Ok. I've never seen this addressed in a thread...
What if a greek asks an aspirant if he/she is interested in their org (and he/she is, but has never expressed interest)? Should the aspirant lie?
What if the greek is a friend of the aspirant? Should the aspirant then be honest?
Will a greek even ask such a question?
Also, when is it appropriate for an aspirant to express interest to a greek he/she knows in that chapter? 1st semester (soph. year) seems too early and Rush seems too late....when (if) did you verbally express interest?
I hope my questions don't cross any boundaries. Forgive me if they do.
I think the serious info is being supplied here so I'll leave that alone. :-)
I just wanted to add this: It's amazing...but I'm really learning...some people really are extremely ignorant when it comes to Greek ettiquite. I have to make sure I keep that in mind cuz otherwise I'd FLIP out based on some of the stuff I've heard.
Like...I went to my high school's graduation this year and ya know me...had to floss a lil' bit. ;-) So I had on my Zeta hat and chain. So one of the graduates saw this and said(I'm basically quoting) "Oh you're a Zeta. I'm going to join that. I'm going to be online next year." In my head I'm screaming "Baby girl NOOO!!!!...Please be smarter when you get on your campus!!" But I grabbed up her email and I'll send her a brief message simply to say:Loose limps sink ships...if she's smart...she'll learn.
She ain't in school...I really don't expect her to know....but now when this freshman came up to me after we sponsored Chapel service and told me that she'd probably "pledge" Zeta b/c her mom is one my face went :???:
I don't believe I'm ...."intense" if you will about these matters. I don't like to "interview" folks. :lol: I just think that there is a proper way to do EVERYTHING and if you're serious a/b joining anyone's organization you might wanna learn those ways....and quickly.
I hate that ish more than anything and honestly I think some of the babies just don't know any better :razz: but see they fail to realize everyone isn't going to be as nice about it as you may have been. I remember this chic coming up to my best friend (a Zeta) in the mall. I didn't have on any 'nalia so she wasn't knowing. But my friend did; the lil girl was all of 17 and was going on and on about how she was GOING to be a Zeta and how she wouldn't have any problems "getting in" because her sister was one. She also mentioned how she couldn't stand her oldest sister (a Soror) and that's why she wanted to be a Zeta. We just looked at each other and laughed Needless to say, my friend took ol' girl's info and "promised" to pass it on to the right people :razz:
at one of my colleges, an AKA wanted me and my friend to join their sorority. she was cool with us and asked us if we were interested and that she really wanted us to be a part of it.
I was asked by two different organizations if I was interested both my freshman and sophomore years. Greeks will ask if they are interested in knowing for whatever reason.
Still kinda wack, IMO. On my yard, we don't usually ask people if they're interested in their particular org. I know I may ask a male friend of mine if he's interested in xyz frat, but that's just me being nosey, lol. I wouldn't ask a girl if she's interested in AKA, b/c we want people who know what they want. We don't want to put thoughts in folks' heads.
Soror that ish is BEYOND wack, I don't care what org it is :x
Side note- recruiting and a Greek inquiring about your interest(s) are not one in the same
I think the serious info is being supplied here so I'll leave that alone. :-)
I just wanted to add this: It's amazing...but I'm really learning...some people really are extremely ignorant when it comes to Greek ettiquite. I have to make sure I keep that in mind cuz otherwise I'd FLIP out based on some of the stuff I've heard.
Like...I went to my high school's graduation this year and ya know me...had to floss a lil' bit. ;-) So I had on my Zeta hat and chain. So one of the graduates saw this and said(I'm basically quoting) "Oh you're a Zeta. I'm going to join that. I'm going to be online next year." In my head I'm screaming "Baby girl NOOO!!!!...Please be smarter when you get on your campus!!" But I grabbed up her email and I'll send her a brief message simply to say:Loose limps sink ships...if she's smart...she'll learn.
She ain't in school...I really don't expect her to know....but now when this freshman came up to me after we sponsored Chapel service and told me that she'd probably "pledge" Zeta b/c her mom is one my face went :???:
I don't believe I'm ...."intense" if you will about these matters. I don't like to "interview" folks. :lol: I just think that there is a proper way to do EVERYTHING and if you're serious a/b joining anyone's organization you might wanna learn those ways....and quickly.
I hate that ish more than anything and honestly I think some of the babies just don't know any better :razz: but see they fail to realize everyone isn't going to be as nice about it as you may have been. I remember this chic coming up to my best friend (a Zeta) in the mall. I didn't have on any 'nalia so she wasn't knowing. But my friend did; the lil girl was all of 17 and was going on and on about how she was GOING to be a Zeta and how she wouldn't have any problems "getting in" because her sister was one. She also mentioned how she couldn't stand her oldest sister (a Soror) and that's why she wanted to be a Zeta. We just looked at each other and laughed Needless to say, my friend took ol' girl's info and "promised" to pass it on to the right people :razz:
:lol: :lol:
That is too much!!! I'm mad baby girl was about 17. :???:
But see...the main reason I'm nice is because I already know....come across the wrong soror talkin' that smack....it will not be pretty
Side note- recruiting and a Greek inquiring about your interest(s) are not one in the same
I agree. My question was on greeks "inquiring" about interest... If someone asked me if I am interested in their particular org, I'd wanna know why they asked but I wouldn't automatically think they wanted me to be in their org....I try not to assume anything when it comes to greek life and I learned that, not from jumping to conclusions with a greek, but just from observing...
OK. Back to my original post... What if the aspirant opts not to answer... Says something like "no comment" or "I'd rather not answer that at this time," do you think this is rude or a smart move on the aspirant's part?
^^^ okay and just because I talk about a certain organization does not mean that I'm interested in joining it. EXP... I talked about the Iota sweethearts... but I don't want to join their organization. And it has nothing to do with them.... I just don't want to be in an aux group.
Ok. I've never seen this addressed in a thread...
What if a greek asks an aspirant if he/she is interested in their org (and he/she is, but has never expressed interest)? Should the aspirant lie?
Just say that u are still researching what is best for u. Just be respectful and discrete. For all u know, it could be a test/
suthernfryd wrote:
What if the greek is a friend of the aspirant? Should the aspirant then be honest?
Depends on how close they are to u, and if telling them is somehow going to benefit u or help u in some way. If not, then what is the purpose behind it?
suthernfryd wrote:
Will a greek even ask such a question?
Some would. Some wouldn't. It may not necessarily be to recruit u. They could already know u are interested in an organization and just seeing how u would handle the situation.
suthernfryd wrote:
Also, when is it appropriate for an aspirant to express interest to a greek he/she knows in that chapter? 1st semester (soph. year) seems too early and Rush seems too late....when (if) did you verbally express interest?
I didn't have to "verbally" express it until they out right asked me "Why are you interested in Zeta and what can you offer to my organization?". You shouldn't have to say anything before that point. They should see it in your actions. It's never too early. If u know what organization is right for you, you should be attenting their events and making yourself seen (even if that's freshman year). Trust, they will know u are interested in due time and u won't have to say a word
suthernfryd wrote:
I hope my questions don't cross any boundaries. Forgive me if they do.
naw, u straight hun.
As for some other stuff posed in this thread. Should u send an email to a member of that organization? Well, it depends on how well u know them, and what the purpose of sending them that email is. If it is a very close friend of yours, then it isn't all that bad. Otherwise, i'd say chill. Just curious...what do u plan to achieve out of sending an email?
Like...I went to my high school's graduation this year and ya know me...had to floss a lil' bit. ;-) So I had on my Zeta hat and chain. So one of the graduates saw this and said(I'm basically quoting) "Oh you're a Zeta. I'm going to join that. I'm going to be online next year." In my head I'm screaming "Baby girl NOOO!!!!...Please be smarter when you get on your campus!!" But I grabbed up her email and I'll send her a brief message simply to say:Loose limps sink ships...if she's smart...she'll learn.
She ain't in school...I really don't expect her to know....but now when this freshman came up to me after we sponsored Chapel service and told me that she'd probably "pledge" Zeta b/c her mom is one my face went :???:
I don't believe I'm ...."intense" if you will about these matters. I don't like to "interview" folks. :lol: I just think that there is a proper way to do EVERYTHING and if you're serious a/b joining anyone's organization you might wanna learn those ways....and quickly.
Needless to say, my friend took ol' girl's info and "promised" to pass it on to the right people :razz:
