Hi to all who dont know me. Im Chantel.
Anyways I was wondering if there is a such thing as setting too many standards for a potential love interest of yours. I mean my friends will tell you Im picky but I just think I wont settle for less. For example my last boyfriend had the complete package and Im pretty sure in the future could make it in the NFL (he's that good) but he started sellin **** so I had to drop him like he's hot. I just wont allow that in my life. I think the best have to be with the best. Am I wrong. here's what I expect
*leader(i hate followers)
*at least a 8
*funny
*smart (common sense and can hold a conversation)
*has his own style
*has "it" (cant describe just has as amerie can say "that one thing")
*clean
*healthy
*not ignorant
I think thats a realistic list.
it's not having too many standards, it's just knowing what you want and not settling for less. why would you date someone that is not going where you are in life or doing something just as well as you that will help you. if there is potential for him to mess up your dreams then chunk it at him and move on.
i took a test on emode.com and it told me that the reason why i am still single is because i won't settle, so all it means is you are not willing to compromise.
it's not having too many standards, it's just knowing what you want and not settling for less. why would you date someone that is not going where you are in life or doing something just as well as you that will help you. if there is potential for him to mess up your dreams then chunk it at him and move on.
i took a test on emode.com and it told me that the reason why i am still single is because i won't settle, so all it means is you are not willing to compromise.
I took it too...here's what it said:Damein, you're single because you don't want to commit
Once the blush of first love wears off with your partners, do you get a little antsy? You probably crave excitement in all realms of your life, and you need a relationship to keep you filled with possibilities. Let us guess: Someone has probably told you that you haven't quite grown up yet, that you're still holding out for the perfect "whatevers" (job, car, home, date) in your life to come a knockin'. Or perhaps you're just having a difficult time accepting that your comfortable little place in this world is always growing, always evolving — and that means you have to be willing to accept big life changes, too. Not that there's anything wrong with that. After all, you're probably a lot of fun to be around and may be the life of the party.
But when it comes to settling down, you leave without looking back twice. Now's the time to ask yourself: Why? What's holding you back? Maybe you don't want someone to get to know you fully? Perhaps by saying "yes" to someone, you're afraid you'll lose yourself or the possibility of something better coming along. Just remember that the best relationships are those that never stop growing. That's something you can identify with, right? So keep that in mind next time you find someone you're really comfortable with. You never know, it may prove even more exciting once you really get to know each other, teensy flaws and all.I really didn't understand what the HELL was goin' on until I read that.... :???:
it's not having too many standards, it's just knowing what you want and not settling for less. why would you date someone that is not going where you are in life or doing something just as well as you that will help you. if there is potential for him to mess up your dreams then chunk it at him and move on.
Co-Signs. This guy I had a conversation with actually had the nerve to call me stuck up because I said I won't talk to a guy who does not have a job or is not in school. And if he is working, he has to plan on going back to school or picking up a trade, or something constructive for his life.
I mean, wtf?! Whats wrong with wanting a man who has something going in his life. If I'm in school getting my sitiuation set, why can't you be doing the same? If we are not moving in the same direction in life, what's the point of being involved with you?
i agree with most of you. to me there is no such thing as having too many standard...
i took that test also and here are my results...
Angie, you're single because you don't want to get hurt
Ever heard the expression, "Once bitten, twice shy?" You can probably relate to this, can't you? Your last relationship may have left you a little raw in emotions, and the memories are likely still fresh in your mind. Fresher than you can sometimes believe. With a hurt like that, you're probably not so eager to enter the drama again — and we can't say that we blame you. You may be so afraid of getting hurt that you take things to heart big-time when you're involved with someone — after all, you've been hurt before, why can't it happen again? You also may be guilty of comparing potential mates to your ex who may still constantly loom large in your mind.
But maybe, just maybe, it's time to check your baggage at the door and let a new person into your life with a clean slate. You have a lot to offer someone, but you can't do it when you have one foot firmly planted in the past.
