I was just over in this area of the fellas forum:
http://hbcuconnect.com/cafe/viewtopic.php?p=350543#350543
and Kools comment made me think........................
some women tend to run like hell when they find the good black man they are really looking for......................
i wanna leave this kinda open ended, where we don't necesarrily have to stay on one question for a thousand pages.......................
so I was womdering (from a p.o.v. of someone who's not single)
why do some females run from good men?
Why if they GET a good man, they do him wrong as hell and leave him for the next sista with the right attitiude to clean up?
why if a sista works with a man, and gets him all prepared to be the kind of man she saw he had the potential to be, all the exes wanna pop up talking about some "oh, i KNEW u was the one for me (insert name here)"
ok................
thas my little outburst for today......................
every1 feel free to add questions and answer them too........................
Well I can't speak for everyone but I know I did this once and at that time I had no trust in someone who was so good to me. It wasnt that I didnt wanna believe him but it was juat the fact that I have been hurt so much that I look for the faults in people out of routine. But I dont do it anymore because I dont wanna mess my blessing up that God sends for me.
^I agree with what you said.
Some of us women have been in bad relationships and it's hard for us to trust any man again, bad or good. Sometimes when we get a good man some of us figure it's too good to be true so they think "well let me run from this before he get's a oppritunity to hurt me, cause I know it's coming".
I, personally, have been with guys that treated me like I was queen of the United States, and was considered to be a good guy. But soon enough, I find out their true colors. So for a lot of us, you never know who's actually a goood man.
Then there are those who like to be mistreated. That sounds bad and doesn't make sense, but some women like the thrill although it could be damaging to our esteem.
1. Women tend to run away from the good men because they are scared. Why they are scared? They have there own reasons. I was scared because I was too stubborn to face reality.
2. They need to grow up. After they have thought what they have done, it is too late. Nucca is all fucced up and scared to open up another female. Then that causes problems in their relationship.
3. Cause they some dumb broads. They realize they had a good man and they ain't no how to act. Then it is too late. Sorry chick. Get back!
Some of us women have been in bad relationships and it's hard for us to trust any man again, bad or good. Sometimes when we get a good man some of us figure it's too good to be true so they think "well let me run from this before he get's a oppritunity to hurt me, cause I know it's coming".
I, personally, have been with guys that treated me like I was queen of the United States, and was considered to be a good guy. But soon enough, I find out their true colors. So for a lot of us, you never know who's actually a goood man.
Exactly.
Becuz when it comes down to it, everyone thinks they're "good". If i walked up to every dude on this campus and asked him "sir are u a good Black man?", i'm sure each one would say "hell yeah" in a heartbeat. Heck...i bet Ike Turner prolly thought he was a "good man" :roll: . But that doesn't mean ish nowadayz. A "good man" is still liable to lie to u, he is still liable to cheat on u, and he is still liable to play u. Just becuz someone is "good" doesn't mean that they are good to you/for you.
So it just boils down to the fact that it takes A LOT for some women to trust men. That's the point where i'm at and i don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. Just becuz a guy says "i'm a good Black man" i am not going to be so quick to assume that he is incapable of doing me wrong. Trust is something to be earned
^^^but u have to understand that it goes both ways. Women don't just turn scandalous over nite. Just like men turn bitter from being done wrong, so do women. 9 times out of 10, a woman turns into a hoe or goldigger, from being done wrong to the point that it just doesn't matter anymore. They figure, "if men don't care...why should I?"
I can agree with this also. It is vice versa. Different strokes for different folks.
