i have no issue with preparing food n keepin the house together for my family. it's when the husband DEMANDS it that i'ma strike up an attitude. don't TELL me that you want dinner, common sense is gonna tell me that you're hungry, and i'll see to it when i see fit.
it's like when your mother sees you walking to the kitchen, and tells you to take take out the trash, when you were already on your way to do it. wouldn't YOU get annoyed, too?
The role of women has changed so much over the past few decades, many would argue for the better. Typically, the "modern" women prides herself on being the independent women that doesn't "need no man". A lot of women out there took those same ideals to a whole other level and decided for themselves that they were superwomen and refuse to allow a man to do anything for them. These women are mistaken. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong at all with catering to your man. And that doesn't just mean fixing his cuff links or tying his shoe laces as Destiny's Child so uneffectually defined it to be, it's about catering to his soul. If that includes making his dinner, running him a hot bath, then so be it. And if he's taking care of your every financial need and want to boot! --hell yea I'm gonna make sure the house is clean! It's a small price to pay to maintain your happy relationship with a man. Now specifically in your case, is it that you want her to only be a housewife, or is it purely that she's unable b/c of circumstances? Because I think that has a lot to do with it as well. If a guys says to me that he doesn't want me working, but i still have a desire to work then obviously there will be a conflict because the relationship will be unbalanced. The happy medium has to be found. Now if the case just happens to be that there's no possible way I can work, but we were financially stable I think I could live with it. As long as I was able to get my education to ensure for myself, that if god forbid the relationship failed, I'm not assed out.
I don't mind a wife that wants to work. As a matter of fact, I would support her whole heartedly. However, given that I could feasibly have to move around every three to four years with a year in Texas in between each move, I don't know that it would be feasible for her to be able to work. We would be financially stable enough that she wouldn't have to work, however I can understand a want or need to have a job. In the military your rent is paid for and as a matter of fact, you get more money if you're married and even more money if you have kids. By the time I get ready to marry, my paycheck will be sufficient that anything else we could want, we can easily afford without having to be on a tight budget. I'm not forcing anyone to do anything. But am I wrong for expecting a wife that isn't working to at least at the bare minimum take care of house and home? Clearly I don't expect to just sit back and make her do all the work. I wouldn't mind pitching in to help at all. But generally, any chick that I'm willing to go out with isn't down for that kinda stuff. What kinda college graduate with an actual goal in life and a good head on her shoulders is going to set all of that aside to follow some airman around the world?
Well since you are in the military, I would expect your future wife to know that having her own career may not be as accessible as it was before. She shouldn't complain because she knows what kind of situation she's getting herself into. I personally couldn't do it. I don't see it as degrading or anything, but I am kind of a selfish person. I don't see myself dropping everything to be with a man, especially if he is not giving anything up. I understand with relationship comes sacrifices, but that's a two way street.
That is another problem within itself. No woman that I would even associate with would give up her hopes and dreams as well as her goals to Follow some silly Airman around the world. Regardless of how wonderful a person I may be and what I can give her. :???:
That is another problem within itself. No woman that I would even associate with would give up her hopes and dreams as well as her goals to Follow some silly Airman around the world. Regardless of how wonderful a person I may be and what I can give her. :???:
Well sweetie, you just can't expect many woman to drop everything to follow you. They would have to be madly in love. Literally.
That is another problem within itself. No woman that I would even associate with would give up her hopes and dreams as well as her goals to Follow some silly Airman around the world. Regardless of how wonderful a person I may be and what I can give her. :???:
Well sweetie, you just can't expect many woman to drop everything to follow you. They would have to be madly in love. Literally.
Yes... I'm well aware of that... and the only madly in love that I've seen is the Sh*t that i don't need. Cause if she tries following me to the office that **** will get SHOT.
That is another problem within itself. No woman that I would even associate with would give up her hopes and dreams as well as her goals to Follow some silly Airman around the world. Regardless of how wonderful a person I may be and what I can give her. :???:
Well sweetie, you just can't expect many woman to drop everything to follow you. They would have to be madly in love. Literally.
Yes... I'm well aware of that... and the only madly in love that I've seen is the Sh*t that i don't need. Cause if she tries following me to the office that **** will get SHOT.
Take a married Woman's advice!
Please, seek out someone who will be supportive of your goals in life. Now, that does not mean that she has to leave hers behind. But there needs to be a mutual understanding and then planning that also includes thinking about life after the wedding. Personally, I would not have married my husband if he were in the military. Why? First of all, I don't support war esp. seeing all that went on with Bush and his decision to invade Iraq. Secondly, the moves to God knows where, and the time away from family is a bit difficult to deal with esp. if you have children.
Being a good man and husband, also means that you are understanding and can be supportive with whatever your wants to accomplish. Are you ready for that? I can honestly say that most men are NOT capable of doing that because of the way society has been set up. The mindset has to change in order for any relationship to work.
Hope this helps
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you could have had it all! imagine a man making $45 grand a year??? imagine that? may paycheck last week was $845.96! and i just started! that could have been you!
welp....i just hope you're content and that all goes well. i'll just crawl up into a ball...
