Ok...so we're all ranting and raving about meeting a good man...blah blah blah. Well I found him....and I'm afraid of him. He's "too good."Him
25 (in Oct)
career (comp prog)
singer in a group
(single coming out soon)
photograhper
6 y/o son (he has custody)
bought house at age 21
man of God
very successful
I'm just a new 20 y/o (July 7th), rising junior trying to decide what path I want to take after college. See I've known him since I was 17, but he didn't attempt to pursue me until i was legal, so I'm comfortable around him for the most part. And he really wants to be with me. We went to IHOP last night and I was just like....I'm not on your level...or close. I know that I'm mature for my age...always had to be, but never will I be able to compare to you. He intimidates me sooooo much, be he's so great!!! Why couldn't I just be a year older. Even if I were 21 and just graduated from college I'd feel a lil better about it. He says even 30y/o women tell him that he's just too put together! He is one of the few men that has his sh*t straight.....what do I do??? :?:
It all depends on what level yall are on. If it is bothering you this early into the relationship it could escalate and cause problems in the relationship. Especially if he knows that you're not secure. you should make him see that although you havent accomplished as much in life, you are still a strong indepedent woman who will make accomplishments as such. Everyone has their time to shine, and you will definitely get yours. But if he sees that you're not confident around him, then he probably won't like it. If you think that you and this guy could have a bright future then definitely go for what you want. If not, take it as a loss. But you shouldn't be with n e one, who makes you weary. But also take it into good account that he is doing something positive with his life while most peope aren't. Also look out for that baggage he has. Not saying kids are baggage but they come with it, if the mother is around. Alright hope this was good enough aDvice and i wish yall much LucK.
What he likes about you is that you are mature and independent. He's so put together beacuse he has to be. He has a child to take care of. Girl all i can sy is keep this man in your life whether he be the man of your life or just a good freind to lean on. He's there for you now so he'll be there for you later. Just don't let his accomplishments slow yours down keep your dreams.
He likes the fact that you the freedom to be undecisive and he likes the fact that you are "together" in al of your chaoticness :?:
Just let things flow it'll happen in its own time. :wink:
*hits miss nia in back of head*
Did I knock some sense into ya? Girl you betta go for it b4 you end up regretting it. At least give it a chance and if it doesn't work out then it just doesn't. You don't wanna end up like Brian McKnight talking bout "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda" do you?
My advice: GO FOR IT, or REGRET IT LATER!
what do I do??? :?:
do like Madea said, "Girl you betta get that man and put em' on lock down- Clink Clink!"
No but seriously, go for it. We always talk about finding a good man, and it seems like God has hand delivered him to you. Don't miss ya blessing.
*hits miss nia in back of head*
Did I knock some sense into ya? Girl you betta go for it b4 you end up regretting it. At least give it a chance and if it doesn't work out then it just doesn't. You don't wanna end up like Brian McKnight talking bout "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda" do you?
My advice: GO FOR IT, or REGRET IT LATER!
Thanks to everyone for their input and advice! I have decided to jump at this opportunity. Plus he makes it hard for me not too....he puts me at ease when I'm usually on edge! That is a great feeling!!!
He's "too good."
