This is how it goes
the situation: my first year at my HBCU i hated it, so i decided to transfer....that didn't exactly work out to my advantage, so i decided to enroll back at my former school.....
problem: how the hell do i go back to a school, which i hated and laughed at, as i left...
i mean, im a 20 year old young man with integrity, dignity, and self respect....how pathetic looking is it for me to crawl back to the place i loathed/despised now knowing that it was a dumb decision for me to even leave???? (im also still gonna be considered a sophomore for some reason :cry: )
i mean, am i suppose to blend in like i never left?
the friend situation is kinda shaky 2, since i basically lost contact with most of the n!ggaz i chilled with
the whole thing just feels weird to me, and i could use some friendly advice, or at least some sort of empathy....
holla at me
p.s. im kinda giving this specific HBCU its right to anonymity .....should that matter tho
Your situation makes me think of a popular song by Joni Mitchell.
" You dont know what you've got til its gone. "
Basically I used that lyric because u hated ur HBCU and talked bad about it when u left, but once u did and went elsewhere u hated that place more...And now u can atleast kinda appreciate your HBCU, cause the situation coulda been worse. As far as the old friendships at that HBCU....hopefully you didnt burn any bridges with those people and they are willing to befriend and accept you. This is just a good lesson in DONT BE SO QUICK TO TALK SH*T.
i loved the school i ended up transferring to, i just did really bad gradewise.....i really dont even care anymore about what other people may or may not think of me.
I know exactly what ur goin through. I'm doing the exact same thing except in high school. I went to my school for two years and I ended up despising it. When I transfered to the school in my district I decided I didnt want to be there either. Not that I hated it but because I was so used to my other school and they ay they ran things that I couldnt accept the differences of my new school. Anyways, I'm back to my original high school this year and I'm facing the same situation with my old friends as well.
If this year is just as terrible as your first year just think of how you got through it the first time and just try to stick with it. If you just take it one step at a time it will all be over before you know it. Whatever you do, dont let a terrible situation get in the way of your happiness cuz if you concentrate too much on the bad stuff you'll miss out on all the good stuff no matter how little there may be. One last thing, never give up no matter how bad it gets. You never really lose until you quit trying.
I think the boi is talking about the best school in the world HAMPTON. But I think that you should do whats best for you, and in the end everything will fall into place. Dont care about what others think. In other words follow your heart dawg.
I understand completely how you felt your first year. My first year, I hated my school and like you I decided to transfer but unlike you I transferred to another HBCU. When I got to my new school I realized the problems that plagued me at my previous school were problems that I was expriencing at my new school. What changed for me was my interaction and involvement with my institution. At my current school, where I have been for the last three years, I have become involved on and off campus through several organizations and because of this investment of time and efforts, I have developed a deep love and respect not to mention spiritual connection to my school. I also was penalized for my transfer and will have to stay an extra semester but it was all worth it. You shouldn't feel bad for your decision to want transfer because if you had never transferred you would have never known whether the grasss was greener on the other side.
There's no problem in transfering to another/back to school, if its PWI or HBCU, you as a person have to see which one fits you. First year of college could be fun **** hell or wack, it's what'cha make it!!!!!! Don't never try too hard, you're in it for a degree but you also need a social life.
the con's in transfer is always starting over and lossing them credits, but the pros, you meant new people and see who you are as a person/student, those are my two cents!!!!!!!!!!!
