I can totally understand. Some females just want to work on themselves, focus on their future, or don't feel emotionally ready for what a relationship requires. Just becuz a good man or woman comes along, doesn't mean that you yourself are at a point where u can make a relationship of that magnitude work. And i can respect someone who can admit to that, rather than just jumping into something in fear of losing it, and watching it fail and crumble later on down the line becuz they were never ready for it to begin with.
Like i always say..."just becuz someone is good, it doesn't mean that they are good for you." It isn't about finding a good person, it's about finding the right person. And in my opinion, the whole point of being single is to prepare yourself and make sure you are equipped to love that "right" person the way that they need to be loved.
yeah I have done that before, gotten with a guy even though I didn't want a boyfriend. It wasn't intentionally though. It was the beginning of my senior year and I just wanted to concentrate on my schoolwork. But then I met _________ and we became good friends...and we ended up dating. I don't regret that at all, because he knew I was a work in progress and was getting myself together, and to this day, I consider that to be one of the best relationships I have ever had in the short 18 years of my life...but yeah I can understand a girl passing up a good guy because she doesn't want a relationship. If he really wants to pursue a relationship that bad, he will stick around and be patient and wait if he's really a good guy like he says he is and if it is really meant to be. But if it aint meant to be, then u will move on and find someone who is good for YOU...
I have been in this situation actually just recently. I was talking to someone but at the same time I let him know that I was not ready to be in a serious relationship because I am trying to stay focused on school it was up to him to understand that. I left it up to him though because I really did like him but I did not want to get serious. I guess he could not take it so he kind of dissed me. He wanted to be in relationship now. What can you say. All I know is I let a guy that is interested in me know a head of time about my standards. Sometimes when you get in a serious relationship you can get side swiped and not focus on things that is your priority. I am also like what is the rush take your time and if it is meant to be than you all will get more serious later. Sometimes it takes a mature person to see things like that.