I ALWAYS hear girls saying that they have more guy friends than girls. Everytime I hear it, I can't help but to think, (even 4 a split second) that she's giving it up to alot of guys,etc. Why do girls not have closer relationships with their own gender? more importantly, why do we want to know that you have more males in your life than females??
For a long time I did not have any female friends because they can be so petty at times. A friend is suppose to be someone who uplifts when you need lifting and check you when your out of order. and sometimes with females it seems like their hatin or trying to knock you from excelling. It was when I went to college, that I tried to even bother with female friendships, and in most cases I had to brake tides. only a selected few are my homies, but most girls are just to damn catty. Furthermore, I was always looked at as the little sister so it was never a problem chllin with ****. I was raise with class, so I was not sleeping with all of them. Also, I never carried myself like a **** so I never had to worry about people thinking that I was sleeping with the whole crew. :wink:
It is like this, I feel that it is nothing wrong with having more male friends than female if you choose to do that than that is your choice. Just because a person says they have more male friends than females does not mean they do not like talking to females as a whole it's just means they get along more. Like I said I personally have more male friends and I just get along with them more but I also have my circle of female friends too. In many cases though for what ever reason sometimes it is harder to talk to some females because in reality they do change up on you. All I know is every person is different and we experience different things and it doesn't mean that something is wrong with a person just because they choose to talk to guys more than girls.
I chose to hang out with guys because no matter how close you are to a female they still see you as competition. They don't seem to understand that I don't want they man, What they wearing is cool for them but I don't want to steal they style and that a friend that would gossip about them behind they back ain't a real friend. Guys kinda accept things at face value and keep movin'. I've never been with a group of guys and they start talkin' about some "nicca I can't stand yo fake self. you really think you fine or somethin'?" Guys be like "You wanna hang. A'ight that's cool." That stuff start from when you little. All the cliques and mess. Girls be like "You can't be my friend and her friend at the same time." Guys be tryin' to find more people so they can football or something. It's just less complicated with guys.
I... you can usually tell who's real and who's not after a couple of conversations. In my experiences, it's kind of hard to get hurt by a female...
I pretty much agree, surround urself w/ females u can trust n there won't be ne problems...if u around 'shady' females, don't be surprised when u get burnt, you already knew what was go'n down. Personally I have more girl friends than guy friends b/c I relate to them on a different level, I have two really close best-guy-friends, n all them other ni99as is just associates...but my GURLS??!!...who else i'ma hit tha club wit??...we roll deep!!!
I COULDN'T EVEN FINISH READ'N UR POST I HAD TO STOP N ASK:
DID YOU KNOW THAT A NAME OF A CD, I'M JUST ASK'N CUZ ITS KIND OF UNKNOWN, MAINLY POPULAR N HOUSTON & DALLAS? DID U JUST USE THIS PHRASE ON UR OWN OR DID U GET IT 4RM THAT CD? IF YOU DID NOT 2 BE START'N NO NEW TOPIC BUT WHAT YOU THINK OF THAT CD, CUZ IT WAS PUT OUT BY MY SISTER'S BOYFRIEND LABEL?? JUST CURIOUS...HE ALWAYS LOOK'N FOR NEW OPINIONS...
:arrow: ::goes back to thread to read rest of cafe's post::
DOUBLE COSIGNS W/ CAFE-AULAIT...
All of the responses are interesting.
I just wonder, somewhat like what Kenyafeelme was sayin, since females generally carry these characteristics, would you agree or admit that you have at times shown these same negative qualities? I have heard females say things like "I don't like females because they are shady." And then turn around sayin things like "I know that I was shady towards her" or "I know how I am with other females and they are probably the same way about me."
And if you feel you don't carry these characteristics, do you feel that you attract friends that are the same as you? Or do you still think that you may end up with female friends that have the typical problems?
Well at first I used to wonder the same thing but years later after a whole lot of backbiting and criticizing and jealousy, I now know why we females say that ...because I can say it too!! Girls can be b*****s :twisted:
and we like our guy friends to know we have other guyfriends to let them know that we do know how to understand guys and hang out with them, u know! :idea: :wink:
