This is just something I have been wondering about. I know that a lot of people meet on the internet, whether they are actively looking for love or if they just happen to meet at a board like this, and sometimes they meet and everything is just as cool as it is online.
But do you think that anybody can meet online, and maybe talk on the phone, see each other's pics, etc. etc., and really have true feelings for the other person before they have actually met and spent time together? I am not saying it's not possible, but from what I see, it seems like you may like the idea more than the reality since you haven't been around them. There are some people that I can talk to and get along with easy online or on the phone, but in person things can always be a lot different.
I don't know if I can really explain my point as good as I want to...but many of y'all know that just being around somebody and havin like a silent presense can mean a lot, whether good or bad, in a way that you could never feel just from talkin to somebody on the phone or online.
Also...a bit off topic, but if you really can have feelings for somebody like that, what IF somebody on the other end was completely different than what you thought they were, whether from their picture or description? I have not heard of anybody who thought they were talkin to a man/woman online and ended up meetin them and seein they were a woman/man, but I am sure it's happened. What do you think about that?
I think you definitely can develop feelings for someone you get to know through correspondence.
Whether those feelings change after you meet is another issue entirely.
You can get a feel for what someone's personality by talking to them. You can get an idea of what someone looks like and what their style is like by seeing a picture. From these things, you can develop an attraction.
The thing is that what you see can be misleading, either on purpose because he or she is trying to deceive you, or because something in their personality glosses over through conversation that becomes visible in person. I know many people who were smitten for someone they got to know through letters or online, whose feelings changed once they actually became familiar with the person.
But if you get to know someone well enough, this isn't always the case. A man's words are a window to his soul.
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I guess I thought I had feelings for someone I was "corresponding" with...but when i met them in person, I just wasn't as attached as I thought I was. I think that meeting someone new always comes with a rush of emotions..like musiq said "everything is cool, when love is all brand new, cuz you're learning me, and i'm learning you"
I haven't developed feelings by "corresponding" with them online but I have met someone online in person and developed feelings once I got to know them..
But people could be whomever they want online. So if I were you..I'd take a few steps back and calm those feelings down..
