FOR BROTHERS ONLY: SIX WORDS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO A WOMAN
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Posted By: Siebra Muhammad on May 27, 2009 I am currently in the process of helping a childhood friend win over a lady. His friend told him that "If you wants advice on how to talk to a woman, ask one". Being a single woman, I cannot be of much help (LOL). Yet there are some words women long to hear from their man. “I love you” tops the list followed in no particular order by “I need you”, “I miss you”, “Will you marry me?” All that is cute but let’s talk about the words women don’t want to hear. Not that the easy ones “I’m Gay”, “I’m Married” or “It’s Over.” I’m talking about six words that don’t seem harmless at first but soon can spread like cancer and destroy your relationship slowly. Men, these are six words you should never say to your woman: “What you need to do is…” I want to spit just having typed those words. No man thinks that this is a big deal but once you start with those six lethal words the rest of the sentence is irrelevant because you girl is thinking, “I know this man ain’t just tell me what I need to do. Don’t he know I’m grown!” Fellas, I know you heart is in the right place when use these words. You’re thinking that you are helping. Hell, most of the time your woman asked you for you opinion in the first place. Take it from me, start with something else like: “Why don’t you…” “Maybe you can…” “Have you thought about…” The reason why men don’t get why this matters is because most men think that when their woman asks for advice, they are really asking for advice. Ha, honey that can’t be further from the truth. Women have this thing of asking their man his opinion about something, not always because she values his opinion but because she wants to see how he thinks. This is why a woman doesn’t ask “What’s should I do? Or “What’s your advice?” Instead she says… “What do you think?” The best advice I got about men was from a guy I dated several years ago. “my mother told me to never give a woman your opinion about something that you know is a sensitive matter like her hair, clothes, friends unless it’s a positive opinion. Another thing, when you ask a man his opinion we take it as the door is now open for us to always give our opinion. It’s like inviting me in your house. I’m going to always think I’m invited, start popping up unexpected. Besides, you know yourself way better than I do. I’m sure you know what you should do.” “What you need to do is…” is probably the most condescending thing a man can say to his woman. When a man says those words to me I hear this: “Listen little lady, let big daddy school you cause it’s clear you need my help, a man’s help.” Of course he doesn’t know his words are working me up. He thinks he’s just helping me out. Ladies, it’s our job to tell a dude the best way to speak to us. If you don’t, one day down the line he is going to start a sentence with “What you need to do is…” and before you know it, you’ve snapped. You’ll be calling your best friend from jail talking about, “Girl, I don’t know how it happened. I just heard him say, “What you need to do is…” and the next thing I know there’s blood all over the place and I’m in handcuffs.” Men, I understand that you want to help your lady, but there is a fine line between helping and telling. Men need to learn to become more suggestive instead of being a brut force. If you don’t know how to do this, listen carefully the next time your woman gets you to do something that you really don’t want to do. Take it from a single woman. And yes, you sisters are welcome to comment too!!! If you enjoyed this article, Join HBCU CONNECT today for similar content and opportunities via email! |
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Siebra Muhammad
A Registration Clerk/Specialist, New Orleans Public Schools Other College... class of 2001 Member Since November 2008 |
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"Men need to learn to become more ... " [next to last sentence] Seems to be in the same boat. Wednesday, May 27th 2009 at 3:37PM |
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