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Something So True!!!!

Something So True!!!!
Posted By: Charnell Brigoli on July 27, 2005


If A Man Wants You

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend would not mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "you think it will get better."

You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.


Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...



even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship you should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. (Hallelujah, thank you *****!) Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others also.


Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
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swantasha stokes
South Carolina State University class of 2008
Yes! It aint nothin but the truth!!
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 2:30PM
Gabrielle newton
Savannah State University class of 2009
dats da truth
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 2:34PM
Danielle Berkley
Grambling State University class of 2010
girl! all that was tha truth! thats good advice right there. You put it all in words, that all women can understand. thanks!
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 2:35PM
Marquis Davis
Clark Atlanta University class of 2009
Im happy to hear these words comin from a female. You realize the flaws in the behavior of both men AND women. Instead of bashing men, you exposed the behaviors that enable relationships to go sour. Thanx for being real!
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 2:42PM
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