, then chances are your skin tone will have nothing to do with it, as far as things are concerned with black people.
well from my point of view...i am brown skin and although my parents are beautiful dark people, 'peacilly my daddy who i adore i almost ALWAYS go for light skin guys... i never would say id only date them or that i purposely just choose them but they are always the ones i date and am attracted to...i dunno why. but i do like any shade if they are attractive as ive said. i guess skin tones for sum people just fit in as a peference like height or hair length.
sometime people compliment me and say your a pretty dark skinned girl , like its ver y rare fot there to be a pretty dark skinned girl.
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Yeah, I definitely feel you on this one. Or boys will be like, "Yeah, you black, but you got nice hair." WTF? First, why does hair matter so much to Black people? I'm about to cut it all off, because it should not matter to me either. Second, WTF do you mean, "YOU BLACK?" Aren't we all?... I'm sorry for cursing, but it took me a long time to get comfortable in my skin. Kids are ruthless, lol... and they made it highly difficult to be a little black girl. To all the dark-skinned girls out there, don't turn into Pecola Breedlove clones.... check out Toni Morrison if you have no idea what I'm talking about.
The amount of confidence, ambition, and determination you have all determine how far you will go in life...
I dont think light-skinned blacks have an advantage over darkskinned blacks because we are all living in the same hoods, standin in the same unemployment lines, and we were all hanged on the same trees...
White people see anyone who is not white as a minority (and to many whites being a minority in still synonymous with being inferior) and I dont think they sit behind desks and hire light-skinned blacks over dark-skinned blacks.... that's just ludicrous.
Now as a "light-skindeded," African-american female with long hair... It seems that all my life I have had to prove that I was not stuck up (Im one of the most down-to-earth, outspoken, and outgoing people u will meet). I mean people meet you and already label you as conceited or whatever.
I have met hella dark-skinned girls with bad, stuck-up **** attitudes but they barely ever get called out. When your light-skinned its like u gotta prove you're hard and sh*t which used to be annoying when I was younger...
Or when dudes like you its because "She lightskinned with long hair" not because I am confident, intelligent, and/or well-grounded...
In the North, I dont see this as much of an issue as it is down South.
But Ion worry about it, I jus gon dust ma shoulders off... keep doin what Im doin.... And if light-skinned girls "go outta style" like light-skinned brothers supposedly did.... Who in hell cares, b/c I dont want anybody who sees complexions as something that can go in and out of style to say a damn thing to me. Because to be blunt about it.... THA SH*T IS STUPID!
Now some of yall as bad as tha people who say, "I need a light bright man/woman wit good hair so ma baby's will be pretty..." It's all shallow...
I had a roommate at the Univ. of Michigan who was Nigerian. For four weeks, I had to hear this broad complain about how she only wanted to marry another Nigerian b/c she didnt want her child to be polluted by African-american blood... She told me I had too many European features, and that I was closer to white than black... She said ma blood was polluted with that of the white man's and that pretty soon there will be no more "true" black people, b/c of people like my grandparents...
Now I tried ma best not to snap on this girl... I didnt tell her exactly how I felt about her, b/c I realized she was insecure and nothing I could have said to her would get through her thick skull...
:twisted:
or
chocolate skinned
:twisted:
princess at my side...
But that's besides the point... In the 20th century, we have to get it out of our heads that one colour is inferior to the other. If you walk into a place with the confidence that you can do the job (if you actually can to the job), or that you can get the guy, then chances are your skin tone will have nothing to do with it, as far as things are concerned with black people.
