Ladies Im growing out my relaxer (almost there) and it is the best thing possible for your hair. I knows relaxing give managibility.....but trust it is so good to be natural
Im a natural chic myself, I didnt get my first relaxer until I was 12 then I stopped in December of last year then cut it all off in February, & it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Seriously though, if people knew what was in relaxers, they would definitely stop relaxing. Right now I got some cute comb coils, theres almost no maintenance. Going Natural is definitely a commitment, its not something that u could just jump up and do one day, its more of a mental thing, the easiest part is growing out your hair or cutting it off, the hard part is unconditioning your mind from that relaxed mentality. But anyway, I'd choose my natural hair over relaxed hair anyday.
yeah the hard part is the mentality, you dont even know how many nights at howard I would be depressed or even almost to tears because i cut my hair, and it did kinda hurt my first year at HU...i pulled through though stronger than ever but i think the black community in general puts way too much focus on hair that it's ridiculous....i mean black guys prefer the long straight look but do they realize ummm you really cant be touching and pulling your fingers in a real black woman's hair after she's had it "did" lol....not after all those hours sitting in the salon, hell naw :lol: ...and if ya do see the hair its most likely weave...and then they wanna sit and complain that "its not real"...what the f**k ever lol :roll:
I let ma baby run his fingers thru ma hair...lol I got it done for him!
Im a natural chic myself, I didnt get my first relaxer until I was 12 then I stopped in December of last year then cut it all off in February, & it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Seriously though, if people knew what was in relaxers, they would definitely stop relaxing. Right now I got some cute comb coils, theres almost no maintenance. Going Natural is definitely a commitment, its not something that u could just jump up and do one day, its more of a mental thing, the easiest part is growing out your hair or cutting it off, the hard part is unconditioning your mind from that relaxed mentality. But anyway, I'd choose my natural hair over relaxed hair anyday.
yeah the hard part is the mentality, you dont even know how many nights at howard I would be depressed or even almost to tears because i cut my hair, and it did kinda hurt my first year at HU...i pulled through though stronger than ever but i think the black community in general puts way too much focus on hair that it's ridiculous....i mean black guys prefer the long straight look but do they realize ummm you really cant be touching and pulling your fingers in a real black woman's hair after she's had it "did" lol....not after all those hours sitting in the salon, hell naw :lol: ...and if ya do see the hair its most likely weave...and then they wanna sit and complain that "its not real"...what the f**k ever lol :roll:
^^^ I concur with the emphasis on straight long hair. Its like u dont belong if u dont have hair till ya shoulders. I even watch at school, its like a girl who has long hair gets hated on by short hair girls....so sad :cry:
^^^ me neither.
I'm totally against perming young kids hair...first off perming your hair (well healthy hair in general) takes alot of maintenance. When you're young u usually just throw ur hair in a pony tail and keep it moving which breaks off your hair in the back. I'm tired of seeing little kids with the little pony tails and breakage all around...that's not cute. I think I would let me child go natural until they are responsible enough to take care of it themselves. I think I got a perm when I was 9...then around 6 grade I stopped going to the hair dresser and basically I didn't know how to treat my hair properly on my own...so my hair wasn't doing too well. Then about 11th grade on out I decided I was going to take better care of my hair. Wash it once a week....stop using the curling iron all the time...condition...sit under the dryer. Only let the salon do my perm every 4-6 weeks with a trim. Since then I've felt a big difference and my hair continuously is growing. I have permed hair and my hair is healthy and grows. I think no matter which way you go the key is proper treatment of your hair.
but then another thing that made me go natural was when i had to do a science project with my friend and we found out relaxers had the some of the same chemicals from drano and nair, just in a less concentrated form....i couldnt do it anymore.. i mean i didnt see any way it could be healthy ....and i didnt see my white friends doing such drastic things to their hair so i was like 'f**k it' if i dont look beautiful at least ill be healthier damnit lol..
cosigns. lol. my reasons for going natural (i've been wanting to share this with more people for awhile so bear with me ) are:
:arrow: i'm tired of feeling like i'm not beautiful when my hair is not relaxed which is stupid because i'm not an **** person (i'll have pics as soon as i get my hands on a scanner)
:arrow: i hate the process: it's hot, tiring, and sometimes painful
:arrow: i think there's a twisted sense of what beauty is as it relates to Black women and i just can't keep acting like i don't see it by relaxing my hair
:arrow: and finally what HU-Queen just informed me about those chemicals :lol:
I have to co-sign, I definately agree with HU_Q about those chemicals, I always wondered about that.
Im a natural chic myself, I didnt get my first relaxer until I was 12 then I stopped in December of last year then cut it all off in February, & it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Seriously though, if people knew what was in relaxers, they would definitely stop relaxing. Right now I got some cute comb coils, theres almost no maintenance. Going Natural is definitely a commitment, its not something that u could just jump up and do one day, its more of a mental thing, the easiest part is growing out your hair or cutting it off, the hard part is unconditioning your mind from that relaxed mentality. But anyway, I'd choose my natural hair over relaxed hair anyday.
yeah the hard part is the mentality, you dont even know how many nights at howard I would be depressed or even almost to tears because i cut my hair, and it did kinda hurt my first year at HU...i pulled through though stronger than ever but i think the black community in general puts way too much focus on hair that it's ridiculous....i mean black guys prefer the long straight look but do they realize ummm you really cant be touching and pulling your fingers in a real black woman's hair after she's had it "did" lol....not after all those hours sitting in the salon, hell naw :lol: ...and if ya do see the hair its most likely weave...and then they wanna sit and complain that "its not real"...what the f**k ever lol :roll:
Ladies, the fustration there is when you deal with that if you don't have a relaxer mentality!! I know it first hand. I had people at my job (you know how) just so intrigued by MY hair. Then this guy I was cool with was like don't cut your hair (Blah blah BLAh BLaH) because a women look more soft with her hair long and (yatta yatta yatta!) Then after I cut my off before I got the twists I had to deal with the feels that I looked like a boy, and man the looks I got. That's when I made sure to wear earrings, lipstick, and twists. After that experience, I realized I don't give a hoot what people think of my hair. I love it, I get compliments on it all of the time and I'm happy with my choice.
I wanted to go natural because I'm gonna be in the soutth for school....but I love my wrap too much. As a matter of fact I'm gonna put my perm in tonight. I would like to go natural one day in the future....maybe get some dreds...but now I can't do it.
we also need to get past this myth that "ALL black girls hair dont grow fast enough"...or " ALL black hair stops growing when its at a certain length"...cause thats a common reason why alot of black women are hesitant to cut off their hair EVEN when its damaged but yet "long"...like even a girl in my hall thought like that when i had my hair super short and i was surprised that black people still think like that...and the main ones spreading this myth are the ones whose hair is damaged beyond belief...NO WONDER IT DOesnt GROW lol...man if its damaged and long, i mean comeon you cant kid noone just let go, ITS JUST HAIR!
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:arrow: i'm tired of feeling like i'm not beautiful when my hair is not relaxed which is stupid because i'm not an **** person (i'll have pics as soon as i get my hands on a scanner)
:arrow: i hate the process: it's hot, tiring, and sometimes painful
:arrow: i think there's a twisted sense of what beauty is as it relates to Black women and i just can't keep acting like i don't see it by relaxing my hair
:arrow: and finally what HU-Queen just informed me about those chemicals :lol:
