Karrine Steffans, a self-proclaimed Video **** said in her book, Confessions of a Video ****" that "The top reason a woman finds herself in a rap video, sprawled undressed over a luxury car while a rapper is saying lewd things about her, is a lack of self-esteem. I know it sounds like a cliche', but no one who values, loves, or knows herself would allow herself to be placed in such a degrading position..."
While having a conversation with a friend, she said to me, "I can't watch videos anymore. If that is what men see is beautiful, then where does that leave me?" What do you all think of girls who are in music videos? There are some women who use music videos to reach higher plateaus, such as Melyssa Ford and Leila Arcieri, while some girls are just in it for the money and the recognition. Do you think that girls who let images of these women affect their self esteem need help or do you do agree with Karrine Steffans?
ah, the dilemma of the video ho. Well i see it both ways.
You have your Melissa Fords of the world, who shook her a$$ and watched herself untill she was taken seriously as an actress. And then you have the average video ho, who sees it as a job. Compare to the average stripper?
some people base their worth on the attention they get from men. "even if he nevers sees my mind, at least he likes my body." then again, some people just like to dance freakily with not much on.
so anyone's guess.
I'D never dance in a rap video. A r&b or hip hop video, maybe. (yes i'm differentiating between rap and hip hop shoot me)
Women are lucky enough to have what it takes to get money for their looks. Why is that bad? If you have it and you can make money for it why not? Now I understand some of you may have issues with the way some of these women go about doing it but, Hey! *shrugs* What some define disrespectful, others define normal.
There are so many ways to argue this topic. But what about the girls who are in these videos trying to make it one way or another. They are simply in the videos doing what they love to do, look beautiful...not necessarily shaking dat **** all in the camera, but standing around a club/party scene looking pretty! What is wrong with that?
^^^...You're right about it being alot of different ways to argue this issue. The stand poin of view in which this thread was posted had to do with girls in videos and their self esteem. We understand that soem girls make a good living off of being in videos. An example mentioned earlier was Melissa Ford. It's when you start to base your selfsesteem off of what you see in these videos as beautiful, os when the problem starts.
I am fully aware of my neglect to read the link posted on the issue, please excuse my laziness...but my question is how do you know they are basing their self-esteem on their work? Was it stated? Do you know girls? Or is that just how it seems?
Okay...just kidding....I had eye boogers!
Yea, I understand now. Can we compare these video girls to models for a minute?! Runway models, print, etc. Thats what they are there for to "model" whats hot, whats new. I believe it is very rare to find someone who COMPLETELY has their own style. We wouldnt really know if it wasnt for model what was new and hot! I believe one of the purposes for these video girls are to show other girls whats out there. They are "modeling" what men want to see and how they want to see it.
I have known for females to exactly imitate an outfit or hairstyle based off a video. I have also seen girls try to directly imitate a dance seen on a video. I truely get disturbed to see young adolescent girls try to imitate what they see on Uncut and videos of that nature...but it happens.
So basically what im sayin, which I probaly said already, is that it what they are there for. Just like models, or actresses on iDsney Channel...people on tv shape a lot of the do's and do not's in society. We can forever pick and chose which ones we agree with, but does that make them wrong?
Nah, thats not wrong at all. That's how society works. The media is forever gonna dictate whats hot, and whats not. You just have to be secure in who you are first before you go aroun dlettign other people dictate for you whats attractive. Oh, and it's not brain science that men like skin. You're not gonna recieve an epiphany from a music video about what men find attractive. Lol.
"if you don't dictate it, it will be dictated to you" just sums up what serpent said, which i agree with. i think that the problem is not in women being in videos showing skin, that's not new. but the problem is in women thinking that's all there is. i agree with serpent that it's very important to know who you are before you let someone try to tell you what to be. you only end up lost. i wouldn't be in a video, and yes i would like to see the nelly video where everyone is wearing sweats and t-shirts (not sweat thongs, not their little sister's t-shirt) and the video is still hot. but until that day i'll try to keep my hating down to a minimum. i just hate how there's such a wide range of beauty in the world and it has to get condensed down to one type. i mean, people don't even like one type of juice, why do we have to settle for seeing one standard of beauty day in and day out?