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More Than Your Man, Less Than Your Woman Posted on 10-03-2007

C Nels
Hialeah, FL
He has to take his rightful place as being the head of the household. We will not get married until he can prove that he can hold that position. I can live with the fact of earning more than him (before marriage)and being more educated than him. But only for a little while. I have children and him and I are the examples for them.
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TSUblueTiger replied on 10-03-2007 02:13PM [Reply]
Great Question! Beyond the money and education, I am still going to be the rock for my family. However, I could live with my wife making more money than me. Given today’s trends, it’s possible that ladies of different ethnicities will make more than their husband. In private and public sectors, there is an initiative for diversity that ranges from Management to Entry level. As far as education level, I think people should strive to reach their potential. If her desire is a Masters and my desire is a PhD, I am ok with that given a PhD is not her goal. I think the important factor to consider is their mentality. Does your potential wife or husband take steps to reach their goal? However, I don’t think the education level or degree obtained signifies their level of intelligence or define success for a given career path. I think career success and degrees required are determined by the requirements in a field of study. For example, if your major is Business, a MBA will qualify you for an executive position, if you are a leader. However, if your major is psychology, a Doctorate is required to be a psychologist. It is important to find an individual that complements you spiritually, mentally, and physically. I recommend brothers and sisters exercise patience and build better relationships. It may be challenging, but in the long run, it’s better for us to unite. We should address the future of families in our community, and it starts today. It starts with our perception and expectations of each other. I envision the future being better than the pass or present.
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iRep504 replied on 10-03-2007 02:14PM [Reply]
I'm semi-old school. I believe in the man being the head of household. If the female earns the majority of the income, it causes an awkward situation over "my house" and "my money" and "my car" and all of this... but if the couple is able to work it out then that's great. But I figure if I marry up (economically), then I won't have that problem. Also, I don't equate a person's intelligence entirely to their degrees. I know a lot of dumb doctors...but I mean... I like some one who is well rounded...a nice Renaissance Man.
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AfroPoeticSista replied on 10-04-2007 03:29PM [Reply]
i could make more money and have a higher educational level if we were compatible spiritually and intellectually. i know some einsteins who didn't go farther than trade school
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metal from Atlanta, GA replied on 10-05-2007 04:55PM [Reply]
Money isn't everything.
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iRep504 replied on 10-05-2007 07:44PM [Reply]
metal wrote:
Money isn't everything.
It almost is...
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metal from Atlanta, GA replied on 10-05-2007 08:09PM [Reply]
It has its place but it isnt the most important thing.
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evy08 replied on 10-06-2007 10:35AM [Reply]
I honestly don't know how I feel about this one....I mean, I'd rather for my SO to "bring home the bacon" (at least a good portion of it). But I'm not going to turn down someone who doesn't earn at least $10,000 more than I will, or someone who doesn't have their Masters or a PhD. There is more to life than titles and affluency. As long as he's a good God fearing man, who's on my level, and holds a job which suits him, then the rest will work itself out.
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Jamaican Shawty replied on 10-06-2007 05:37PM [Reply]
^^ See thats why i love my homie Evy she speak the truth ......its kinda the same for me BUT i wouldnt want to make more money than him if im the one paying for the majority of the bills.....it dont matter how much he makes as long as its split 50 50 between us or even if my future hubby know how to treat me and it is 100 0 (meaning i dont pay for no bills) lol thats alright too but im always willing to pay for my bills
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iRep504 replied on 10-06-2007 11:22PM [Reply]
metal wrote:
It has its place but it isnt the most important thing.
That would be the reason why I said... "almost"
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