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She's leaving School Because she "heard" they are Posted on 09-01-2004
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Ok, Im a freshie in college and my girl is a soph. She wants to pledge..but the group she wants to pledge just got back on campus from suspension or whatever. I guess she's been wanting to be greek for awhile, and join this particular group. BUT I guess since this is that organizations first year back from suspension they cant have a pledging process or whatever...( don't get mad at me if im not saying this correctly but this is how she explained it to me)...but anyways she's basically saying that in order for her to be apart of that group all she has to do is show up to a meeting...pay her dues..and get then she'll recieve her letters from that organization...She said she doesnt want to be paper...she wants to go through the pledging process to she can feel like she has a right to actually wear her letters... I thought that was highly untrue...but I may be wrong thats why Im asking...she's saying she's transferring from her school so she can pledge this greek org. She's going to leave all her friends and family for this...and I can't really figure out a way to talk her out of it... I mean she's a **** because I told her just to ask a greek or something about it but she said its against the rules...I don't know but she's in the process of getting her transfer papers together and I wanted to know is theier anything I can say to her to make her slow down... Like I said I dont know too much about greeks..what you can ask them..and what you can't ask them..but in her case what should I say to her..or what should she do?? Because I mean this is only a rumor that she's going off of...
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lilmsnay83 replied on 09-01-2004 06:03PM [Reply]
Im not in any type of greek sorority, but I feel her in a way. If I was her I wouldnt go paper either, because its not the same and you may not get same respect as the others who arent paper. Unlike her Im a senior and still trying to pledge, but shes a sophomore. She still has time. They might not have a line this year, but they may next year. She can transfer to a school where they do have an active chapter of what she wants to pledge but that does not gurantee her that they will have a line either. So if I was her I would wait it out and maybe talk with someone of that particular sorority.
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ManifestDSTiny33 replied on 09-01-2004 09:19PM [Reply]
I think your friend was really hasty..... cuz it would be a shytty situation if she transferred and then they got suspended.. I think she should wait.. If it was me, I think I would transfer...but after my Junior year.... Does she know how long they will be papering.. I heard about a campus that was like, we're not going to cross lines until the paper-order has been lifted, so no one is crossing..... but I think it would be a better idea be paper and than be MADE by a grad. person... umm.. wow...
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hot_coco from Queens, NY replied on 09-01-2004 10:18PM [Reply]

Maybe it's just me....but doesn't SCHOOL come first :? I'm here at Hampton University paying thousands of dollars to get my degree.....everything else I do here (as great as it may be 8) ) is secondary. To transfer schools to chase the mere chance to pledge doesn't sound like an intelligent decision.
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La replied on 09-02-2004 11:26AM [Reply]
hot_coco wrote:
Maybe it's just me....but doesn't SCHOOL come first :? I'm here at Hampton University paying thousands of dollars to get my degree.....everything else I do here (as great as it may be 8) ) is secondary. To transfer schools to chase the mere chance to pledge doesn't sound like an intelligent decision.
I agree completely. Your friendly clearly has her priorities out of order,and forgot the main reason why she is in school. If I were in her situation, and I know how badly I want to pledge a certain org, I would just wait and finish my degree at FAMU, and pledge grad chapter, and make sure the grad school I attend does have a grad chapter....but hey, thats me.
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JDub replied on 09-02-2004 11:38AM [Reply]
Your friend needs some serious help if she wants to transfer to pledge a sorority, education should be place first.
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replied on 09-02-2004 04:51PM [Reply]
Aight.... I'm just gonna have to agree with what has been said. School is the priority. She might want to worry about the school and let the organization play second to her excelling in the business world and her mind.
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replied on 09-02-2004 11:39PM [Reply]
Ok, not to be rude or anything but some of you in this thread who are not members of any orgs should not be given this young man advice. A few of you non-members did give out some good advice but the majority of the advice in here from you non-members is bull. I am not trying to be funny or anything but some of you should just keep quiet. Now to the poster who posed the initial question. First I will say that you should advise your friend that first of all School comes first. She should not transfer schools just to pledge a sorority. If she does so her priorities are out of order and it will make her look stupid. Here are a few things that she should know before she considers transferring: 1) I can't speak for other Sororities but as for Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated if you are a transfer student you have to attend the school that you are transferring to for at least one semester before you are eligible to apply for membership. So even if she transfers if they have a line the same semester that she transfers she will not even be eligible to apply which will make her transfer invalid and plain stupid. 2) Even if she transfers and even if she is eligible to apply it does not guarantee acceptance into the sorority. Just because she is interested in a sorority doesn't mean she will be accepted and just because she applies doesn't mean she will automatically have access to membership. What if she transfers and they have a line and she isn't accepted? That would defeat her whole purpose of transferring and she would look stupid. Membership is not guaranteed to anyone and it is just plain dumb to transfer with the expectation that you will become a member of an organization because there is always a chance that the odds may not work in your favor. She really needs to talk to an actual member in the organization because she is making a dumb decision. A little advice to people seeking membership, you should never transfer schools just to pledge an organization. School comes 1st before anything. I met so many girls that transferred to my school just to pledge and NONE of them made it....NOT ONE! And another thing, if you are joining an organization based on their pledge process or lack thereof then maybe you should rethink why you want to become a member. Being in a sororitiy is so much more than "made" vs "paper" :roll:
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