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The right or wrong way Posted on 08-02-2008
Mikey

I am interested in a particular sorority. I have been attending programs since last year, learning all that I can about the organization, doing community service and keeping my grades up. I do know that eventually I will have to formally express my interest to one of the members. I'm kinda friendly with some of them. I wouldn't go as far as to say that we're really good friends, just associates from class, etc. and we exchange small talk every now and then. With that said... How do I formally express my interest without making myself look like a complete idiot? And what are some questions or phrases to stay away from in the conversation? Time is winding down and I need to act fast, but I am very nervous about it. Any advice is appreciated, from both greeks and non-greeks. And as always, if I have come off the wrong way with my post and have said anything disrespectful, then I apologize for my ignorance
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theTRUTH replied on 08-02-2008 05:51AM [Reply]
The best way to formally express your interest is to ask around and talk to others who may be interested also. Each campus/chapter and sorority is differnt and conducts things differently so there is no set "way". I know some girls at Howard who formally expressed their interest to members of a certain org and were hit with an PLETHORA of questions. Main point: if you formally express your interest and they ask you why you're interested, you better have a DAYUM GOOD response!
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smc112 replied on 08-06-2008 12:16AM [Reply]
Mikey wrote:
I am interested in a particular sorority. I have been attending programs since last year, learning all that I can about the organization, doing community service and keeping my grades up. I do know that eventually I will have to formally express my interest to one of the members. I'm kinda friendly with some of them. I wouldn't go as far as to say that we're really good friends, just associates from class, etc. and we exchange small talk every now and then. With that said... How do I formally express my interest without making myself look like a complete idiot? And what are some questions or phrases to stay away from in the conversation? Time is winding down and I need to act fast, but I am very nervous about it. Any advice is appreciated, from both greeks and non-greeks. And as always, if I have come off the wrong way with my post and have said anything disrespectful, then I apologize for my ignorance
Actually, you don't have to verbally express anything to the members. They will know if you are interested by attending a lot of their programs/events. If you have a friend that's a part of xyz, then it wouldn't hurt to mention that you are interested because she can put in a good word or give you advice. Well, you are doing the right things by being friendly and going to their programs and keeping your grades up. You shouldn't have a problem when it comes to rush unless you have dated a guy that they like. That is where the problems come in. There have been many females that have been rejected simply over a man. You will be surprised "who likes who" on a college campus. ( I know that was a side bar, but I just felt that would help.)
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Mikey replied on 08-10-2008 10:42PM [Reply]
To Truth: I understand how this can help me...BUT...pursuing membership in an org CAN get messy. I've seen it happen to a good friend of mine when you talk to others about it. I'd rather not do that, the only ppl that need to know that I'm interested are myself and the chapter members of that org. To smc112: Very true...well since I refuse to date the guys on my campus I'll be very surprised if that happens.
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