Alright, here it goes...
See, I've been talking with this guy since the end of last September (just as friends). When we first met and stuff, I had no intention of liking him for more than a friend... that was all I was looking for as far as he was concerned: friendship. Well, over the past few months, I've noticed that I'm actually starting to like him, REALLY like him. It's like we've been talking almost every night (we might go two days at the most without talking to one another) since we don't go to the same school (in 2 different states as a matter of fact... but they are only a hour and a half away at the most from each other).
When we talk, we talk about almost everything. We actually go from an intelligent convo about politics to a conversation on a movie to talking about the Proud Family (a cartoon if you don't know). And he actually shows interest in my day and how I'm feeling. And then we have had conversations on relationships and our past relationships with other people.
Well, a couple of months ago, we were talking and he saying how he was afraid to get really close to a female or let a female become really close to him because he starts to push them away. Then he was like, he wants to be in a relationship, but he's afraid of being hurt and stuff. I also been hurt pretty bad in the past as well, but I'm over that now.
Anyway, like I said. I'm feeling him. He sometimes talk about his other female friends and it's like "yea my homegirl so and so said..." or "I was chilling with my homegirl...". I'm cool with him having homegirls or whateva so it's not like I'm jealous... well, not all of the time anyway. But if I say "I was hangin with my friend brandon..." or something of that sort, he sorta responds sarcastically like "isn't that nice?" or "oh really?". So I'm not sure if he's jealous or whatever.
Okay but my question is, should I pursue a more serious relationship with him? If so, what should I do? I'm not trying to make him run away which is my fear if I try to pursue a relationship? Or should I just stay friends? Or should I let things run its course and see what happens (remember it's been about 6 months now)?
Fellas, please answer as well!
well it seems the only problem is that he is afraid of being hurt... realtionship is a b*tch man... anyway, if you can be able to show that you won't hurt him and that he will be secure in the relationship, go for it...
the other problem: he seems like the jealous type (just like most men). i personally dont get involve with the jealous types... too much drama. but if you can handle it, go for it :wink:
I've been trying to let him know that he can trust me and that I won't hurt him, but I'm not sure if it's sinking in for him though. As far as the jealousy thing, I understand that... I'm keeping an eye out for the CRAZY jealous stuff. As long as he keeps the comments to sarcastic at the most (because I have done it as well to him a couple of times and I do mean only a couple... like twice), I think I can deal with it.
Awww, gurl dat sounds like my situation. But there where too many problems, so it ended up being that he went with this other girl that he was interested in. Don't let it get to the point that he feels secure with sumone that's gonna be around him alot more than u can.
If u juss let him run off with another girl (even if u are happy that he's happy) it's gone hurt u even more. I read this quote off da board at skool, and it is sooooo tru: "The hardest thing to do, is watch the one u love, love someone else." Right about now, I'm suffering from that tragic reality. I'm talking bout we aint even friends no more, tis dat serious. He aint wanna be wit me cuz I'm finna go to college and he'll be a senior next year. I really cared about him, and no matter how mad at him I am, I always will. Don't that happen to u!