^Sweety, you can't make nobody love someone they ain't attracted to. If a lot of you guys grow so confidence and stop trying to analyze every damn thing you might find a girl.
Im not saying this is for every man, but a lot of the black males I run into are how can we say.......no where near what i need in my life. I consider myself and an attractive, intelligent, and honest person. Yet I still meet a lot of dudes that once they get the idea that i dont throw p*ssy out like candy at a parade they are quick to bounce out .Also a lot of em ar enot goal orientied. How do u expect me to take u seriously if im out here bustin my **** tryna get an education, and u live at ya mom's house, no job, no car, no ambition, but yet u wanna take me out ????
But i must say even after all of my pitfalls i still belive that there are decent black men out there just waitin and willin to satisfy both my emotional/physical needs... i just have to be patient and let em come to me :wink:
Where on earth are you lookin for dudes? At a high school? :?
*Myranda shakes her head* so sad that u dont analyze the black male population and actually see how many dont have jobs, cars , goals, and what not. U aint a female so i suppose u wouldnt understand :roll:
That is not just limited to males. There are a lot of females that are doing the exact same thing :arrow:
That is true but we are not talking about females right now... just males :wink:
Oh, so this is a just a thread for the ladies to come in and **** about us...in OUR forum???
Not without me defending my species...
If a guy bounces after NOT giving him the nay-nay...maybe you should try picking from a different pool of options babe.
Most of the girls that I know that complain about a guy having "no car, no job, and no goals" are saying so because he doesn't have the car she'd like to see him in, the job she'd like to see him working at, or the goals that she'd like to see him possess. The brotha could look decent and keep up with himself pretty well...but if he doesn't try and make himself out to be some fake superstar headed down the road to success (the same road where a lot of these "statusfied" niggras AINT gonna be at), she doesn't want to be associated with the man.
Its damn near a worldwide known fact that you can't satisfy a woman...maybe the guy can't afford the hottest SUV...maybe the guy is getting his bills paid and is doing his thing with the job he has....and probably DOES have a few goals in life (and some damn good ones at that)....but just because they dont correspond with what YOU would consider acceptable, doesn't mean that he has to be associated with a greedy woman's pitfalls.
A pitfall whips your ****. A pitfall will get you pregnant and run away from responsibility (thus in turn, squashing EVERYTHING that real men have been fighting for). A pitfall will leave you in the cold streets looking for ride home. That same pitfall is probably the one who seems to have everything you want from a man + everything else.
Now, everything I said above ^^ may not describe the pitfalls that you've endured, but a lot of women think a bad man is someone that doesn't fit their greedy wants and needs. You show me a man that can satisfy your every need, and I'll show you paradise.
Im not saying this is for every man, but a lot of the black males I run into are how can we say.......no where near what i need in my life. I consider myself and an attractive, intelligent, and honest person. Yet I still meet a lot of dudes that once they get the idea that i dont throw p*ssy out like candy at a parade they are quick to bounce out .Also a lot of em ar enot goal orientied. How do u expect me to take u seriously if im out here bustin my **** tryna get an education, and u live at ya mom's house, no job, no car, no ambition, but yet u wanna take me out ????
But i must say even after all of my pitfalls i still belive that there are decent black men out there just waitin and willin to satisfy both my emotional/physical needs... i just have to be patient and let em come to me :wink:
Where on earth are you lookin for dudes? At a high school? :?
*Myranda shakes her head* so sad that u dont analyze the black male population and actually see how many dont have jobs, cars , goals, and what not. U aint a female so i suppose u wouldnt understand :roll:
That is not just limited to males. There are a lot of females that are doing the exact same thing :arrow:
That is true but we are not talking about females right now... just males :wink:
Oh, so this is a just a thread for the ladies to come in and B*tch about us...in OUR forum???
Not without me defending my species...
If a guy bounces after NOT giving him the nay-nay...maybe you should try picking from a different pool of options babe.
Most of the girls that I know that complain about a guy having "no car, no job, and no goals" are saying so because he doesn't have the car she'd like to see him in, the job she'd like to see him working at, or the goals that she'd like to see him possess. The brotha could look decent and keep up with himself pretty well...but if he doesn't try and make himself out to be some fake superstar headed down the road to success (the same road where a lot of these "statusfied" niggras AINT gonna be at), she doesn't want to be associated with the man.
Its damn near a worldwide known fact that you can't satisfy a woman...maybe the guy can't afford the hottest SUV...maybe the guy is getting his bills paid and is doing his thing with the job he has....and probably DOES have a few goals in life (and some damn good ones at that)....but just because they dont correspond with what YOU would consider acceptable, doesn't mean that he has to be associated with a greedy woman's pitfalls.
A pitfall whips your ****. A pitfall will get you pregnant and run away from responsibility (thus in turn, squashing EVERYTHING that real men have been fighting for). A pitfall will leave you in the cold streets looking for ride home. That same pitfall is probably the one who seems to have everything you want from a man + everything else.
Now, everything I said above ^^ may not describe the pitfalls that you've endured, but a lot of women think a bad man is someone that doesn't fit their greedy wants and needs. You show me a man that can satisfy your every need, and I'll show you paradise.
Ok.....um did that lil statement really need all that :lol:
Oh, so this is a just a thread for the ladies to come in and B*tch about us...in OUR forum???
Not without me defending my species...
If a guy bounces after NOT giving him the nay-nay...maybe you should try picking from a different pool of options babe.
Most of the girls that I know that complain about a guy having "no car, no job, and no goals" are saying so because he doesn't have the car she'd like to see him in, the job she'd like to see him working at, or the goals that she'd like to see him possess. The brotha could look decent and keep up with himself pretty well...but if he doesn't try and make himself out to be some fake superstar headed down the road to success (the same road where a lot of these "statusfied" niggras AINT gonna be at), she doesn't want to be associated with the man.
Its damn near a worldwide known fact that you can't satisfy a woman...maybe the guy can't afford the hottest SUV...maybe the guy is getting his bills paid and is doing his thing with the job he has....and probably DOES have a few goals in life (and some damn good ones at that)....but just because they dont correspond with what YOU would consider acceptable, doesn't mean that he has to be associated with a greedy woman's pitfalls.
A pitfall whips your ****. A pitfall will get you pregnant and run away from responsibility (thus in turn, squashing EVERYTHING that real men have been fighting for). A pitfall will leave you in the cold streets looking for ride home. That same pitfall is probably the one who seems to have everything you want from a man + everything else.
Now, everything I said above ^^ may not describe the pitfalls that you've endured, but a lot of women think a bad man is someone that doesn't fit their greedy wants and needs. You show me a man that can satisfy your every need, and I'll show you paradise.
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*Myranda shakes her head* so sad that u dont analyze the black male population and actually see how many dont have jobs, cars , goals, and what not. U aint a female so i suppose u wouldnt understand :roll:
You're quite right, I don't understand. I do realize that there are a large number of us who don't have the said goals, or a car, or a job. However, I can only imagine, as others have said and I believe I have said, that women base their opinions on what they consider to be a good man. Therefore, if we don't meet the standards for whatever woman we come across, we aren't in the "good man" group. It never occurs to anyone that if they can't find a good man, then perhaps their ideals are faulty or few and far between. However, don't percieve this as saying that standards are high. Simply that no one is paying any attention to the ones that meet even one these minimal (in my opinion) and general standards, let alone the ones that are far beyond them. There are many that could have a man with a 6 figure job, a car and a house, as well as absolutely profound goals and achievments. However, they are dismissed for whatever reason (from what I've experienced, because they might actually have to work to get the man that they want). God forbid that the woman should exude some kind of effort. We're terribly sorry that the good men aren't falling into your laps.
In lieu of this, no one can viably tell me that there are gargantuan numbers of good women in the world. While I'm willing to acknowledge that there are perhaps more good women than good men out there, it cannot be denied that we too have rather slim pickings. I consider to myself to be a good man. I have a job (since I'm taking the semester off from school), I have a truck that's paid for, I even have very high goals and expectations of myself amongst other things. Most people consider me to be a good guy. So then tell me why I'm single? Tell me why it is that every good woman that I talk to, that swears out that she wants a good man, isn't willing to actually put for the kind of effort to get what I have to offer? Do you mean to tell me that my standards are too high? If my simple standards (as well as many other men) are too high, then those of most women that "want a good man" are inexcusably high.
I am going to try to respond to this the best way I can. OK, I realize today that more people are single still looking for that good women, or good man and as a female I can say that I am still waiting because that is all I can do. I can't speak on a male perspective but I can truly say that because of how I have been treated or ignored that a good man is hard to find. All I can say is sometimes if you want something good you have to be patient because good things don't always come easy. Sometimes we don't always get what we want because we are to fast, or sometimes may over look certain things and not pay anough attention to them. For what ever reason things are the way they are. THat is all I have to say on this right now...
You're quite right, I don't understand. I do realize that there are a large number of us who don't have the said goals, or a car, or a job. However, I can only imagine, as others have said and I believe I have said, that women base their opinions on what they consider to be a good man. Therefore, if we don't meet the standards for whatever woman we come across, we aren't in the "good man" group. It never occurs to anyone that if they can't find a good man, then perhaps their ideals are faulty or few and far between. However, don't percieve this as saying that standards are high. Simply that no one is paying any attention to the ones that meet even one these minimal (in my opinion) and general standards, let alone the ones that are far beyond them. There are many that could have a man with a 6 figure job, a car and a house, as well as absolutely profound goals and achievments. However, they are dismissed for whatever reason (from what I've experienced, because they might actually have to work to get the man that they want). God forbid that the woman should exude some kind of effort. We're terribly sorry that the good men aren't falling into your laps.
In lieu of this, no one can viably tell me that there are gargantuan numbers of good women in the world. While I'm willing to acknowledge that there are perhaps more good women than good men out there, it cannot be denied that we too have rather slim pickings. I consider to myself to be a good man. I have a job (since I'm taking the semester off from school), I have a truck that's paid for, I even have very high goals and expectations of myself amongst other things. Most people consider me to be a good guy. So then tell me why I'm single? Tell me why it is that every good woman that I talk to, that swears out that she wants a good man, isn't willing to actually put for the kind of effort to get what I have to offer? Do you mean to tell me that my standards are too high? If my simple standards (as well as many other men) are too high, then those of most women that "want a good man" are inexcusably high.
*Myranda shakes her head* so sad that u dont analyze the black male population and actually see how many dont have jobs, cars , goals, and what not. U aint a female so i suppose u wouldnt understand :roll:
You're quite right, I don't understand. I do realize that there are a large number of us who don't have the said goals, or a car, or a job. However, I can only imagine, as others have said and I believe I have said, that women base their opinions on what they consider to be a good man. Therefore, if we don't meet the standards for whatever woman we come across, we aren't in the "good man" group. It never occurs to anyone that if they can't find a good man, then perhaps their ideals are faulty or few and far between. However, don't percieve this as saying that standards are high. Simply that no one is paying any attention to the ones that meet even one these minimal (in my opinion) and general standards, let alone the ones that are far beyond them. There are many that could have a man with a 6 figure job, a car and a house, as well as absolutely profound goals and achievments. However, they are dismissed for whatever reason (from what I've experienced, because they might actually have to work to get the man that they want). God forbid that the woman should exude some kind of effort. We're terribly sorry that the good men aren't falling into your laps.
In lieu of this, no one can viably tell me that there are gargantuan numbers of good women in the world. While I'm willing to acknowledge that there are perhaps more good women than good men out there, it cannot be denied that we too have rather slim pickings. I consider to myself to be a good man. I have a job (since I'm taking the semester off from school), I have a truck that's paid for, I even have very high goals and expectations of myself amongst other things. Most people consider me to be a good guy. So then tell me why I'm single? Tell me why it is that every good woman that I talk to, that swears out that she wants a good man, isn't willing to actually put for the kind of effort to get what I have to offer? Do you mean to tell me that my standards are too high? If my simple standards (as well as many other men) are too high, then those of most women that "want a good man" are inexcusably high.
Case closed...
Now to the next topic of discussion...
