Better GET HARD- Why Men Run All Over Nice Girls
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Posted By: Alduan Tartt on December 31, 2008 Who told you that men like nice girls? I know it makes sense...cook for him, give him sweet love, cater to him, become his little love slave...how's that working for you? I don't doubt that many of you are reaping the rewards of taking care of your man but some of you are well...struggling and left asking the 1,000,000 question...what the hell went wrong? Well, I'll you cause I love you and want you to find love in 2009. Here's the reason...Men are HUNTERS and we do not like anything or one too EASY. I know...you are a lover by spirit, can take care of a man, and would be or are a wonderful wife and mother of his children. Here's the problem...do we appreciate it? Only if you make us! Men must chase and chase and chase you so that they feel they have hunted for and thereby working hard for your love. If you are so nice that you just stick around through anything or even give him the world before he even worked for your best...you're unfortunately in for a trainwreck of heartbreak. Make men work and then reciprocate the love he gives you. It should be more like a dance where you take one step he takes two...get my drift. So, stop being so nice until he works for it! Stop giving men full lap dances of love before he even gyrates a hip. You know how to dance Black woman... move when he moves baby girl! Hey, the harder you make him work...the longer he stays. We are lazy and figure..."Well it took me 6 months to get this far...don't want to mess up now and start all over now." However, if you didn't make me work that hard in the first place- harsh reality coming- Easy Come...Easy Go! Bye-Bye-Bye! Remember, you're the woman...make us chase YOU...that way you stay in control...when he has run and improved himself to your standards you can slow down a little bit and let him catch you...didn't your grandmother tell you anything (LOL!). Much love sistas. To find out more about me and get more relationship advice visit http://www.ringformula.com and read a free chapter of my new book, The Ring Formula: How To Marry (and Keep) MR. RIGHT Dr. Tartt If you enjoyed this article, Join HBCU CONNECT today for similar content and opportunities via email! |
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Alduan Tartt
Owner/CEO, Visionary Minds, Inc. Morehouse College class of 1996 Member Since January 2008 |
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Brother, I'm just being professionally honest about what happens when women give their awesome love away and are left without the same in return. The point is for them to value themselves to expect and date for reciprocity. Sorry you disagree...everyone is entitled to their opinion. God Bless
Friday, January 2nd 2009 at 12:39AM |
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