not necessarily sweety..... from what i have seen, it seems like every guy is trying to be whom they aren't or can never be...why .....that i cannot answer! except offer a little advice....grow up boys....because from what im hearing from your fellow peers is that its a phase.......how long is this phase....i would hope by 23 years old you should be long past it but it seems to never fail.
not necessarily sweety..... from what i have seen, it seems like every guy is trying to be whom they aren't or can never be...why .....that i cannot answer! except offer a little advice....grow up boys....because from what im hearing from your fellow peers is that its a phase.......how long is this phase....i would hope by 23 years old you should be long past it but it seems to never fail.
See? You did it again. What "seems" isn't necessarily what is. Now if I were to say
"It seems like women just want a ****/gangsta/****/playa/whatever"
or
"Its seems that all the good, upstanding women are gone"
Would you not beg to differ? I mean, that's the way things seems to me.
point taken but at the same time, you have to admit that a lot of guys nowadays are not up to that out most potential....its sad because i now see that females are starting to settle for what is not worth.......
Yes, you are correct. There are a lot of guys out there that are not willing to even try to attain their fullest potential. It is also sad that females are willing to settle for said guys. However I know more guys that aren't thuggish or in anyway "street" that are the same way that aren't about a damn thing except getting laid and making sure their bills are paid. Ignorance wears many a mask. It is up to the like of young ladies that are not too much unlike yourself to not accept such insolence. As long as it is popular to be ignorant, then that is what the majority of guys will be. When the lot of you set your standards higher, then perhaps more of these guys will strive to be about something. On the same token, what many females consider "about something" is quite disturbing. My suggestion to you however would be to:
a) Stop focusing on what guys aren't doing. Its disheartening enough that there are numerous women that seem to flock to such silliness. The more you come into a public place and say things that basically about to "*****s ain't ****", the less incentive anyone has to be a better man in this first place. Please try to be uplifting to those of us that are out there trying to do something with our lives and especially those of us that would like to benefit a special companion. The strongest case that I have:
A couple years ago, I was at the Carolina Music Festival with a friend and Angie Stone was on stage. She'd just got done singing, and it was apparent that she was about to sing her ode to the black man. However, before she began singing, she asked a few questions...
"How many of y'all have a good black man?"
Some women made a little noise but there was nothing significant.
"Hold up, hold up, hold up, y'all... Y'all must not have a good black man like I'm' talking about, because if you did, you'd be standing up on top of ya chair yellin' and screaming about this man that you got."
Only then did it get a little rowdy. So then she asked...
"How many of y'all know a good black man?"
Some people made some noise, and she let that slide. The girl that I was there with was silent. She then asked...
"How many of y'all want a good black man?"
Now, Hardee's Walnut Creek Amphitheatre holds about 48000 people and the place was pretty much packed. As soon as she asked the last question, the place got as silent as I'd heard it all night. Now what incentive do I have to be any kind of a decent man if, even in a crowd of almost 50000 people, no one seems to want a good black man?
b) Pay attention. There are more gentlemen out there than you care to realize. They're not going to jump out right in front of you, and its not their place to do so. You talk some mighty big words, about wanting a gentleman and finding intelligent men attractive, yet when the moment of praxis arrives, are you going to step up to the plate? I'm willing to gamble that on any given day when you're about the town, you pass by many.
wow....its saddening to hear about that incident and very much surprising too! i really am in loss of words right now............
i also agree with you, ignorance is a bliss.......in our house we got this quote that state that when i do good no one remembers but when i do bad no one ever forgets..i guess we never really appreciate those around us to notice the difference they make in our lives other than what they aren't doing right!
and to answer your last question...if the time presented itself i trust myself enough to know that i would do the right thing...i have grown alot this past two years from past experiences and did some soul searching!
Yes, you are correct. There are a lot of guys out there that are not willing to even try to attain their fullest potential. It is also sad that females are willing to settle for said guys. However I know more guys that aren't thuggish or in anyway "street" that are the same way that aren't about a damn thing except getting laid and making sure their bills are paid. Ignorance wears many a mask. It is up to the like of young ladies that are not too much unlike yourself to not accept such insolence. As long as it is popular to be ignorant, then that is what the majority of guys will be. When the lot of you set your standards higher, then perhaps more of these guys will strive to be about something. On the same token, what many females consider "about something" is quite disturbing. My suggestion to you however would be to:
a) Stop focusing on what guys aren't doing. Its disheartening enough that there are numerous women that seem to flock to such silliness. The more you come into a public place and say things that basically about to "*****s ain't ****", the less incentive anyone has to be a better man in this first place. Please try to be uplifting to those of us that are out there trying to do something with our lives and especially those of us that would like to benefit a special companion.
Pay attention. There are more gentlemen out there than you care to realize. They're not going to jump out right in front of you, and its not their place to do so. You talk some mighty big words, about wanting a gentleman and finding intelligent men attractive, yet when the moment of praxis arrives, are you going to step up to the plate? I'm willing to gamble that on any given day when you're about the town, you pass by many.
REAL TALK.
As long as there are girls out there who entertain such foolishness... it will always be there. And then when they finally "wise up" and want a "good man", its too late and he's married with 2 kids and a Volvo.
The Men in my fam are usually missing or simply ****. Hell, my father and mother would throw down. But along came me. I was raised to be different. The perfect gentlman. I still am. But in this world, thats not what most women want. They dont want a N1CE guy. A person who would be as good to them as they are to us. O naaah. They want the bad guy. The guy that cheats. The guy that doesnt pick up their phone calls. The guy that shows up a hour late for the date. The guy that shows up and expects you to pay. How I can attest to this? Cuz I've tried life on the other side and it seems to be a hell alot more sucessful. I've had girls cheat on me, **** my wallet and outright lie to my face so that they'll have access to my talents. All this just because I simply feel that a female is are delicate gifts from god that are not to be disrespected or neglected. At least in college I'm glad there are girls that have grown up and raised their standards.
