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Lori Finnila
Author and Radio Show Host, Turner Maxwell Books
Location: Eugene, OR United States
Joined: Jan 29th, 2010

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I lost a daughter due to an illegal abortion when I was 17. I was 2 days from being four months pregnant and with being too scared and feeling I had nowhere to turn I ended up going to strangers whom I thought would help me in large far away building that I thought held my answers and freedom from the fright of being so alone in a situation that I could not even mention out loud. I took a Valium it seemingly that I was too anxious even though I had told them this did not mean that I was to get an abortion. That I was not going to. I just needed to talk to them. Being very small and now under a drug with a very large man outside the door holding me in they continued to take my chances away of working this out for myself after I had told them I wanted to keep my baby after I had felt it move when they wanted to find out how I felt about keeping the baby. I needed help with my direction with this and how I was going to do it on my own. I was told it was too late that the papers for this were already signed and I had no choice. Being wobbly and out of control of my body now at 105 lbs. and never on Valium before I was in a different world where I couldn't fight. I tried to scream but the man outside the door would not let me leave and I then felt in a drugged state but awake to feel all that was about to happen to me. I was given no anesthetic and the pain was so unbearable but I could not move or speak. A large massive suction was ripping and pulling at my insides I could not believe the unbearable pain of the feeling of my entire insides being pulled out. I had my baby ripped from me and as it was almost finished I will never forget the last question of whether or not I wanted this where my lips would not follow what my mouth wanted to say as I when I tried I was told it was too late as though when my mind could come around to reach to his point that my baby was already ripped in half. I then heard my baby thrown very hard into the small trash can behind the doctor as though she were nothing. I say a daughter because at that point that was all that they could assume. I nearly bled to death after wards when the blood would not stop pouring out and the pain was even more unbearable but was told to shut my mouth that I was disturbing the other girls who were in there all laying down quietly and peacefully sleeping.

I thought someday that I would put a tombstone up for her, my little baby, monumenting her that she so much deserved and that she was not forgotten. But I instead decided to help other young girls by telling my story to help and save them from this disaster ahead of time. If they just say the words it is out and the fear is over and now you are facing and making decisions for what you need to do in a more realistic and safer manner. I will never stop living in a dream world of my pain of this because these pains are always too unbearable to completely realistically face. But I will not take further pain from others unnecessarily for the one pain that was already caused to me.

I thank women like Tiffany Dejon who help young girls who have nowhere to go on the street as to where to find help for themselves when they have nowhere to go and are alone in these decisions that they have to make on their own. I commend people who help young runaways who are faced with these ordeals and decisions with feeling they have nowhere to turn and end up in the hands of a worse situation. We need to reach out to our young women now so their lives can reach sustainability and security for them and others.

Tiffany Dejon Show

She has one son Justin Alexander Finnila who is thirteen. She currently resides in Oregon and hosts a radio show with her friend Natalie McCann for issues important to women from a women's point of view. She has finished her third novel The Virtuous Women and has submitted queries to professional literary agents to receive more professional direction in her writing. She is awaiting responses to this. This third book should be released in 2010. She would love to have her work in production for movies. She would also love to be involved with the creativity in these endeavors, possibly helping to produce them. She is constantly looking for new strides in new material to bring attention to her work in such a different realm and manner to bring out to all. She is also an aspiring singer and has been working on her voice even where her lungs have suffered greatly because of her injuries. But she sustains and continues as with her writing it is only a matter of time before she has reached her height in this area. She has been giving radio interviews to promote her work and her causes. She had been thinking about the idea of having a movie made on her life if approached and how she would deal with it.

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My Interview Question

Do you believe the best approach to get over something is to never give up?

Current Whereabouts:

Radio Hosting,singing

Life & Professional Aspirations:

To produce movies

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http://lorifinnila.webs.com

Education (request update)

High School: Westford Academy in Westford, MA class of 1979

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Experience

I currently work with Turner Maxwell Books as Author and Radio Show Host
I have 32 years of experience working in the Arts, Entertainment, and Media industry.

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