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Sorority Members with Bad Attitudes Posted on 08-29-2007
smc112

Okay... this question is going to the Greeks. (Which I would prefer only Greek members to respond). Anyway, they had a college organization fair at my school. I did as someone mentioned on the Prospect protocol to go to more than one Greek table to get information and to ask questions. I approached one sororities table and they were real friendly and gave some helpful information. I approached another sorority's table and one of the members was real dry and didn't speak. To sum it up... she was plain out RUDE! So my question is what makes people be so mean spirited? Now... I can understand someone acting like that toward someone if they were on line, but to act like that with someone who is just inquiring about your organization is just plain out crazy! So my question is... do I not let that one person change my decision about the organization as a whole or do I need to consider joining another organization of girls who know how to act with some sense? I understand that the whole purpose of joining an organization is to be friends with the people in the org, but what if they aren't friendly and stupid acting? Just curious to what your responses will be. Also, feel free to give me some helpful advice and share some stories of how it was when you were a Greek interest.
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theTRUTH replied on 08-29-2007 10:41AM [Reply]
Hmmm, interesting... What did you say when you approached the table? Did the woman have a reason to act the way she did?
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smc112 replied on 08-30-2007 05:47AM [Reply]
Actually, I spoke to her as I approached the table and she didn't speak back. I don't know her reasoning for acting as she did, and there isn't any reason for people to be rude to others. She was a bad representation of the organization and I'm considering joining another organization. I pretty much narrowed it down to the two I was going to choose from. I'm not going to waste my money on an organization that has people in it who are silly and don't know how to act. I felt that her behavior was very uncalled for being that people were inquiring about her organization and she had an nasty attitude. I'm too grown for foolishness!
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C Nels replied on 09-05-2007 02:02AM [Reply]
So the only reason you were turned off to the entire organization was because one member didn't speak to you/gave you a cold shoulder? How did the other members treat you? Regardless of what organization you join, you will find folk who are "silly and don't know how to act". If you're too grown for foolishness then a sorority isn't for you. If you can find it in the world, you can find it in a sorority or fraternity, we aren't an exception.
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smc112 replied on 09-05-2007 04:03AM [Reply]
C_Nels wrote:
So the only reason you were turned off to the entire organization was because one member didn't speak to you/gave you a cold shoulder? How did the other members treat you? Regardless of what organization you join, you will find folk who are "silly and don't know how to act". If you're too grown for foolishness then a sorority isn't for you. If you can find it in the world, you can find it in a sorority or fraternity, we aren't an exception.
Actually, the girl was the only one at the table. Which I found very strange. I felt that if they let individuals like her in, that pretty much sums up the type of girls that they pick. As the saying goes, Birds of a feather flock together. So that girl was a representation of their organization on my campus, and I assume all of them act like her. Also, even in Proverbs it says that if you want friends you must show yourself friendly and that girl did the total opposite. So obviously they don't want quality people in their organization if they are rude and ugly to people that are inquiring about them at an organization fair on the campus. My family pretty much said the same things you said. They are wondering why in the world would I want to put myself in a box by being in a click? I feel very free right now, not being a part of a click. Actually, I thought about joining a Multicultural Sorority on my campus. I feel that is the best one to join because it opens up doors to other relationships with people of different cultures. Also, it is a great way of networking because everyone knows someone of importance. If I decide to do the Black Greek organization I might do it Grad chapter because I have a cousin that is a President over a Grad Chapter and it will breeze for me to join without all the hassle, because like I said before I'm too grown for foolishness! LOL
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C Nels replied on 09-05-2007 04:16AM [Reply]
Well if she was the only one that day, observe how the others act on campus. Don't label all members the same way just because of one person. The sister might have been having a bad day. ...you never know what's on folk's minds Best wishes with those aspirations, you're hearing more and more about multicultural sororities and fraternities these days. I wouldn't bank on your cousin though, she may not be in office after you graduate. Also, having one possible vote doesn't make you a shoo in for a BGLO.
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smc112 replied on 09-05-2007 04:30AM [Reply]
C_Nels wrote:
Well if she was the only one that day, observe how the others act on campus. Don't label all members the same way just because of one person. The sister might have been having a bad day. ...you never know what's on folk's minds Best wishes with those aspirations, you're hearing more and more about multicultural sororities and fraternities these days. I wouldn't bank on your cousin though, she may not be in office after you graduate. Also, having one possible vote doesn't make you a shoo in for a BGLO.
Yeah, you are right. I will watch the other members and see how they act. Anyway, my cousin will have a strong influence being that she is a president. With the BGLO's it is really based on who you know. Also, I"m sure being that it is an Grad Chapter they will take in all the people who are interested due to them needing money. ha ha In order for them to do the community service projects, taking trips, planning events, etc. they will need the funds to do those types of things. So it wouldn't be wise for them to reject anyone. LOL
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C Nels replied on 09-05-2007 05:03AM [Reply]
smc112 wrote:
Yeah, you are right. I will watch the other members and see how they act. Anyway, my cousin will have a strong influence being that she is a president. With the BGLO's it is really based on who you know. Also, I"m sure being that it is an Grad Chapter they will take in all the people who are interested due to them needing money. ha ha In order for them to do the community service projects, taking trips, planning events, etc. they will need the funds to do those types of things. So it wouldn't be wise for them to reject anyone. LOL
No that wouldn't be wise, they NEED you if they plan to survive another 100 years!
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juice88 replied on 09-05-2007 05:27AM [Reply]
that y dem type of groups at my school get suspended for 3 years.
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C Nels replied on 09-05-2007 05:31AM [Reply]
juice88 wrote:
that y dem type of groups at my school get suspended for 3 years.
??? They get suspended for not speaking to somebody? What school do you go to?
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