Well, I was basically talking to this guy all school year. Everything was cool the summer before I went back to Hampton. We even said we'd take it to the next level when I came home for a break, but then things got weird. We'd argue all the time, but whenever I came back home (BTW: he goes to Georgia tech in Atlanta, so it was a LD thing) things were better again. Now when I came home back in May for the summer, things were okay...at least I thought they were. After we saw each other, two weeks go by and to make a long story short, he met some girl or whatever that he was introduced to by one of his roommates during those weeks. Now, me and him were in this pseudo relationship for almost a year, but a month after things end between us, he makes the girl his girlfriend!
It's been about two months since that all went down and I'm getting over it as each day goes by, but the hurt is still there. I was really good to that boy, even while I was ten hours away at Hampton. I feel like I wasted my time and that I am in love with someone who wants someone else. It hurts, but.....I dunno. I just feel stupid.
I just want someone I can truly vibe with and who will want to be with me and only me. I'm tired of getting hurt.
Anyone ever been in a situation like this or something similar? What are some of yall's advice?
Girl, I feel your pain. I have been in a situation similar to that. My senior year in high school I was going with a guy who I had met through a friend. We both seemed to really be feeling each other, however we lived an hour away. Although we were alittle distance, we decided to make it work. Later on in the relationship, he told me that he was going into the Airforce....I was sad, but I told him I would stay with him no matter what. He said the same thing and I thought he was sincere. A couple of weeks later, he tells me that he wanted to end everything because "it would hurt [him] too much if he couldn't see me on a regular basis, but [he] loved me with all [his] heart." Of course, I believed this all, however the truth was, he had gotten another girl, a friend of his, who was also going into the Airforce. I was so hurt after I found this out that I cried for weeks. I thought I loved him and I was sure he loved me, but I was proved wrong. I just knew I would never fiind anyone like him, but I actually found someone better. Who treats me right. So my advice to you, would be just to keep your head up. There are more fish in the sea and when the right guy comes along you will know. Good Lick and keep us updated!
Awww Nikia...I love u girl!!! I see I'm gonna have to make another trip to Atl to chill with u! U and him and me and "the ex"....i feel u 100%. Read my quote girl...time is the only thing that will heal that wound. Every little thing reminds me of him...from songs on the radio, to tv shows, to words and places....everywhere I turn reminders of him are there. You're just gonna have to rely on your girls to see u through it...and chill! There is someone worthy of u....we just gotta get rid of his girlfriend....lol...u know who I'm talking about! :lol: Luv u girl!!! Keep smiling!
^^^ That's my philosophy on relationships. Let him find you. Yeah the in between time can be hard but I've had some quality relationships....although we aren't together now I can still respect them a little bit. It seemed all my relationships were for a purpose so though it hurt a little bit I thank God and try to keep my complaints to a minimum.
My advice to you would be to realize that yes, it's tiring and frustrating to talk to different guys and keep getting dissappointed, yet remember that you are not alone; you are not the only female that this has happened to. Not only has it happened to many different ladies in this forum, but it has also happened to me. The only consolation that I can offer is this fact: every different guy you encounter teaches you more about what you want, what you will and won't tolerate, and what you're looking for, that way, when God sends you THE ONE, you'll recognize him and be able to fully appreciate him for all that he is. In the meantime, focus on you and what makes you happy. If you still want to be with this guy, who knows, maybe he'll realize his mistake and time will bring you two back together. If you don't want anything to do with him, then just don't forget that you gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. Stay strong, sweetie.
men aint sh*t.....
*handing all the females in post spoons and icecream*
::thinking back to Christmas break:::
You know what.... :cry:
they aint' shyt. I'mma wear a shirt with M.A.S. written across..CUZ THE MAKE ME SICK ......SOMETIMES... ::looks down::
::grabs a spoon:::
::sniff:: I feel better..