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27 replies · 9889 views · Started by xavierette · Aug 2005
xavierette
That men will cause u the most pain in life. My question to the ladies is was there ever a man in your life that caused u stress and/or heartache to the point where u felt emotionally sick ? It could be a father or boyfriend, but share your stories
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saxxxmepoetically · Nov 2005
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long story short.... my father andn i have been beefing for as long as i can remember... and its all because he thought that i was going to be like my older sister... pregnant and not graduating from high school. so by my father i have been called every disrespectful name by my father in the book... so needless to say that really cause some damage. my ex boyfriend... called me fat more times then he said i was pretty... talk about ruining someones confidence.. i still believe that im fat because of him... and it doesnt matter what anyone else says to me about my weight... me being fat is something that will always be in my head...(but im not sticking my finger down my throat or starving myself)
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· Mar 2006
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DEEliciouS wrote:
*NiseyInWonderland* wrote:
DEEliciouS wrote:
I wasnt eatin-wasnt sleepin-cryin all the time
..this is exactly what Im going through right now. I just ended a two and a half yr relationship with someone who meant everything to me..and maybe that was my mistake..loving him so much..but since then I've been up all night..crying every ten minutes and eating is just something that I just dont feel like doing....like u said getting ur heart broken is no joke at all .....*sigh* I still love him so much
Girl i know how u feel completely. Me and my ex were together for a year and some change-so our break up was DEVASTATING to me....i felt like a part of me died or somethin. And even thru all this-i do still love him..but im over him. Trust me-i know it seems like sh!t wont ever get better...but with time and patience it will. If i made it-u can make it. Keep ya head up. :-)
me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and about three months now. i love him to death, if he needs me i'm always there and i would do just about anything for him but trust me when I say that i understand how all of ya feel. the sh!t dont feel nice at all..that emotionally drained feeling. it makes it 100s times worse when they think you have no reason to feel that way and you try so hard to make them understand but all they do is get mad. that just makes the situation even harder to overcome. if little problems dont get fixed they just get bigger all b/c one doesnt want to talk rationally and work it out. thats one thing that causes alot of break ups: lack of GOOD/POSITIVE communication and that is not understood by some. its the kind of thing that makes you not want to share anything with them sometimes...
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*~*TAK3M3AZIAM*~* · Mar 2006
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Well I guess the first male to disappoint me was definetely my daddy(I use this term very loosely) He was never able to tell me the things I needed to hear growing up in the situation that we were in. Instead of positivity in our house, there was always negativity. Instead of being congratulated for exceptional grades and test scores, I was ridiculed for not having enough "common sense". It's like no matter what I did, it just was never good enough. I was either stupid, dumb, etc. I know it had A LOT to do with the fact that I reminded him so much of my mother, but damn...It still hurts to think about all that could've been between us and I still cry sometimes (like now) I mean, it hurts cuz I know sometimes ppl don't even get the opportunity to meet or be with their dad, and here I am having so many feelings of dislike towards mine. :sad: The 2nd male to disappoint me was my "first love"...No good...lied...cheated(more than once)...used that tired **** Baby Boy line, "I lie to you cuz I love you, to protect your feelings"...need I say more? Because of him, my daddy, and another guy, I have an emotional wall permanantly in place.
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*~*TAK3M3AZIAM*~* · Mar 2006
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It will...Trust and Believe...just keep ya head up... :-)
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giniacuty_757 · Mar 2006
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*~Mz Diva~* wrote:
It will...Trust and Believe...just keep ya head up... :-)
Yea thats true but EVERYONE HAS A STORY TO TELL I've had my heart broken three years ago when my boyfriend Ex now was **** in in his hometown of New Orleans for a visit and ended up **** I dont know if it was the fact he was gone or if it was be finding out he died. I never had no one break up with me but I did have someone leave me and yeah it does hurt but pain is apart of life if we didnt grieve we wouldnt have happiness joy wouldnt be so special if it wasnt for pain the flesh as we all know is weak. It took me sometime to get over him and move on and I did and i moved on to an abusive and controlling **** and now a good one. ONce aGAIN everyone has a story to tell some are more difficult than others. I'm like Nasty Nas illmatic tack 9 I represent represent Va all day!
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SuperFly · Mar 2006
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Sadly, in four years of school, I've only been with one girl who's father has been a part of her life entirely. I only have one friend out of many that proudly say "I have a father." It's horrible to hear girls say that they don't trust men because of their father. It takes a whole lot of work to be with someone who's been hurt or abandoned by someone who's supposed to be the backbone of their life. I can't even count the number of times that I've had to stay on the phone til' 3am or have someone cry on my shoulders because of something that someone's sorry **** father has done. Even to this day I don't know what to say, I don't know what to gather when someone in that situation comes to me for comfort. The whole idea is foreign to me. My parents have been together for almost 25 years and they've provided a life for me that most people in the United States don't have let alone black folk. What irks me the most is when you actually meet the father who's done the damage (yeah... I get duped into meeting parents since I'm generally the only guy that they feel safe introducing them to). Your insides want to hit him with a 2x4 for permanently gashing someone that you love and care about. But all you can do is smile and shake his hand - or at least me anyway. I say all that to ask ask: What is it that you want from someone when you come to them to feel better? I don't know what to say. I don't know what to do. It seems like I've lost control when someone comes to me broken like that and I DON'T like being helpless. So what do I do besides listen?
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giniacuty_757 · Mar 2006
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SuperFly wrote:
Sadly, in four years of school, I've only been with one girl who's father has been a part of her life entirely. I only have one friend out of many that proudly say "I have a father." It's horrible to hear girls say that they don't trust men because of their father. It takes a whole lot of work to be with someone who's been hurt or abandoned by someone who's supposed to be the backbone of their life. I can't even count the number of times that I've had to stay on the phone til' 3am or have someone cry on my shoulders because of something that someone's sorry **** father has done. Even to this day I don't know what to say, I don't know what to gather when someone in that situation comes to me for comfort. The whole idea is foreign to me. My parents have been together for almost 25 years and they've provided a life for me that most people in the United States don't have let alone black folk. What irks me the most is when you actually meet the father who's done the damage (yeah... I get duped into meeting parents since I'm generally the only guy that they feel safe introducing them to). Your insides want to hit him with a 2x4 for permanently gashing someone that you love and care about. But all you can do is smile and shake his hand - or at least me anyway. I say all that to ask ask: What is it that you want from someone when you come to them to feel better? I don't know what to say. I don't know what to do. It seems like I've lost control when someone comes to me broken like that and I DON'T like being helpless. So what do I do besides listen?
^^ Biggups 2 u for standing ground for those in need awl thats so sweet I grew up with both my mother and father Im daddy's little girl and a mommies sweetie but I hate when my parents tell me how to run my life thats the only thing I hate about my parents for the most part hello im grown!! they aint gone neva understand that part I guess and some fathers are good and some are snakes I hate those evil disgusting father types but its GOOD that u listen to other peoples issues REAL GOOD!
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