I just got to put this one out there....
Do you believe in Marriage Yes or No... and why or why not.
I just got to say that i don't because of the simple fact that i don't think that i have to prove to anyone that i love my "soulmate"... i think it's a wate of time and money.... i think that if you love someone, you can live together forever just like you were married... just without the whole wedding costing you a fortune...
that's just me but halla back with what you think about marriage :wink:
I think is beautiful when its real, when two people are really in love and can overcome their problems, and stay together until death does them apart. On the other hand, marraige doesn't always work out like that. If I do get married I wanna be in love forever like people grandparents are, and still love my husband. But eveything happens for a reason, so if it don't work, it don't. Some people try, or stay in it for the kids. Thats just me, but I don't know if I really want to get married!?!?!? The two generations above me in my family marriages didn't work, I don't wanna be like them.
I think is beautiful when its real, when two people are really in love and can overcome their problems, and stay together until death does them apart. On the other hand, marraige doesn't always work out like that. If I do get married I wanna be in love forever like people grandparents are, and still love my husband. But eveything happens for a reason, so if it don't work, it don't. Some people try, or stay in it for the kids. Thats just me, but I don't know if I really want to get married!?!?!? The two generations above me in my family marriages didn't work, I don't wanna be like them.
I think is beautiful when its real, when two people are really in love and can overcome their problems, and stay together until death does them apart.
Yep. I'm still surprised at how long my parent's marriage lasted (28 yrs.). I mean, my dad was a raging alchoholic, and even though my mom thought it to be a huge mistake to marry him, she remained by his side until his death (RIP dad ).
I completely disagree with you. First I was raised that you dont live with someone unless yall are married. Personally, I just think that having a live in boyfriend and some kids isnt the most respectable thing and what kind of example is that for your kids. But thats just how I feel. And you say its a waste of money to get married but you can easily go to Justice of the Peace and and get married at court and that costs like nothing. I would know cause my parents did it. My mom didnt wanna waste her money on a wedding which is fine, but she wasnt gonna live with no man and he not be her husband. I want a husband and then a child....I dont want no live in boyfriend and he be my babby daddy....HELL NO. I personnally want a huge wedding cause thats just my own personal preference, but I undersatnd that some people feel its not worth the money which is cool. But I just think its a cop out to say that you dont wanna get married cause of the cost when u can easily get it done for free at the Court. If you just want a live in boyfriend then say that, but to say cause it costs too much is just Bullsh*t to me.
[quote = CaliPrincess]^^^^^^^^^^Girl, I couldn't have said it better myself. Shackin' up is wrong and there is no TRUE commitment in that situation, cuz' someone could easily say, "We're not Married," "You're not my husband/wife." Also, what kind of example would that be??? Not a good one, I'll say that much.........
[quote = LadyLike04] you see situations with people about adultry and they're married... so whats a ring going to do? ... fashion... to brag to other people that you have someone and fool yourself that your other-half is "legit"... to that i would say love is about trust... and if you don't love your other-half (married or not)... there is no trust... so therefore what would you be with that person for :?: ... if you think that a ring is going to stop you other-half from doing someone else... well... what can i say :roll: ... if your other-half want to fool around with someone else (married or not) they are going to do it...
I still think your missing the point.....OBVIOUSLY, if somebody is gonna be unfaithful, they are gonna do it regardless of whether they are married or not. But you gotta remember we are all human and fall short. Sometimes, but not in all situations a spouse may cheat ( as creatures of this world we get tempted easily, and do things that we know we shouldnt so, but we pay for the consequencesof our actions through different ways ).....but if God put those two people to be together HE will work out it out for them. Marriage is something sacred that God created. When two people marry they are pledging their lives to each other and God, in HOLY MATRIMONY, not " shacking up. " This is because that is what God ordained in the Bible. I dont know how you feel about God or Christianity, but I have many of my viewpoints cause I am coming from a Christian background and what the Bible says about marriage.
Marriage??...it's like I would like to get married then again I'm like hell na. After like 10 years of wedlock I'mma get tired of her ****. And females nag too much for me. I can't stand when my momma is naggin to me so I know I couldn't stand my wife's naggin. But then I get second thoughts like yea I'll get married. I might get tired of f*ckin hoes and want somethin that's real.
Marriage??...it's like I would like to get married then again I'm like hell na. After like 10 years of wedlock I'mma get tired of her ****. And females nag too much for me. I can't stand when my momma is naggin to me so I know I couldn't stand my wife's naggin. But then I get second thoughts like yea I'll get married. I might get tired of f*ckin hoes and want somethin that's real.
I think is beautiful when its real, when two people are really in love and can overcome their problems, and stay together until death does them apart. On the other hand, marraige doesn't always work out like that. If I do get married I wanna be in love forever like people grandparents are, and still love my husband. But eveything happens for a reason, so if it don't work, it don't. Some people try, or stay in it for the kids. Thats just me, but I don't know if I really want to get married!?!?!? The two generations above me in my family marriages didn't work, I don't wanna be like them.
I completely disagree with you. First I was raised that you dont live with someone unless yall are married. Personally, I just think that having a live in boyfriend and some kids isnt the most respectable thing and what kind of example is that for your kids. But thats just how I feel. And you say its a waste of money to get married but you can easily go to Justice of the Peace and and get married at court and that costs like nothing. I would know cause my parents did it. My mom didnt wanna waste her money on a wedding which is fine, but she wasnt gonna live with no man and he not be her husband. I want a husband and then a child....I dont want no live in boyfriend and he be my babby daddy....HELL NO. I personnally want a huge wedding cause thats just my own personal preference, but I undersatnd that some people feel its not worth the money which is cool. But I just think its a cop out to say that you dont wanna get married cause of the cost when u can easily get it done for free at the Court. If you just want a live in boyfriend then say that, but to say cause it costs too much is just Bullsh*t to me.
[quote = CaliPrincess]^^^^^^^^^^Girl, I couldn't have said it better myself. Shackin' up is wrong and there is no TRUE commitment in that situation, cuz' someone could easily say, "We're not Married," "You're not my husband/wife." Also, what kind of example would that be??? Not a good one, I'll say that much.........
[quote = LadyLike04] you see situations with people about adultry and they're married... so whats a ring going to do? ... fashion... to brag to other people that you have someone and fool yourself that your other-half is "legit"... to that i would say love is about trust... and if you don't love your other-half (married or not)... there is no trust... so therefore what would you be with that person for :?: ... if you think that a ring is going to stop you other-half from doing someone else... well... what can i say :roll: ... if your other-half want to fool around with someone else (married or not) they are going to do it...
I still think your missing the point.....OBVIOUSLY, if somebody is gonna be unfaithful, they are gonna do it regardless of whether they are married or not. But you gotta remember we are all human and fall short. Sometimes, but not in all situations a spouse may cheat ( as creatures of this world we get tempted easily, and do things that we know we shouldnt so, but we pay for the consequencesof our actions through different ways ).....but if God put those two people to be together HE will work out it out for them. Marriage is something sacred that God created. When two people marry they are pledging their lives to each other and God, in HOLY MATRIMONY, not " shacking up. " This is because that is what God ordained in the Bible. I dont know how you feel about God or Christianity, but I have many of my viewpoints cause I am coming from a Christian background and what the Bible says about marriage.
yeah... it is pretty OBVIOUS that i am missing the point :!: (don't hate me... i'm just a little slow on this) that's why i posted this in the first place... i just don't get it... at all. why get married when you don't have to :?: i guess the point is just not clear to me... yes i believe in the Bible and God and Christianity... but there some things that i just don't get... and marriage is one of them. Why get married... what is the point... your going to do the same thing if your not married but still in a commitment... it's basically the same thing... depending on how mature you are not to cheat yourself or your other-half... well if no one can explain... that's ok... i'll get it :idea: one day... maybe :? :| :wink:
I think is beautiful when its real, when two people are really in love and can overcome their problems, and stay together until death does them apart. On the other hand, marraige doesn't always work out like that. If I do get married I wanna be in love forever like people grandparents are, and still love my husband. But eveything happens for a reason, so if it don't work, it don't. Some people try, or stay in it for the kids. Thats just me, but I don't know if I really want to get married!?!?!? The two generations above me in my family marriages didn't work, I don't wanna be like them.
I believe in marriage to a certain extent... Some people just do it because they think they're in love, or because they don't want to fornicate (church folks know what I'm talkin bout)... Marriage is the time that you are going to become one with your mate and only your mate for the rest of your life before God. It wouldn't be a waste of time and money if people would know what they are really getting into.. Infactuation is being too mixed up with love!
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