I have never been a fan of giving a guy blue prints on how to "get me" or females period. Honestly it depends on the type of female you are going after, each person's standards, and each person's intentions.
I will say this, asking for my name and immediately asking for my number is a no-no. I require a conversation to give me some insight what a person is about. And dont ever give me a name (shawty, baby, mami etc)-I have my own. If i want to know it I will give it to you.
Im a prime example of what you are not used to in a female: having self-respect. How do you read hostility? Your interpretation maybe where the problem lies. I can not be "hostel" since that is a place-you know a noun, not a verb. I see those homonyms trip you up on every forum. Maybe you should pick up a couple of books and learn how to criticize a person.
That something you feel beneath the surface is my engagement ring. Never had a problem with quanity but I have always preferred quality
How do you like to be approached, can you sense a lack of confidence?
-I liked to be approached in a respectful way, no pssst, no hey girl, no ay bay bay...I feel like i'm an approachable person i'm not the kind to give unnecessary attitude or be disrepectful so i expect the same treatment in return...I just want you to be you, dont put on no facade or try to spit game or come at me with weak lines...if your goofy be goofy, if your outgoing be outgoing, just be genuine...I can definatly sense a lack of confidence and its very unattractive
What are a couple features you notice on guys?
-Physically i notice height, nice teeth, nice build, and just an overall well kept appearance
What sets certain dudes apart?
-Personality is the biggest factor for me...a man who is intelligent, funny, humble, down to earth, laid back, kind, and confident enough to be himself will definatly stand out to me
What don't you want to hear in the first 40sec of convo? What do guys usually say?
-I do not wanna hear about your flashy cars, your stacks of money, how many pair of j's you own, or how big your house is...and i definatly do NOT wanna hear no lines from any one of Lil Waynes or Plies songs l0l
*i guess the best advice i can give, even though it sounds so cliche (l0l), is to jus be yourself*
I agree with everything xshortmochax said.
Just to add my own little piece:
How do you like to be approached ?
My friends did a little experiment and just saying "Excuse me miss" got a girl's attention EVERY time. It's simple and respectful.
What are a couple features you notice on a guy ?
Because I'm basically addicted to shoes, the first thing I notice on a guy is shoes. But besides that, as long as they know how to present themselves for example matching and having clean clothes that aren't wrinkled then they are straight.
What sets certain dudes apart ?
Smelling really good ! If someone smells good I'm just going to want to be around them lol
What don't you want to hear in the first 40 ****. of a convo ? What do guys usually say ?
Like they said before, don't talk about how much money you have. I am not a gold digger and I don't care how ballin' you think you are. But, if a girl says she has a boyfriend, don't try to still holla at her. People always say, "What does he have to do with me?" That irritates me lol
But basically, if you approach a girl don't be scared because even if she rejects you, there are plenty of other girls. And if you are respectful to her she will most likely be respectful to you.