Wuzzup Ladies,
This was my first semester in college. I must say it was a very interesting experience. As my friend said to me at the end of the semester, "I spuandered soo many opportunities to get with very attractive girls, because I am not very sociable. I had girls stare, and even bump in to me to try to get my attention. I noticed all these signs, but I am not the type to approach girls. I am accustomed to females approaching me, even the dimes. All this attention could have bloated my head and ego, but I don't really care because I got so used to it. This second semester, I have to be more aggresive. Why can't a girl who is attracted to a boy just come over and tell him? Can I still go back next semester and befriend all those girls that gave me the look, but didn't get anything in return? I know college isn't all about girls, but that is all the boys on my floor talk about. I don't want the females in my school to think I am conceided and start disliking me. What can I do to change my situation?
Of course you can still recover :? . My question is why do the girls have to come up to you? Why can't you approach a girl? Perhaps as you get older you will gain more confidence and be able to approach more women instead of relying on them approaching you. But to sum it up I dont think you've messed things up beyond recovery. In fact, this may only help you. Now you may have an air of mystery about you . . .which is always intriguing . . . . 8)
Of course you can still recover :? . My question is why do the girls have to come up to you? Why can't you approach a girl? Perhaps as you get older you will gain more confidence and be able to approach more women instead of relying on them approaching you. But to sum it up I dont think you've messed things up beyond recovery. In fact, this may only help you. Now you may have an air of mystery about you . . .which is always intriguing . . . . 8)
Well, my mother always says that the guy should approach the girl first. Although my mother is old fashioned I take her advice. She's been married over thirty years, she should know. As far as if the firl will be listening to you spittin your game now, that's questionable. Not every girl is going to wait a semester for the guy to finally come around. Especially if all she got to see was your looks and not realy get to know you. You know what I mean? She was just physically attracted to you.
Even though this topic was aimmed toward females...I may be of some assistance.....
Jay,
Trust me...I was in your shoes (or your friends)...When I got to Bama State, I was in awe because I never seen that many fine females in one place before....During orientation, a lot of females was trying to get my attention....The first mistake a brother makes is getting affiliated with a clique....Do your own thing, I have noticed that the cats on my campus that get the most females stay to they self.....I came to school with two dudes from my city so I was rolling with someone at all times....That hindered me from making good decisions because you worry about what your boy may say or their opinion....As time went on I got with a larger group of people but I started to do my own thing....I'm not for approaching females either unless it's a for sure thing ( I hate rejection )...
So, once I got off my high horse I started approaching females...I was quite successful may I add.....I encountered a problem however, because like ya friend did not do, I got the big head...So, I was talking to 17 females at once (my boys and I counted (official)) And that was hurting my grades because you know females need attention, now try 17 of them....
So, I cut alot of them...like 14........Like four months ago, I met a female that I liked but I blew her off because I was talking to her friend....But as time went on she still was on my mind and now she is the only one I have (my girlfriend)...If I wasn't so stuck on myself I could have been with her....but hey.....Now we a good couple....
Basically, in a nutshell I'm telling you to be more assertive.....
1) Realize what you want- Many dudes go into to college trying to get everybody...My n!ggas is like that....Do you want to be a player or a lover...You can only love one female so find out what you want to be first....that leads to....
2) Confidence- Females love a brother with confidence...As much as females talk about **** dudes that approach them, they have to respect that guy....So, if you (you know, nice looking to the females) then you can be the exception.....Approach the females....It will pay off.....
3) How many you want- Back to this....if you want alot of females, be careful how you go about it.....I mean once you get labeled a player or a hoe...It will become difficult.....So, keep your business to yourself, everyone don't need to knwo who you talking to.....Go to secluded areas....Females like to approach a male that another woman want but don't make it where you seen with alot of females all the time.......If you want one specific female...go all out, don't half a**...because if some other female see you going all out for a female and that female blow you off...The other females see that and may want that type of attention from you........
I'm done, I got more but I'm done for now......This is my second semester too so I can help you along...I'm not tryna be ya daddy or nothing but I have learned so much last semester that I can be of help to someone else..........
a helpful tip:
Make friends with some females...every female isn't what you should try to jump on...but they may have a friend that is or in a class with a female you want to get at....In a way, you have a middle-woman....I have a few homegirls on campus, and when I was tryna be a ****, they sent some females my way...no lie...it works...once again, a female don't want a man that no other female want...If you got someone to embelish you, or advertise you as a good product....You in!!!!!!!!!
a helpful tip:
Make friends with some females...every female isn't what you should try to jump on...but they may have a friend that is or in a class with a female you want to get at....In a way, you have a middle-woman....I have a few homegirls on campus, and when I was tryna be a ****, they sent some females my way...no lie...it works...once again, a female don't want a man that no other female want...If you got someone to embelish you, or advertise you as a good product....You in!!!!!!!!!
