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JUST FRIENDS...? (help me out ladies)

JUST FRIENDS...? (help me out ladies)
Posted By: Jamahl Hurley on July 19, 2005


Aight this subject is one me and my people spend lots of time on. Why cant a guy and a girl just be friends? All of my male friends are like theres no way a guy and a girl can be friends especially if their attracted to one another. but im like why cant i have a female friend who's cool people and who's attractive as well.



i mean in my opinion its a maturity thing. some guys just arn't ready to have a female friend who's attractive and not have sex on their mind. on the real though sometimes the best types of friends just happen to be of the opposite sex do you agree? I just wanted to know what my HBCU family thought and how yall felt... But i really wanna hear from the ladies 4real... what do yall think?
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Christie kaywood
Dillard University class of 2006
well to tell you the truth i agree with you because I have a male friend (toxie) who's cool and attractive and we are just friends even though sometimes going out with him runs across my mind , i believe a male and a female can just be friends and not have s*x ontheir minds all of the time
Tuesday, July 19th 2005 at 1:49AM
Christie kaywood
Dillard University class of 2006
If you are in a relationship it's hard to have a boyfriend/girlfriend while also having a bestfriend of the opposite s*x
Tuesday, July 19th 2005 at 1:52AM
Miss V
Texas Southern University class of 2008
I agree with you. I think it is a maturity thing. I believe some of the best type of friends are the opposite s*x. I get along better with guys than females. Some females come with jealousy and other things of that sort so I tend to talk to guys more. If you wanna have a female friend go ahead.
Tuesday, July 19th 2005 at 1:54AM
swantasha stokes
South Carolina State University class of 2008
I kind of disagree with a lot of things said because even if you have a friend of the opposite s*x and you dont even find that person attractive, you will be around that person so much and you will find qualities in that person that you like and find yourself moving in on them and you don't even notice it. I know because i had a best friend of the opposite s*x and found myself looking at him like huhh. but i had to remember that we were best friends and we didnt need to ruin everything. eventually things got ruined because afterwhile he started trying to pull fast ones on me. I guess it is based on how you set your grounds. but in my eyes eventually feelings will start flying. I hope i helped and did not confuse you! ya gyrl ~swanny~
Tuesday, July 19th 2005 at 1:34PM
swantasha stokes
South Carolina State University class of 2008
And i think males and females can be friends if they are not attracted to each and he looks at the girl as one of his n*gga *smooches*
Tuesday, July 19th 2005 at 1:35PM
LaShonda Redd
Tuskegee University class of 2009
Your right men and women can be friends. It is a maturity thing i mean if you really feel your s*xuality is more stronger than personality then i can see how it can get in the way. Anyway i have many friends of the opposite s*x and they all work out in the end. I mean they give the best advice on relationships. Its like your getting the best of both worlds. Attraction is a factor in the friendship but that only depends on your self control and if you dont have any then a friend of the opposite s*x just shouldn't be what your looking for.
im out
Shonda
Tuesday, July 19th 2005 at 3:47PM
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