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Have you had any friendships ruined because of Greek issues? Posted on 01-23-2005

R-Tistic
Los Angeles, CA
Is there anyone who has either lost a friendship, or ended up havin a conflict with a friend of theirs, somehow relating to Greek life? I see it happen a lot at FAMU, and it usually happens in the "interest" stage. If you don't wanna speak about your personal problems or experiences, do you know anybody who had problems because of this?
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replied on 01-23-2005 09:57AM [Reply]
Naw I haven't lost any friends, but thas also cause u gotta let your true friends kno the deal.... and if they not ya friends awhen u done and they said they were before... than they were never really your friend. Now relationships...... thats a horse of a different color.
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ClassyWisdom08 replied on 01-23-2005 05:37PM [Reply]
Plain and simple...Your friends have to adjust to the changes that are made in your life.True friends will understand and if they don't,It's your job to explain in to them the best way possible.Also,just because you become Greek doesnt mean you have to forget about those you love.I find that many people lose friends because they get so wrapped up in the Greek life. As far as relationships go...The same should apply.
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faeriechild06 from Orangeburg, SC replied on 01-24-2005 01:41AM [Reply]

Have i lost any friends? No. Did i have issues with any? Just a little. I'm a delta and i had a friend who wanted to be a delta but never pursued it. After i came out she felt so left out and wondered why i was always too busy to hang out. She still regrets not pledging and kinda expects me to let her know the inside scoop on Delta but i brush her off politely and she's still a real good friend. I had issues with my cousin who's an AKA but thats a whole different story!!! :lol:
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cutiepie@csu from cincinnati, OH replied on 06-10-2005 03:49PM [Reply]

Me and my friend ______ we were really cool at the beginning of fall quarter but after she became an AKA she began to seem different :twisted: .... She always talks about how her bruhs do this and the sorors that :arrow: .... which all that stuff is cool... but when she tries to talk about the sorority I am interested in (in a negative way) I get a little upset ~:-( . It seems like she tries to put all the other sororities down to make the AKA's seem perfect O:-) .... I just don't appreciate that. We still speak and hang out sometimes but we are not as cool as we were. :smt075
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PGPeripheryGirl from NY, NY replied on 06-14-2005 09:04PM [Reply]
See, I don't understand how friendships getting ruined over Greek life. I have friends that want to do Delta and I still respect their decision and I look forward to the day I see them probate (assuming and hoping that they make it of course). Hell, my cousin wants to do Delta and I encourage her. I think she'd be one cute Delta lol. The rivalry is so unnecessary, just because one person choses ABC doesn't mean that they hate DEF and think that ABC is better. People who constantly try to perpetuate these ideas need to cut it out. Now in terms of my non-Greek friends, I feel bad for them sometimes because out of a clique of 5, 3 of us did AKA. So people are always asking the other 2 "Did u pledge anything" and they're like "Nooo". And then the always complain that they haven't taken a picture with me in months because everytime I go to take a picture, one of my sorors pops up and turn it into a Greek photo-op. But hey, its pretty funny
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truthBtold replied on 06-15-2005 03:29AM [Reply]
its crazy because my friends are all at the stage where they're just expressing interest in the different organizations, but stuff has already started to go kinda....wrong. Peoples true colors are starting to come out, and its like alot of people are straight up ruthless. And mind you this all went down right before we left for summer so its not even like any type of rush or anything is coming up, so its like damn im scared to see what people are gonna start acting like once the new semester begins because obviously as freshman theres only so much you could do but people were already starting to act a fool (run on sentence..i know). Like for example a few people that i know threw a party, and they handed out invitations. now they were trying to throw this party to get the attention of a certain organization....so, they handed out invitations-guys couldnt bring anyone and girls could only bring one guest. mind you most females have more then one friend. Now this doesnt seem so bad, but they put up flyers.....so everyone knew about it, but only a few people were invited.im like ok why did yall do that, and basically they didnt want just anyone showing up because they were trying to impress XYZ, but it was just wack the way it went down. Turns out.........the organization they were trying to impress is suspended. I hate to laugh but...... :lol:
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DSTined from Nashville, TN replied on 06-15-2005 09:21AM [Reply]

A friendship cannot be ruined because of a Greek issue. Now associates or fake people will show their true colors with the quickness. My BEST BEST friend in the whole world wants to pledge a different sorority. We talked about it yesterday and her excitement and dedication to do what she has to do has me wanting it for her just as bad if not more than she does. We've been through more than wearing different colors.
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replied on 06-15-2005 04:52PM [Reply]
DSTined wrote:
A friendship cannot be ruined because of a Greek issue. Now associates or fake people will show their true colors with the quickness. My BEST BEST friend in the whole world wants to pledge a different sorority. We talked about it yesterday and her excitement and dedication to do what she has to do has me wanting it for her just as bad if not more than she does. We've been through more than wearing different colors.
That's real talk right there. My best friend is a Zeta, nothing will ever change my love for her
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Soundcheck 1898 replied on 06-15-2005 07:35PM [Reply]
Random question but is it me or are women more cutthroat in the interest stage. Especially when it comes to interest in different orgs. I know i've heard some crazy stories about the stuff that goes down over at Spelman during those stages but somebody dispel this image that i have if its not true. As for me I know it showed me who my true friends were. When I dissappeared in that fateful Spring of 04 the ones who were truly closest to me not only stuck by my side but helped me out (and sometimes my LBs as well) and were there when I needed them the most. One of my best female friends would even risk sneaking on and off campus well after visitation ended. Those who weren't real ended up fading to the background. Alot of people who were cool before they were Greek remained that way after. The class of 06 and Fall 03/Spring 04 had some humble dudes on lines across the board and for a while life (especially greek life) on campus was lookin real good.
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