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Does the Inside Really Count?

Does the Inside Really Count?
Posted By: Tony June on July 27, 2005


We all hear that its the inside that counts right? But what do you do when you are not at all attracted to a person?

Beauty comes from within, and I believe that, but if I'm not physically attracted to someone how can you be in a relationship with that person.



For all the people who are reading this and saying," Oh, he's a shallow guy," ask yourself a question; have you ever been with someone you didn't think was cute? And if so how long did it last?

If you aren't attracted to you spouse, and someone comes along that you think looks good, and wants you you probably will go with them. Is it your fault that you have a preference of what type of guy/girl that you want?

Just a question...
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Sharelle Johnson
Howard University class of 2009
All of that **** about the inside counts is really just ****! Yes, the inside does count, but when you first met a person it's their physical appearance that you're either attracted to or not. You don't met a person and say "Wow I'm not attracted to that person, but maybe they have a good heart or great personality.
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 2:52PM
Alana Toolie
Eastern Illinois Univ class of 2007
Well, Tony, that is a very good subject to bring to surface. Of course, your initial attraction to the opposite s*x is physical. But, what is it that prevents us from approaching every person we are attracted to physically? Me, myself, I distinguish guys from eachother by the first few words that comes from their mouths during the initial conversation. With being a strong believer (in Jesus Christ), I hate it when a guy starts talking and he begans to curse and just disrespect himself and me for that matter. That is a huge turnoff. So, I could care less if a guy was fine, but if he wasn't right in the inside, puh-leese. He can go on to the next one. In conclusion, looks are about 10% and the inside is 90. Like Dionne said, to each his or her own.
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 3:17PM
swantasha stokes
South Carolina State University class of 2008
I agree with all of you, but why would you talk to somebody that you are not physically attracted too from the jump. Right now i am talking to somebody that i dont think is all dat but he straight, yeah when you first meet them youknow nothing about the inside personyoujust know what you see, but i just gave him my number and we began conversating on the telephone and that is how i fell for him. I think that you all who just go for the people who are fine as hell will and dont get to meet the person will learn ya lesson. Because when you see a fine one youjust jump on it and try to make the person someone they are not, and you end up miserable. Just because they fine do not mean they will treat you right and make you happy. So all i really got to say about that is stop judging people if he try to holla get they numba and conversate you dont have to be their girlfriend or boyfriend, and if you aint feeling them get rid of them. Everyone is beautiful in their own way but is not blessed for it to show like us!!!!
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 3:43PM
Maegan Gallman
Bowie State University class of 2009
I truly agree wit u. Yes...beauty's skin deep, but there has 2 be some physical attraction as well. Now if someone's not da most attractive, dats when the inner beauty come in handy and inhance da person overall. But... like I said, there has 2 be some physical attraction. Anyone who says looks don't matter are lying! ~MAEGY~
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 3:59PM
Atlee Jones
North Carolina A&T State University class of 2009
It's the LOOKS that get you.... but the PERSONALITY that KEEPS you!
Wednesday, July 27th 2005 at 4:06PM
Malika Adams
N/A at N/A
Everyone has thier own preference, what i like someone may dislike...so theres someone for everyone...let me tell u i know ppl who dont look attractive boys and girls and they be pullin them so work with what u got.. . if u think u look good others will too...and plus thats really all that matters...we are all created in HIS image.
Thursday, July 28th 2005 at 5:10PM
The inside does count, but it's the outter that attracts you to a person from the beginning. So yes the inside is important, but so is the outside. just an answer for the moment.
Friday, July 29th 2005 at 11:06PM
DeMishea Charleston
Johnson C. Smith University class of 2005
I believe its the inside that keeps the person their. There are so many beautiful girls/guys in the world, if you stopped talking to someone everytime someone cute came around, then there wouldn't be any need for relationships. Of course their has to be something to get you interested first, looks which is the first thing you see, then you get to know the person, and the personality will keep you in the relationship. Have heard of meeting your soul mate, thats what they are talking about. You are right very few people will talk to someone they aren't attracted too. But sometimes you meet that person and be like, you they are very sweet and become attracted to them that way. But no that's not really shallow I guess thats life. But don't just talk to someone b/c they are pretty or fine, b/c that is shallow. If the girl ask you why you like them, and you say b/c you are fine, so what, there are so many fine people in this world, I am I different from the last one or the next one. Personality diffinitely counts with me. I've met lots of good looking males, but some wack, so stupid, some just don't have it. It goes beyond the outside. Have you seen a really pretty girl and started talking to her, and thought man she don't ever need to open her mouth. Those are just some examples. Do you man!!!
Wednesday, August 17th 2005 at 2:46PM
Shelia Bowers
Southern University class of 2008
I agree with Ciara B.
A person is 1st attracted by another person's appearance, that is fine, but if you get a fine person's number and they have no personality or convo. the attraction is just physical. The inside of a person can make his/her outside more bearable.
I know this from personal experience. My guy thought I was attractive, but he could have talked to females more his "type". He chose me because of what's inside more than outside.
I am like that also. I could go with this fine brother who happens to be lame and conceited or this sweet brother who has dimples that I find attractive.
It just takes a mature person to go for someone physically "average" or "below-average" who has a great inside character.
Sunday, September 25th 2005 at 4:24AM
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