I have a deadbeat mother and father. Neither has been there for me. I have had one or the other at one point in my life, but for the majority of the time neither were there. It hurts for a girl growing up in this day and age to not have a mother or father to look up to and ask for guidance. It's a good thing God blessed me with good common sense or else I would end up like a lot of these females. Pregnant and don't know what to do with themselves. So lets not just put tha focus on dads even though that is more common. We need to also acknowledge deadbeat mothers.So to the point of this thread. Has anyone ever had a deadbeat mother?
Well I really can't say "deadbeat" since she was there for me sometimes just not all. But there was a time when I didn't have my mother in my life and it hurt like hell. Since I've gotten older, I've realized that at the time she was going through so much in her life, that it would not have mattered if she were in mine because her presence would have been tainted. I'm not saying that it still doesn't bother me, but it is what it is. Now, tho, my mother is a major part of my life and we've been throught a lot together. Everything happens for a reason and I can honestly say that our past distance from one another have made us stronger.
Well, my mother and I have had a turbulent relationship for decades, well into childhood. But I can't say or even imply that she was ever a deadbeat.
She raised me on Government programs/welfare, joined the Army and sacrificed hugely so that I could have a life outside of poverty. Some of those sacrifices created some wedges between us, but never was my mom a deadbeat.
I'm glad to know that you have survived the parental neglect and have manifested into another beautiful sistah.
Just goes to show that we should never underestimate the seeds our family plants in us and the power of God's hand.
I was blessed enough to have both of my parents active in my life, especially when I know so many people who didn't have that opportunity.If not, maybe it is because there is something else in the plans for you - forcing you to be mentally strong or opening a space for a relationship with someone else in your life.
well my mother was never ever there. she always chose husbands and men before all of her children. so thankfully i had my grandmother. without her no tellin where i would be.
Well...My mother wasn't really around me either. She was a crack addict **** and my dad was a ****.
Its hard to learn to be a woman without that mother figure but its not impossible. You have the power to influence other young gurls with your story! You have to let go and let God. That's the only way you'll be able to grow.
Its devastating not to have parents around but it will be tragic if you let that destroy who you are.
Hope this helps lil sista!
