GROW OUT YOUR RELAXER

HU-Queen wrote:

EclecticLady wrote:

Im a natural chic myself, I didnt get my first relaxer until I was 12 then I stopped in December of last year then cut it all off in February, & it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Seriously though, if people knew what was in relaxers, they would definitely stop relaxing. Right now I got some cute comb coils, theres almost no maintenance. Going Natural is definitely a commitment, its not something that u could just jump up and do one day, its more of a mental thing, the easiest part is growing out your hair or cutting it off, the hard part is unconditioning your mind from that relaxed mentality. But anyway, I'd choose my natural hair over relaxed hair anyday.

yeah the hard part is the mentality, you dont even know how many nights at howard I would be depressed or even almost to tears because i cut my hair, and it did kinda hurt my first year at HU...i pulled through though stronger than ever but i think the black community in general puts way too much focus on hair that it's ridiculous....i mean black guys prefer the long straight look but do they realize ummm you really cant be touching and pulling your fingers in a real black woman's hair after she's had it "did" lol....not after all those hours sitting in the salon, hell naw :lol: ...and if ya do see the hair its most likely weave...and then they wanna sit and complain that "its not real"...what the f**k ever lol :roll:

prettypoet8804 wrote:

HU-Queen wrote:

but then another thing that made me go natural was when i had to do a science project with my friend and we found out relaxers had the some of the same chemicals from drano and nair, just in a less concentrated form....i couldnt do it anymore.. i mean i didnt see any way it could be healthy ....and i didnt see my white friends doing such drastic things to their hair so i was like 'f**k it' if i dont look beautiful at least ill be healthier damnit lol..

cosigns. lol. my reasons for going natural (i've been wanting to share this with more people for awhile so bear with me ) are: :arrow: i'm tired of feeling like i'm not beautiful when my hair is not relaxed which is stupid because i'm not an **** person (i'll have pics as soon as i get my hands on a scanner) :arrow: i hate the process: it's hot, tiring, and sometimes painful :arrow: i think there's a twisted sense of what beauty is as it relates to Black women and i just can't keep acting like i don't see it by relaxing my hair :arrow: and finally what HU-Queen just informed me about those chemicals :lol:

HU-Queen wrote:

EclecticLady wrote:

Im a natural chic myself, I didnt get my first relaxer until I was 12 then I stopped in December of last year then cut it all off in February, & it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Seriously though, if people knew what was in relaxers, they would definitely stop relaxing. Right now I got some cute comb coils, theres almost no maintenance. Going Natural is definitely a commitment, its not something that u could just jump up and do one day, its more of a mental thing, the easiest part is growing out your hair or cutting it off, the hard part is unconditioning your mind from that relaxed mentality. But anyway, I'd choose my natural hair over relaxed hair anyday.

yeah the hard part is the mentality, you dont even know how many nights at howard I would be depressed or even almost to tears because i cut my hair, and it did kinda hurt my first year at HU...i pulled through though stronger than ever but i think the black community in general puts way too much focus on hair that it's ridiculous....i mean black guys prefer the long straight look but do they realize ummm you really cant be touching and pulling your fingers in a real black woman's hair after she's had it "did" lol....not after all those hours sitting in the salon, hell naw :lol: ...and if ya do see the hair its most likely weave...and then they wanna sit and complain that "its not real"...what the f**k ever lol :roll: