^Sweety, you can't make nobody love someone they ain't attracted to. If a lot of you guys grow so confidence and stop trying to analyze every damn thing you might find a girl.
You're quite right, I don't understand. I do realize that there are a large number of us who don't have the said goals, or a car, or a job. However, I can only imagine, as others have said and I believe I have said, that women base their opinions on what they consider to be a good man. Therefore, if we don't meet the standards for whatever woman we come across, we aren't in the "good man" group. It never occurs to anyone that if they can't find a good man, then perhaps their ideals are faulty or few and far between. However, don't percieve this as saying that standards are high. Simply that no one is paying any attention to the ones that meet even one these minimal (in my opinion) and general standards, let alone the ones that are far beyond them. There are many that could have a man with a 6 figure job, a car and a house, as well as absolutely profound goals and achievments. However, they are dismissed for whatever reason (from what I've experienced, because they might actually have to work to get the man that they want). God forbid that the woman should exude some kind of effort. We're terribly sorry that the good men aren't falling into your laps.
In lieu of this, no one can viably tell me that there are gargantuan numbers of good women in the world. While I'm willing to acknowledge that there are perhaps more good women than good men out there, it cannot be denied that we too have rather slim pickings. I consider to myself to be a good man. I have a job (since I'm taking the semester off from school), I have a truck that's paid for, I even have very high goals and expectations of myself amongst other things. Most people consider me to be a good guy. So then tell me why I'm single? Tell me why it is that every good woman that I talk to, that swears out that she wants a good man, isn't willing to actually put for the kind of effort to get what I have to offer? Do you mean to tell me that my standards are too high? If my simple standards (as well as many other men) are too high, then those of most women that "want a good man" are inexcusably high.
You're quite right, I don't understand. I do realize that there are a large number of us who don't have the said goals, or a car, or a job. However, I can only imagine, as others have said and I believe I have said, that women base their opinions on what they consider to be a good man. Therefore, if we don't meet the standards for whatever woman we come across, we aren't in the "good man" group. It never occurs to anyone that if they can't find a good man, then perhaps their ideals are faulty or few and far between. However, don't percieve this as saying that standards are high. Simply that no one is paying any attention to the ones that meet even one these minimal (in my opinion) and general standards, let alone the ones that are far beyond them. There are many that could have a man with a 6 figure job, a car and a house, as well as absolutely profound goals and achievments. However, they are dismissed for whatever reason (from what I've experienced, because they might actually have to work to get the man that they want). God forbid that the woman should exude some kind of effort. We're terribly sorry that the good men aren't falling into your laps.
In lieu of this, no one can viably tell me that there are gargantuan numbers of good women in the world. While I'm willing to acknowledge that there are perhaps more good women than good men out there, it cannot be denied that we too have rather slim pickings. I consider to myself to be a good man. I have a job (since I'm taking the semester off from school), I have a truck that's paid for, I even have very high goals and expectations of myself amongst other things. Most people consider me to be a good guy. So then tell me why I'm single? Tell me why it is that every good woman that I talk to, that swears out that she wants a good man, isn't willing to actually put for the kind of effort to get what I have to offer? Do you mean to tell me that my standards are too high? If my simple standards (as well as many other men) are too high, then those of most women that "want a good man" are inexcusably high.
^^ :lol: :lol:
I'm with Larry (hmm...i'm actually agreeing with Larry :? ? *shrugs* go figure). We can keep being redundant and going back and forth on this, but the truth of the matter is that there are a plethora of "good black men" as well as "good black women" on the earth. But i've come to find that it isn't just about finding a "good man", it's about finding the "right man". Just becuz a person a good, doesn't mean they good for you.
Why is it that every time a new question is posed from a drawn conclusion both sides can only answer back with the same thing? There are new points that can be drawn from this to further the discussion. You can't viably tell me that different questions have the same answer... :? **I'm not aiming this specifically at you Kenya... your post just happened to be the closest target.**
Because people like to give cliche answers:
"Good things come to those who wait"
"Just be patient, God has someone waiting for you"
"Maybe you should look for a mature woman, instead of little girls"
"Things happen for a reason"
Why is it that every time a new question is posed from a drawn conclusion both sides can only answer back with the same thing? There are new points that can be drawn from this to further the discussion. You can't viably tell me that different questions have the same answer... :? **I'm not aiming this specifically at you Kenya... your post just happened to be the closest target.**
Because people like to give cliche answers:
"Good things come to those who wait"
"Just be patient, God has someone waiting for you"
"Maybe you should look for a mature woman, instead of little girls"
"Things happen for a reason"
"To those that have seen no hope, they feel that there is none. To those who know hope, they can only preach. How do you, in effect, make the unseen affect such their harsh realities, dismal circumstances and frustration? We only hope that hope itself will provide the answer." -Unknown
*grumbling and shuffling feet* ok there are good black men, even at howard.....happy you coniving ****?? :? .....
damn these black men, damn em to hell :x
*grumbling and shuffling feet* ok there are good black men, even at howard.....happy you coniving ****?? :? .....
damn these black men, damn em to hell :x
