You know the sayings Daddy's Little girl and Mamas boy...well girls just how close are you to your fathers and how do they affect your lives is it just they're there and they get on your nerves or is it the feeling of "i dont know what i would do without that man"....and if your father hasnt been that present in your life for what ever reason do you think your life would have played out totally different if he was or pretty much the same....and on top of that do you think there is a need in the prescense of a father in the raising of a girl child or do u think all she needs is her mother to teach and guide her in the process of becoming a woman & Why?
i have a better relationship with my father now that im older he's becoming more involed and he even took a job near me , if i was living with my dad i think my life would be a little different i wouldnt be as independent, also dads are vital for setting examples for their daughter's relationships with males, my father and i have had countless talks about how males are and if i didnt have my dad i wouldnt be complete yea my mom taught me about presence/woman hood but having my dad around now is like the icing on the cake because he shows me how hard the world can be sometimes
As for myself i lived wit my pops for most of my life and we have beens separated for a couple of years and that has strained our relationship tremendously ...before i moved to this god forsaken place you coulda looked up in the dictionary for daddys little girl and saw me poppin out cheesin ....everywhere he went i was even work sometimes...... to answer my question i would not know what i would do with out him in my life.... he shows me the rough side of the world and teaches me how to cope with things...he taught me how to fight....and in many ways i now see that i am just like him from looks down to my temperment....and yes mom does teach us girls to be women but daddy seals the package and sometimes saves you from dumb mistakes...i feel that if i was living with him these past years i couldve avoided many negative things that have occured ... also i believe not having a good father is what leads many girls to promiscuity because they feel a void of male affection and sometimes that love can only come from a father so yeah every girl should have one ......
well growing up me and my father became distant...we practically didnt speak for two years and that hurt me to the point i was feeling down about myself.. i think a father's love should be present in a girl's life, to show her that she is an important person and should love herself. It took years for us to get where we are now, I love him, and to this day he continues to make me proud to say he's my father. I always wanted to be a daddy's girl and now I am and he definetely helps me see my worth... he may talk forever but something worth hearing comes out of his mouth.
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the last time that i spoke to or even saw my father was when i was 6 years old. That was 12 years ago. i can't sit here and say that i have never wondered what my life would be like had he been more present in my life because i have. A few months ago , out of the blue his ex-wife calls me and tells me how he is depressed because he didn't do what he was suppose to do in terms of being around and offering that fatherly love. She stated that he wanted to talk to me and that he would be contacting me soon. Needless to say he never called and just like when i was little , i know nothing about where he is or what he's doing. Apart of me is hurt because i'm the only child out of his 4 that has no contact with him. I use to think that there was something wrong with me and maybe he just didn't want me. And even today , i try to act as if i don't care but apart of me does. But i thank god for my mother for playin both roles and not just trying to find numerous men to fill that void but stepping up to the plate and trying her hardest to do what my father didn't. I can say that even without my father in my life , i'm extremely proud of the young woman who i've become and if i had to go back and do it over , i wouldn't change anything. To answer the question , a young girl should have a father present throughout her life but i'm proof that she doesn't neccessarily need him. And to all the females who did grow up with their fathers present please never take for granted his presence and the advice and love and care that he gives you. But i believe that in gods eyes , father or no father , we are all truly BLESSED!
My father was never involved in my life and it never bothered me. I was kind of glad that he wasn't there. A lot of people get upset and dwell over the absence of their parent(s) but for me, it was never an issue. Life is all about desicions and the consequence of those desicions. Even from an early age, I felt like well, he's an adult, and this is what he chose. I had nothing to do with that. I had to just chalk it up to him being a low life, and keep it moving. He, like many other parents (especially fathers) was absent from my life and as I got older, he tried to make a mends and take a role in my life but by time it was too late. I felt like, why are you here now? You had ample opportunities to help raise me, but you refused and you missed out. Oh well, that's just the way the cookie crumbled.As far as how my life would've played out if he was present, I mean, I don't think it would've been that different. Well, there would've been more income in the house, but that's about it. I do think that fathers play a significant role in their daughters life though. With certain things like dating etc., I think the father has a lot of influence. The way daughters and fathers react to each other has a lot to do with how women view men and act in relationships and how they view themselves. If I had to choose between a mother and father raising the daughter though, I probably would choose the mother to have the upper hand for the simple fact, only a woman can teach another woman, how to be just that. Fathers can teach daughters and mothers can guide sons, but when it comes down to it, only a woman can teach me the best way to be one.
The father is the first point of male contact for a little girl. We long for for our daddy's attention because we were created to. As little girls, we are not aware of romance, but our fathers are supposed to be our first male/female interaction...the loves of our lives...our prince charmings. If he isn't present, then another male has to be there...otherwise we sense the void and seek what is missing.
My father wasn't around when I was growing up. He has been trying to step his game up lately and contribute to my education, but before now all I really got was some low priced child support checks. I had alot of bitterness towards him as an adolescent, and it really affected the way I view men as a whole. To this day I have a very hard time trusting to them or not thinking that they are just going to abandon me (like my father did). And although I do believe that my mother has done a fantastic job on her own, I think that my father's presence definately would have impacted me. Now, would it have been a good or bad one? Who knows lol. Lets just say his way of thinking doesn't exactly sit well with me, so i know for a fact that we definately would have had some serious conflict if he was in the house. On the otherhand, when it came to the attention, affection, and recognition that I thought I was missing from men, having him there really could have made a world of a difference. And I think the same could be said for so many other women that grew up in single mother households.
Now, my father plays a very important role in my life. I go to him for advice, consult him when it comes to making important decisions, etc. But it wasn't allways that way. Sometimes, when me and my sisters were younger, we used to wish my father and mother were divorced, we couldn't stand him! He was very overprotective and strict, and didnt have much of a relationship with us. He was the one who laid down the rules, left my mom to enforce them, and worked long hours at work. He wasn't (and in a way still isn't) very involved in our lives...growing up, he was more concerned with church and working overtime. But now, things are a little different. Thankfully!
....everywhere he went i was even work sometimes...... to answer my question i would not know what i would do with out him in my life.... he shows me the rough side of the world and teaches me how to cope with things...he taught me how to fight....and in many ways i now see that i am just like him from looks down to my temperment....and yes mom does teach us girls to be women but daddy seals the package and sometimes saves you from dumb mistakes...i feel that if i was living with him these past years i couldve avoided many negative things that have occured
... also i believe not having a good father is what leads many girls to promiscuity because they feel a void of male affection and sometimes that love can only come from a father so yeah every girl should have one
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