alrite for awhile i been wanting 2 join a certain frat. im real cool with a couple members, like we go back since our freshman year. anyways my dad is also a member of tha frat. one day me and my pops was chillin and he ran into a couple of members that i dont really know, so they start talkin and **** so i bounce and let them do they ****, so i see my pops goin off on these dudes, like ready 2 throw blows and **** then the young dudes walk away, and my pops like they disrespectful and that he been a member damn near longer than they been born. he did it in undergrad in like 80 or 81. anyways spring i go 2 the interest meetin and one dude calls me out 2 the otha dudes we seen like "yo thats that **** who daddy" blah blah blah. anyways i didnt get picked, dunno if thats the reason or if its other reasons. i never even mentioned it 2 my boys cause i think its irrelevant. i dont want 2 do it in grad, and this is my last year, but in a way its like do i even try cause if i do make it online i kno that i'll have 2 go thru some extra bullsh1t. i wont mind doin some of the things that u have 2 go thru when ur online, but its the extra b.s. that might come along with it that im worried about cause them **** might have it out 4 me, and i dont have nothing 2 do with that **** that went down.everybody keep tellin me that its something i been wantin 2 do so just do it and dont worry about them, but i kno that tha pledge process aint no joke, plus people died from doin that ****, and i dont know if them **** know when 2 draw the line, i aint tryin 2 have no serious injuries and i wouldnt want 2 quit, so im just wondering if i should just let it go or what. just needed some unbiased opinions.
dayum! I remember when I was in my first interest meeting and I was just a rushee, and i remember the older bruhs making fun of what this one guy and how he was wearing a crimson and black suit. *sighs* ahh, the old times! But back to your issue, man thats a tough issue with your pops and how he may have possibly burned your bridges from doing something great in your life. If I were in the situation I would approach a member that you may know a little better than the others, and ask if you can arrange a time where you and his bruhs can sit down and talk about the issue at hand. You can even invite 1 or 2 of them to dinner to let them know your serious (but do it in a way that won't sound like your brown-nosing. like "hey, i was wondering if maybe you and I can sit down over lunch so we can get ourselves aquainted,etc)
Basically, let them know that you are in a special situation and that it means you will work even harder and be more of an impact to the organization because of what you been through. Make them understand that no matter how your father is viewed, that you are a different person and will be a positive attribute to the fraternity, if given the opportunity to prove yourself beyond this minor adversity. (but not in that word of course) 8)
^^^ Pretty much cause he is in a situation that was completely outta his control, and we really dont have the answer to help him, and ur answer seems to be most appropriate for his situation.
Well my dad is a (_____) but I have no intentions of pledging. So I have to ask, what does your dad say about them? Why was he about to **** on em if they were part of his group, and would he even want you to be pledged by the dudes who disrespected him? My dad doesn't really have a problem with the younger (_____)s but I know that he doesn't really want me to pledge just because of how they were back when he did it in 66, and he doesn't really talk to a lot of them like many of the OGs do so I just wonder if there is any kind of tension between him and the org. itself. I'd talk to my dad and just see what he thinks about it, and if he says he doesn't want you to, then I'd take his advice.
