Fellas, how do ya'll tell the girl that you're "dating" that you're "talking to" another chick....
Im confused. :???: If you are dating someone, why would you be talkin to another female in a way you that are interested in her? I dont know about any other females but that would make me real suspicios. I mean if you said you were just " talking " to both ladies that woulda been one thing...you can talk to as many people you want if you not committed to no one, thats how I feel. But you made it a point to say you were " dating " one of them, like she is your girlfriend, so Im either missing sumthing or am completely lost....Can you please clarify what you mean.
I know you asked the fellas, but I'm gonna throw in my 2cents
When you say that you that you are "Dating" this other female, actually what do you mean by this? I ask this because these days it seems as if people have their own definition of what dating is. From your post, I take it she's not your girlfriend so if you really like this girl and you possibly see yourself being in a realtionship with her, then you need to let the girl who you are "talking to" know that you are currently "Dating" someone, and that ya'll should just keep it at a friendship level. However, I'm just gonna throw this out there by the way you worded your post, and judging from what MY definition of "Dating" is(but correct me if I'm wrong) Assuming that you started "Talking To" another girl while currently "Dating" someone else.... my understanding is that you really don't see yourself being in a realtionship with the person you are "Dating" because you've focused your attention on someone else. IMO, a person who you are dating should be someone that you really like and is interested in and you basically see yourself being in a realtionship with one another. So yeah I'm wondering the same as the poster above me asked, and I quote...
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If you are dating someone, why would you be talkin to another female in a way you that are interested in her?
^That's the confusing part
I hope I didn't confuse you by my post, it took me a min to figure out how to word it, but yeah I think you should have clarified what you meant by "Dating"
I know bout the others but I know I personally tend to be a one woman kinda man. Even when its just in the "talking" stages. I feel that it makes more sense to devote attention to just one worthy woman and give her all instead of several.
Sooo... with that said if I were you i'd either stop "talking" to the other chick or stop "dating" the first girl before you hit the point of no return and it comes to the point where emotions become involved. Talking to both of them simulatenously only is going to create confusion but i'm sure you already know that hence why you're posting.
As for breaking it off. All you have is the truth and your integrity. I've grown into a brutally honest dude over the years and in my experiences I've learned that its best to speak the "whole truth and nothing but". Initially she may be upset but in the end she should respect you for being honest and you may have salvaged a friendship.
^^^ Nah I understand what you sayin. I think if your feelings are genuinely the EXACT same for them, and you think there is the potential for a relationship to come from one, its best to just take the honest route, so no one is lead on to catch feelins later on and then get hurt. As far as their reaction, you will just have to see. They may understand, may not...but atleast if you put it all out there now while you have the chance and you do end up settlin down with one of them, there wont be any surprises later, u know. They knew where you stood from jump. Since you defined your form of dating as just talking to 2 girls, I dont feel you are doing anything wrong, cause you havent yet committes urself to her.
First of all, I think it's good that you're willing to tell both of them about one another. At this point, I think they both should let you how they feel about you talking to them at the same time. Everyone reacts differently to certain things in their own way so there's really not a definite answer to give as to how they will react because every female is different from the other. One of them may be okay with it, one of them may not. And then it will be up to you to decide how you want to handle the situation, and soley the decision of the girl who's not okay with it to decide whether she wants to continue to "talk to" you in this way since she's not okay with it. If they're both okay with it knowing that one of them could possibly be cut loose in the future then all is good. At least you put everything out on the table so they know where ya'll stand. They key thing is you being honest with them from the beginning to prevent any confusion and drama in the future. IMO, there really is no "how to" way when it comes to situations like this, as long as you don't go about it in an ignorant sort of way. I'm gonna end this here before I write a whole essay, but just be honest. Even though one of them is going to be let down in the end, that doesn't mean she has to stop being a friend, at least you handled the situation respectfully.
