I Got Kicked Out (LONG)
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Posted By: on August 15, 2005 Saturday night had to be the most uneventful night of my life. My mom ended up putting me out. It was crazy!!! Had a lot to do with Shaun and me...b/c she still doesn't want to accept the fact that he is 24 and I am 19. She got mad with me and told me that I was being defiant and told me to pack up my stuff and be gone before they went to sleep. That's what I did. She then told me to call her when I got to where I was going. I didn't call. She took my car, cell phone, money, ATM card, military ID card, and I think that's all. I called my son's godfather to come and pick me up, and he took me to my old job...I sat there and then the person who I least expected to be there for me came to my rescue...my ex boyfriend. He left all the way from Florida and came to Mississippi because I was in need. He got me a hotel room and bought me a meal and even comforted me. I was very upset...when I told Shaun that I got put out, he was enraged, but his support wasn't as strong as it should have been. So that night, I didn't call him. I stayed in the hotel room with my ex boyfriend and his 2 brothers and we were just up all night trying to come up with a plan. The next morning, I called Shaun to let him know that I was ok. He offered to wire me some money...but I told him don't worry about it. He never said what I thought he would. He kept on analyzing the situation and telling me that I should go home and try to work things out. Now, the whole time I am thinking, we are supposed to hold each other down no matter what, and I honestly don't feel like he held me down. It's ashamed that he played a big role in me getting kicked out (me defending him) but my ex boyfriend stepped up, knowing the whole situation and everything. So, my dad came looking for me Sunday, and my mom called Shaun to see if he heard from me. He told her that I was fine and I was in a hotel in Gulfport. She then told him that if he talked to me to tell me to call them. So I finally called. My son's father called her on three way. My dad told me that he wanted to talk. So I told him where I was and allowed him to come pick me up. I didn't take any of my belongings because I didn't know what the outcome was going to be. So they asked me what the problem was...I told them that the main problem I have with them is that they try to shelter me too much and that they treat me like a child. I told them that I am tired of that, and that I feel as if they try to control my decisions too often. So we all came to an agreement. At first I said that I wasn't going to stay home...that I was going to go back to the hotel and think. But my dad just expressed how painful this situation has been to him...and how it would probably kill my already dying grandfather and that it would probably even kill my sick grandmother if they knew what was going on. So I decided to stay here and just tough it out. I stayed up last night doing a lot of thinking and I have come to many conclusions with life right now. I talked to Shaun for almost 2 hours last night (early this morning) and I asked him, how does he feel about me. He answered. I asked him how much was he willing to take before he just decided that enough is enough. He answered. I asked him how deep are his feelings for me? He answered. He then told me that the reason that he didn't come down here was because he knew that I was going to go back home. I was like, you also knew that my state of mind was shabby, you knew that the situation had gotten out of hand, and you knew that I needed support. You could have got in your car knowing that I was going back home, but still knowing that you are my man and it's your job to comfort me when I need it most. He was quiet. True, he offered to wire me some money, but money does not provide comfort for me. I can honestly care less about money. I didn't have an appetite. I had some place to stay for that night. What I didn't want was to be lonely. And that I was. Yeah, my ex boyfriend stayed in the room with me (along with his 2 brothers) and the only reason for that was b/c they had just driven from Crystal Springs, MS to Gainesville, Florida (where they were going to stay the night) all the way to Gulfport when he called and heard my situation. They got up early that morning and left going back to Crystal Springs. Shaun told me that if Monday morning had come and I was still in the hotel that he was going to come and get me and take me back to Natchez with him and we would take it from there. I mean, I know that he is not really in a situation to help me, but his presence would have been very comforting. Now my mom said that she really doesn't like him b/c she doesn't feel as if he stepped up to be a man. To make matters worst, my cousin and Shaun's cousin lied on Shaun (I have proof that it's a lie) and told my mom that she cursed him out and his cousin said that he told Shaun to leave me alone b/c I was too young for him. They said that they told him that he better not come down here to see me the weekend that he came. Now, my cousin told my mom that she told Shaun this to his face, but when I talked to her, she said that she had never met Shaun before. His cousin also said that he didn't say anything of the sort. So I'm like...somebody is lying here. Honestly, Shaun is a good person or whatever...my mom was like it's ashame that he hasn't even tried to come and meet them. That's not true...he offered to meet them when he came down but my mom was against it and didn't want to have anything to do with him. Now last night after we decided that I would come back home, my mom goes, I still won't accept you having a 24 year old boyfriend. Then she asked my dad what he thought of it...he said that age is something that he can overlook (he forgot that I was 19 about to be 20, he thought I was 18 about to be 19). He said that he thinks that the guy should be given a chance to show what he's about. He also said that feelings are not just something that you can just up and throw away b/c someone else doesn't approve. He said that he is willing to compromise, because he doesn't want me to lie to them about what's going on in my life. He wants all communication barriers to be removed and wants us to have a relationship where we can freely communicate with one another. I said that the only way that would work is if my mom starts actually hearing me and listening to me with an open mind and without the feeling that her word is more powerful than mine. I told them that I would love for them to accept the fact that I am growing up, and allow me to make some mistakes in my life. I mean, sometimes you can't tell people what you already know, you just have to let them see for themselves. I also feel like if my parents were more open to some of my ideas and thoughts, I wouldn't make a lot of the decisions that I have made...a lot of the things that I do is rebellion. But, I have decided to make a turn for the better. I have come to a decision that if everyone is not happy, then someone has to go. I don't want to jeopardize my relationship with my parents over a man who may not always be there. True, my feelings are strong for Shaun, but I love my parents more than anything. And I am tired of hurting them. I may just have to end what is going on with Shaun and I so that I can have peace in my home. The thought hurts, but who knows, things may work out in the future. I haven't come to a final conclusion about that yet (not sure if it has to boil down to me leaving him) but if that's what it takes, as hard as that pill is to swallow, I will accept it and just use that time to grow spiritually and mentally. I realize that I have a lot more growing to do... Thanks for taking out the time to read this blog....sorry it's so long, but there is so much more to say that I just left out. I will have more to say later...your comments are welcome. If you enjoyed this article, Join HBCU CONNECT today for similar content and opportunities via email! |
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Good "God" you can write!!!!! Lol! Pray all is leveled out for the best for you. On this issue, only one side of the story is being told. We do not know this guy that you are dating. We don't know your attitude with your parents. We don't know but can asume you are having s*x with this young male. If I were a parent and had a teenage daughter in college, I would trip to. One day the same scenario will happen for you, hopefully you will not be like the average non-caring parent. I clash not with you, but even in Proverbs it states not to rush to decisions unless you know or are right there in the person's shoes. Love let's no one go, "God" causes people to make decisions because the devil is in there some where. Nothing happens without a reason. In time maybe you will see all truth's instead of the possibility of blindness and hormones. "God" Bless Sincerely William Monday, August 15th 2005 at 12:38PM |
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Good "God" you can write!!!!! Lol! Pray all is leveled out for the best for you. On this issue, only one side of the story is being told. We do not know this guy that you are dating. We don't know your attitude with your parents. We don't know but can asume you are having s*x with this young male. If I were a parent and had a teenage daughter in college, I would trip to. One day the same scenario will happen for you, hopefully you will not be like the average non-caring parent. I clash not with you, but even in Proverbs it states not to rush to decisions unless you know or are right there in the person's shoes. Love let's no one go, "God" causes people to make decisions because the devil is in there some where. Nothing happens without a reason. In time maybe you will see all truth's instead of the possibility of blindness and hormones. "God" Bless Sincerely William Monday, August 15th 2005 at 12:38PM |
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damn thatz a long story...i think i have A.D.D. cuz i didn't even finish readin it...but das messed up one of my friends is in the same situation u r in right now....all i can say is keep ya head up...u got ya head on ya shoulders and what a surprise it would be an ex to come to ur aid....interesting!
Monday, August 15th 2005 at 1:17PM |
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Thought i was going to get rid of my little girls father because everyone seemed like they were against us but time will tell just hold on and try to make things right. the devil is aganist all good things that comes to God's children. love your blogs
Monday, August 15th 2005 at 6:06PM |
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