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me and my boy was talking about this girl who is.. Posted on 04-10-2006
giniacuty_757

Dead Im saying we werent BESt friends but we was tight and she died the night before last in the hospital beaten to death by her boyfriend her name (anonymous) she was 18 and was going to be a freshmen at Norfolk State university her boyfriend turned hisself in and admit to beating on her more than twenty times at the least! i said its never right for man to hit a woman but my boy Derrick was like "if she hit me and I dont like her she gone get hit back I dont care" its funny cuz his girlfriend agreed and her friend who is a female did too "its wrong she died but he had to be beaten on her for a reason" wtf? THERE IS NEVER NO REASON FOR NO MAN TO HIT A FEMALE what do you think u agree its okay ot hit a female or no In my opinion its not its just not right only cowards and pussies beat on women thats what I think Im like Nasty Nas on illmatic track 9 I represent represent VA all day! let me know your take ladies
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*~*TAK3M3AZIAM*~* from Bellevue, NE replied on 04-10-2006 08:13PM [Reply]

IMO, its never okay for a man to hit a woman. Now, there are situations where some women hit men and that's not right either. Real men don't hit women, regardless of the situation. That's just my opinion. But women need to learn to stand up for themselves as well. Shyt, a man can only do what you ALLOW him to.
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P/Rettyboyblue replied on 04-10-2006 08:13PM [Reply]
I definitely agree with you on the fact that its wrong to hit women, and especially to beat not just a woman, but anyone to death, its not too many things that warrant that. I do however feel there can be a reason to hit anyone. Male or female you have no business putting your hands on someone , especially if they haven't put theirs on you. That being said male or female, if you catch it back, then you might get what you deserve. But to do that to some one, thats just wrong...
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*~*TAK3M3AZIAM*~* from Bellevue, NE replied on 04-10-2006 09:57PM [Reply]

I understand what ur saying as well, but by reading what you wrote, it seemed as he'd beat her REPEATEDLY before this incident. If that's the case then, she ALLOWED him to continue. After the first time he'd laid a finger on her, she should have left. I know that its not easy to leave someone you love, but you gotta think about your safety and your life. By no means am I saying that she brought this on herself, cuz no one deserves to die like that, but damn 20 times??? When I said that some women allow their men to beat on them, I meant when its a situation where its an ongoing thing. If a man beats yo ass once and you do nothing, that's an open invitation for him to do it again, becuz he knows that you ARE NOT going to do a damn thing about it. Women(and some men) have to stop letting others get away with whooping their asses. If this had been a one time thing and she HAD NO IDEA of what he would do or what he was capable of, I would probably take it another way. As in she had no chance of survival or that she couldn't help the situation, but she should have gotten out while she had the chance. Like I said before, I AM IN NO WAY SAYING THAT SHE DESERVED TO DIE, BECUZ SHE DIDN'T, but all I'm saying is that ppl need to take heed when things like this happen. Look at this tragedy as an example of what a slap here or a punch there can escalate to.
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giniacuty_757 replied on 04-24-2006 04:44PM [Reply]
SuperFly wrote:
I won't hit a woman. But I'll be gat damned if I won't knock the Sh*t out of a N*gga. And dammit, if she comes at me like a N*gga, she's about to catch an ass whoopin like a N*gga. There's waaaaaaay too many chicks that think they can just get away with things because they have tits. With equal rights, comes equal ass whoopin's. Toon_PDT_15
SEE THATS TRUE IF SHE OME AT CHU ON SOME DUMB STUFF FOR NO REASON THEN IM LIKE HEY SHE CAME AT U LIKE ONE SHE GET ONE BUT IF SHE AINT COME ATCHU SHE JUST ARGUED with u and u took it to the extreme then thats not COOL
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SuperFly replied on 04-24-2006 07:45PM [Reply]
If we're arguing, then chances are that she's already lost. I tend to use big words when I get angry.... :???:
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R-Tistic replied on 04-24-2006 09:22PM [Reply]
\\*~UkNOuLuVM3~*// wrote:
I understand what ur saying as well, but by reading what you wrote, it seemed as he'd beat her REPEATEDLY before this incident. If that's the case then, she ALLOWED him to continue. After the first time he'd laid a finger on her, she should have left. I know that its not easy to leave someone you love, but you gotta think about your safety and your life. By no means am I saying that she brought this on herself, cuz no one deserves to die like that, but damn 20 times??? When I said that some women allow their men to beat on them, I meant when its a situation where its an ongoing thing. If a man beats yo ass once and you do nothing, that's an open invitation for him to do it again, becuz he knows that you ARE NOT going to do a damn thing about it. Women(and some men) have to stop letting others get away with whooping their asses. If this had been a one time thing and she HAD NO IDEA of what he would do or what he was capable of, I would probably take it another way. As in she had no chance of survival or that she couldn't help the situation, but she should have gotten out while she had the chance. Like I said before, I AM IN NO WAY SAYING THAT SHE DESERVED TO DIE, BECUZ SHE DIDN'T, but all I'm saying is that ppl need to take heed when things like this happen. Look at this tragedy as an example of what a slap here or a punch there can escalate to.
I always saw it like that, and I still do to a point. However, I took Sociology last year, and we were discussing that in class. The prof. was sayin that in most of those cases, it is nearly impossible to think or feel the same way as the woman involved, because many of them have a much deeper situation that lies beneath the surface that we won't understand if we aren't in her shoes. He said that most people feel a girl is crazy, or even stupid, to stay in an abusive relationship, but that with most cases, their minds are warped and twisted in a way that they are not seeing things logically, and it is usually because of things that happened to them in the past. So I try not to pass judgement, even though I still want to say "damn....she shoulda left a long time ago"
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da_tru_madea replied on 04-25-2006 05:26AM [Reply]
Sorry this will probably be long, but this is a topic that I am not ashamed to speak on and know alot about. I have personally experiences on this topic ( with me, stories from my mother and some close associates stories). First off, let me state that I do NOT agree with the abuse of women. But with that said I do kinda understand how my brotha in a earlier post said that if she come at me like a n*gga she will get an azz whopin like a woman. See I don't agree with the just haul off and hit her upside her head thing, but some women need to realize that men have reflexes just like us. And again with that said, I am known to temp a dude, or will hit the dude, but trust if he ever hits me back, we just gone be two fightin n*ggaz. I had an incident where I said something to a dude that obviously pissed him completely off and her raised his hand and came 2mm from connecting with my face. seeing it in the action of happening I didn't even care that I didn't feel the sting of a slap, I was already in motion. I fvkked he up so bad....I kinda felt sorry afterwards....reflexes man reflexes!...LOL See, I grew up fightin nothin but dudes so.....don't think that just cause she is female she can't handle her own. **** that Men Are Stronger Than Women BS!!!!!! If a chick get enough rage in her... she can kill that dude wit her bare hands!!! In regards to a battered woman leaving her abuser, like my momma said someone told her when she was in that situation "Baby you aint gone leave until you get good and tried". My mom said that she always thought that she was tired but she said that when that day came when she actually was... there was nothin nobody to say to make her stay. A woman that isn't tired will make exuses like...."Oh but he the father of my kids" and "where will I go/what will I do"....but if she is truley, truley tried she is like "kids get yall sh*t we leavin!". My momma packed us up and we moved in a shelter. She did what she had to do to get herself and her children out of that situation. And we are forever grateful for that. yes we went through some really tough times but we are just fine now and that all that counts. And she will admit that the only reason she was so warped in the situation was because of things that had happened to her as a child. SO.....there is no remedy, she just has to get good and fed up before its too late. Cause there will always be Ikes out there, but women have to acknowlege their Tina!
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giniacuty_757 replied on 04-25-2006 01:21PM [Reply]
da_tru_madea wrote:
Sorry this will probably be long, but this is a topic that I am not ashamed to speak on and know alot about. I have personally experiences on this topic ( with me, stories from my mother and some close associates stories). First off, let me state that I do NOT agree with the abuse of women. But with that said I do kinda understand how my brotha in a earlier post said that if she come at me like a n*gga she will get an azz whopin like a woman. See I don't agree with the just haul off and hit her upside her head thing, but some women need to realize that men have reflexes just like us. And again with that said, I am known to temp a dude, or will hit the dude, but trust if he ever hits me back, we just gone be two fightin n*ggaz. I had an incident where I said something to a dude that obviously pissed him completely off and her raised his hand and came 2mm from connecting with my face. seeing it in the action of happening I didn't even care that I didn't feel the sting of a slap, I was already in motion. I fvkked he up so bad....I kinda felt sorry afterwards....reflexes man reflexes!...LOL See, I grew up fightin nothin but dudes so.....don't think that just cause she is female she can't handle her own. **** that Men Are Stronger Than Women BS!!!!!! If a chick get enough rage in her... she can kill that dude wit her bare hands!!! In regards to a battered woman leaving her abuser, like my momma said someone told her when she was in that situation "Baby you aint gone leave until you get good and tried". My mom said that she always thought that she was tired but she said that when that day came when she actually was... there was nothin nobody to say to make her stay. A woman that isn't tired will make exuses like...."Oh but he the father of my kids" and "where will I go/what will I do"....but if she is truley, truley tried she is like "kids get yall sh*t we leavin!". My momma packed us up and we moved in a shelter. She did what she had to do to get herself and her children out of that situation. And we are forever grateful for that. yes we went through some really tough times but we are just fine now and that all that counts. And she will admit that the only reason she was so warped in the situation was because of things that had happened to her as a child. SO.....there is no remedy, she just has to get good and fed up before its too late. Cause there will always be Ikes out there, but women have to acknowlege their Tina!
^^^ WOW SWEETIE U HAD TO GO THROUGH SOME THINGS IM SORRY FOR YOU BUT U KNWO EVERYONE GOT A STORY TO TELL HINT! AND ITS SAD THAT ABUSE DOES OCCUR BUT UNFORTUNATELY AS LONG AS U GOT MEN AND WOMEN ABUSING ON EACH OTHER THE VICIOUS CYCLE WONT STOP I THINK WOMEN SHOULD RECOGNIZE THEIR TINA LOL BUT KNOW THAT IF THE SITUATION U ARE IN IS DANGEROUS TRY TO GET OUT I NA EARLY STAGE BEFORE ITS TO LATE
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Goldy_1914 replied on 05-04-2006 10:37AM [Reply]
Now I am not big on hitting a woman, and dont belive a man should hit a woman but women take it to the next level. Yall be hittign us and expect us not to do nothing but sit there and take it. Its not gonna happen here.
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