Females Lose the Drama
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Posted By: on August 15, 2005 OK...so I have this cool guy friend. Nothing more than friends whatsoever. I just called him to let him know that I was back home, and he was like, I'm a little busy, can I call you back. I was like sure. So minutes later this female is calling me asking me did I just call him and who was I etc. I told her yes I just called, this is Tawana, and who are you. So she goes, I am Mario's ex girl. I was like, OK...what do you want with me??? She was like, why are you calling him? Don't call him no f***ing more!!! I was like, look, first of all, lower your tone. Second of all, free country freedom of speech. Third of all, he is a very good friend that is easy to talk to and you are telling me to stop calling him (your ex) b/c you are insecure. She then told me her name. She asked if we ever chilled together...I'm like, no. There is no interest between us whatsoever. I was telling her that I am not interest in him as a boyfriend. He is just a cool person to talk to every blue moon...he offers great advice. So she goes, he is not a good person, did he tell you why we broke up? I was like, Jennifer, to be honest with you, I don't care why you and he broke up. I'm not interested in him as a boyfriend so I could care less why his past relationships failed. I told her that the last thing I need is some insecure female calling me thinking I want some scraps. So she goes, well, it's females like you...I said hold up, you don't know one thing about me. Don't single me out from a group...I am not like those females. I don't want somebody else's man. You need to check yourself and determine why you are calling me...I'm not a messy person, I'm very nonconfrontational, so what is it that I can do for you? So she asked a few questions, and I willingly and politely answered. So she thanked me and hung up. Then he calls and asks what she said. I told him, and I hear her in the background saying...I ain't tell that girl nothing. I was like, Mario, you are a good friend and all but you know I am drama free. If she is going to be coming at me with drama and stuff, then I won't call you anymore. And if she is your girl and she has a problem with me calling, I won't call. Better yet, I just won't call. So he gets mad and starts going off on her telling her that she made him lose a good friend. I proceeded to hang up the phone. She called me back. So I answered in a frustrated tone and said that I told you both that I am not messy and don't want any part in this. She says, I was just calling to apologize. I had no reason coming at you like that. It's just that he cheated on me and he also gave me genital warts...I said, I know he has warts. He told me about it. He also said that he felt so bad for giving it to you. She obviously wants him back. I told her just like this...I said Jennifer, sometimes people make mistakes. If you love him and you want to work it out with him, you have to let it go. She was like but I am so tired of him lying to me. I was like, well, sometimes females can intimidate the males (by always arguing and yelling) and they will lie to avoid it. Come at him in a way where he feels as if he can talk to you. Let him know that this is just a time to let out everything wrong without any consequences. If you seriously want him back, you have to learn to control your anger and reactions to what he says. And you also have to learn to trust him again. Yeah, he made a few mistakes in his past, but hey, you love him and he loves you. If you both want it to work, this is not the way to go about it. I then told her about my situation with my ex...and she was like, dern, you were strong. She then apologized again and said that she just can't trust him...I told her that she needs to get off of the phone with me, and go talk to him...she agreed. Right before she hung up the phone, she said, I respect females like yourself...thank you and I am sorry. I just smiled and hung up the phone. She should have never called me...that just is not the answer to solving your problems. Yeah, you can get answers from the other person involved, but you need to try and hear him out first. I think that I handled the situation very well...I did not curse at her once, I did not raise my voice with her (not too much anyway), and in the end she sent much respect out to me. She came at me, a totally innocent person, and tried to place me in the middle of her problems, I didn't allow her to. I just want to say, females stop calling other females putting them in your mess. Check your man. That's how fights and all kind of other stuff gets started. Just in case you all don't know, I HATE drama, mess, and anything like it. When a female tries to step to me like that, she better be prepared b/c I allow my knowledge and good character to break her down, instead of yelling, threatening, and all of that sort. She even admitted that she was wrong for calling me...I told her that in order to get things right, they have to lay all their dirt out and accept it, deal with it, and move on. All in all, females, please lose the drama. If you don't trust him, leave him. You don't have to look through his phone daily, call females, and do all that petty stuff. Things come out in strange ways... If you enjoyed this article, Join HBCU CONNECT today for similar content and opportunities via email! |
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TELL 'EM GIRL
Monday, August 15th 2005 at 2:47PM |
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i am the same way i hate mess and too much gossip. if more people in general were like you i probably would have more friends. i do have a couple who just like to have fun and arent messy at all
Monday, August 15th 2005 at 5:46PM |
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Girl, I couldn't even get past the first paragraph w/o posting this blog. That is crazy how she came at you like that. I think her ass is crazy personally and confused. I have to hand it to you though, you handled the situation pretty well. I probably would of went off on the girl for callin my phone like that. You did good. :-)
Monday, August 15th 2005 at 10:17PM |
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damn tawana!!! looks like we both startin to get drama in our lives!!!....and i completely feel u on that cuz my ex girl callin my phone on some other stuff me and my ex have been broken up for 3 years we just madd cool now....sometimes these females get mad at the wrong person and then proceed to try and take their frustration out on somebody whose not in the picture....im glad u gave her some advice cuz she so desperatly needed it....so r u and dude gonna still be friends???
Tuesday, August 16th 2005 at 2:39PM |
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well live your life as each day is a day that nothing will happen and the more you dont think about it then the less mess you will be in ever though you bars none i see but just know obstacles will be put there for a reason and keep your family close and your enemys closer but be careful
Sunday, May 7th 2006 at 12:06AM |
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