Now of days its seems to be more and more females are going after just money. I understand people want the best,but I am wondering why it seems like a straight obsession for some females. I have never dealt with it first hand,but have watched friends have those problems with females and at one point I thought it was just a sterotype until I heard alot of their stories and it wasn't just the girls they dealt with,but some of my female friends are like that. WHY? It kind of brings up trust issuses like whether or not the female will be down with you during the down times. And, it causes me not to holla at certain females and then I get labeled as being stuck up!!! thats not the truth.
I'm not like that either. I dated one guy who had money...but I didnt know he had money all like that til later on... and when things got ****, his money didnt mean ANYTHING!!!!! I still left him because he hurt me and he was a ****...but when it's serious dating and we're talkin about marriage...I'ma need for him to either be comfortable wit me makin more money than him...or for him to have some plans to make money himself...cause either way we're gonna live comfortably...but casual dating...just as long as we dont go to McDonalds for dates all tha time lol.
well I know a couple of chicks that are like that. I tend to not surround myself with people like that because your friends reflect who you are. So even if you dont act like them, if you spend enough time with them, you will. All females arent like that. Like, I like nice things. What girl doesnt love designer hand bags or hot shoes? I would be lying if I say I don't but I would NEVER date a dude for his money. I believe in karma to much. If I use someone, someone is just gonna come at me later on and use me. Alot of females who are gold diggers arent comfortable with themselves. They probably havent lived the "luxurious life" all of their lives because they arent use to fine things like that; because if you truely have, it wouldnt be a "thang" to you.
females that require a lot from others, cant provide for themselves... How can she(any female) ask a man for something that she cant get herself? It just shows a lack of self motivation. and a willingness to use people
I think it is the girls that your friends are pursuing. Maybe if they decided not to chase after the girl dressed in Chanel everyday then they might me less stressed, but that makes too much sense.
Its the females!!! ya'll seem to have good heads on your shoulders but honestly its more of a out numbering amount of girls diggin pockets though. I mean all of us are in college, **** broke not saying that we will make alot of money in the next couple of years. But be realistic most females are in it for money now, today,this minute, this second.
sometimes females just run into guys that want to do for them...
ex: we had a lil get together in our suite last night and this guy tried to talk to me. when i told him that i would rather take it slow, he startede throwin out what he could do for me. "what you need a n*gga to take care of you? I got money if thats what you want. I can take care of you physically. You need soemone to take? I can just hold you if you want"
he was shocked when i still told him i was cool and just wanted to chill. its not like he cant get chicks cause i see females breakin their necks to get at him.
reason i said that is, all it takes is for one female to run their mouths about what the other n*gga did for her to make the gold diggers go for it.
I have a question. Not trying to be devil's advocate, but what if the girl i sused to standard of livin/ I mean, we all have our preferences. I wouldn't blame a girl who's used to a certain lifestyle to chose who she talked to based on that. I mean, she likes what she likes. You just gotta recognize if ya'll are on the same page or not. My girl now is well off, but she's not all about that stuff. She enjoys just sitting in with me watchin movies just as much as going out.
I can feel ya if you are used to living one way you don't wanna compromise.
But you and I know some girls haven't always had it like that, on the flip side I broke up with a girl because I am more of a flashy person and she wasn't on that level. So if you know what you want go get it but don't just feed into stereotypes, Hell I am not out robbing somebody cause its not me I am no ****, kinda like gold diggin (damn theres that word again one more month its officially ****) if you know you ain't like that don't do it!!