If you two aren't doing anything wrong, than you are not wrong. BUT I do understand why she would be skeptical about the whole situation. I mean you two were romantically involved. She is a little silly for staying with the guy, but it is her man. If I were you I would just leave him alone.
:???: I don't understand how Megan is wrong in this situation. Maybe she is a little silly for remaining friends with the guy, but not wrong. The same goes with the other gal. The guy is the only one in the wrong. He is the one who cheated.
Thanks. I'm getting heat cause dude calls me; not like I keep calling him. And we don't even talk all that often like we used to.
Sometimes, I'm too forgiving. I can hold a grudge like a mug, but will forgive at the same time. I don't know how that works out.
:???: I don't understand how Megan is wrong in this situation. Maybe she is a little silly for remaining friends with the guy, but not wrong. The same goes with the other gal. The guy is the only one in the wrong. He is the one who cheated.
:???: I don't understand how Megan is wrong in this situation. Maybe she is a little silly for remaining friends with the guy, but not wrong. The same goes with the other gal. The guy is the only one in the wrong. He is the one who cheated.
Says the girl that calls herself a womanist..
What the hell is that supposed to mean? I already said she was silly for still being friends with the guy. By this I meant that it wasn't smart for her to stay friends with a guy who cheated, lied and obviously doesn't respect either of them. All I'm saying is that Megan was not wrong. How in any way does this contradict what I stand for as a womanist? :???: Please explain yourself!
:???: I don't understand how Megan is wrong in this situation. Maybe she is a little silly for remaining friends with the guy, but not wrong. The same goes with the other gal. The guy is the only one in the wrong. He is the one who cheated.
Says the girl that calls herself a womanist..
What the hell is that supposed to mean? I already said she was silly for still being friends with the guy. By this I meant that it wasn't smart for her to stay friends with a guy who cheated, lied and obviously doesn't respect either of them. All I'm saying is that Megan was not wrong. How in any way does this contradict what I stand for as a womanist? :???: Please explain yourself!
I just found it funny that u said the women arent to blame at all, but the man is the only one that's wrong, and u saying Megan is "silly" doesnt change the fact that I would expect that type of statement from someone who's name is "womanist"...mmkay.
:???: I don't understand how Megan is wrong in this situation. Maybe she is a little silly for remaining friends with the guy, but not wrong. The same goes with the other gal. The guy is the only one in the wrong. He is the one who cheated.
Says the girl that calls herself a womanist..
What the hell is that supposed to mean? I already said she was silly for still being friends with the guy. By this I meant that it wasn't smart for her to stay friends with a guy who cheated, lied and obviously doesn't respect either of them. All I'm saying is that Megan was not wrong. How in any way does this contradict what I stand for as a womanist? :???: Please explain yourself!
I just found it funny that u said the women arent to blame at all, but the man is the only one that's wrong, and u saying Megan is "silly" doesnt change the fact that I would expect that type of statement from someone who's name is "womanist"...mmkay.
umm, okay, but I still stand by everything I've said in this thread. The ladies aren't in the wrong.
Y'all making it seem like Megan was the only girl that dude was talking to. He was messing around before he met her, hsoot, he prolly still messing around. If a girl was messing round on me for 13 years and I came up on here and posted bout it, most a y'all would call me a **** for staying wit ol girl. Y'all would laugh at me, etc., etc.
Point already been made that he trying to keep in contact wit her, and not the other way around.
Side note: Nisey are you saying that if you in a relationship wit a dude, he cannot call any other girls?
^I think I am cause I'm sick of her calling me over some mess. Cause I'm the type of female, that if I'm done wrong it only takes one time. I can leave and let go.
OK...I know I'm late but I couldn't help but realize how you blatantly contradicted yourself in this statement and throughout this thread. If I'm not mistaken, you were done wrong, very wrong, but you still have a relationship with/talk to this cat.
Yes, he's wrong for what he did to you, his fiance', and any other females he messed with. But at the same time, you're wrong for still talking to him. I mean, his girl has already called you 5 times. Why would you even wanna be involved with that drama? Especially after ol' dude then dogged you. I'm sorry but he is not a nice guy. He just has a good mouthpiece. Recognize it and move on.
Anyway, I hope you really do delete this dude's number from the cell and just learn from the whole experience.
I'm mad that Pwr2allPeople's posts were edited. He's funny as fu ck.
Aiight I'mma try this agian since I was typing earlier and my post got erased
I didn't read anything outside of what was on page 1 so forgive if I'm redundant but here is my 98 cents.
Basically, I think you are rushin to destruction and I think you need to stop talkin to ole boy. Not because of the girl calling you or any of that. Just for the simple fact that he keeps indicating the type of character that he possess but you look the other way and decide to still talk to him. Sooner or later it will come back to haunt you and please believe that this comes from somebody who knows from experience.
People who can cheat on a spouse repeatedly or just do them dirty particularly one that they have been with for a long time are not good friend material (male or female) and I'm sure you know this (its common sense). They may seem like that but sooner or later you'll realize that if you get too close they will do you just as grimey if not more than the person they are in a relationship with.
You already got screwed by him once, Why set youself up for a second time. Sure you could say that you aren't gonna get that close to dude or whatever so he'd be able to do so, but if thats the case why have him around in your life.
As for ole girl... the calling thing is her issue. If she can't trust her man enough to have female friends she needs to move on regardless of how long she's been with him because she'll miss out on something better staying with that sucka.
This is what people aren't getting. He calls me; I don't call him. When he calls, which is like every once in a while we just have conversations and that's it. And I don't know how I contradicted myself, when I'm not in an relationship with him.
When I said I leave after one time and let go, I mean if I am in a relationship and my boyfriend or whatever cheats on me, it only takes one time. That's why I didn't continue to "talk" him, in any other way but "friendship" after he lied to me. It's contradiction had I continue to "talk" to him in that way.
I can tell some of yall just read the thread name and the last sentence and really didn't read my post.
I'm getting heat cause dude calls me; not like I keep calling him. And we don't even talk all that often like we used to.
Sometimes, I'm too forgiving. I can hold a grudge like a mug, but will forgive at the same time. I don't know how that works out.
