What Men Think
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Posted By: Carla Burke on October 05, 2005 I'm interested in finding out what you guys are thinking about. I know it is a known fact that women are more emotional. We seem to hold on and attach more. Boy I wish I could be a fly on a wall and hear what you men are talking about when it comes to the opposite sex. Why is it that men can turn away from a serious relationship and show no emotion? Do you think about it at all? Does that person cross your mind? I heard Juanita Bynum say that men make "releases" and women accept the "deposits". So in other words you guys are set free and the woman is forced to live with it. Is that true? I just want to know. Do you ever think of that person again? I would love to hear from both sexes. But I really would like to find out what you men are thinking. If you enjoyed this article, Join HBCU CONNECT today for similar content and opportunities via email! |
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Carla Burke
From Fayetteville, NC Fayetteville State University class of 2001 Member Since September 2005 |
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I think that is a great question and I think that if I answer it to the degree of 100%, men will hunt me down and thrash me for giving secrets to the other side! I will say this... One misconception of women is that Men Don't Have Feelings-THAT IS WRONG. Men just tend not to wear their feelings on their sleeves (think about how many men you knew that cried at the drop of a hat. How attracted were you?) Men are ridiculed in this society when they are sensitive. Most women want us to be strong providers but sensitive to their every need. That switch doesn't go on and off like you might think. It isn't that men don't care--it's that rationalization comes before emotion for us, when it seems that women think 'love will conquer all'. I, personally, subscribe to the theory that love conquers all, but it has to be a STRONG love and it can't be forced. When men are forced to love and they are not up to the task, they leave. Ladies, please understand. If the love is not offered at our pace, it's not true love--its pressured love. A love that will break under pressure. Men please understand. Women can't wait forever for us to commit. That's just my two cents. Wednesday, October 5th 2005 at 10:08AM |
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First I believe women are blessed with the talent of manipulation; for example Adam and Eve. I think when women are dating they have a schedule. For instance, we date for a month after that we are commited, then he better start talking engagement, and finally when we getting married, you better set a date. The worse thing to do to a male is pressure him. If that male isn't on your schedule of events then he is wasting your time, and then you start to show less interest and confusement in relationship begins. That's why communcation is important in a relationship. I also noticed that people really don't date anymore its just the hooking up age. Bottom line don't pressure love because when you do it usually ends up in bad situations. Best believe if a man is in a serious relationship we might hide our emotions, but deep down inside we hurting. We play sports and hang with the guys to get our mind of that situation, but usually we don't enjoy ourselves becauses it takes time to suppress that pain. Women show emotions, and they want to hear things that will make them feel good. That's where the pressure comes in because some men are afraid of hurting the person they're with. Some people stay in relationships to not hurt the other person, but in reality the best option is to leave the relationship.
Wednesday, October 5th 2005 at 1:05PM |
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Hey Sis: It goes both ways, I have wondered that about Women. I think you may find a post I did last night very interesting, intriguing and knowledgeable. "A King is not a King but a Prince Part II", past articles I have done were "How Men Should Treat Women", there are many others. Just look at how quite a few people answered to my post on "Good Guys vs. Bad Guys". Many men and women are how society dictates. I coincidently write a lot about male/female relations through my life lessons for those that will use it as Paul did in Biblical times. I come hard, strong and very real. None of the superficial stuff that is only temporary and none real. Jer 33:3,6 states to just ask and "I'll" answer you despite who you are and where you might be at in life. Now does that not contradict many of the self-righteous that say and state perfectionism only receives answers, blessings and grace? "God" Bless By the way, respectfully, I just noticed your Profile and remembered that I signed your blog on the 4th. All good, all things happen for a reason. Many times answers come before you ask i.e. Matthew 6:8 By the way, I just did a post today titled "4 Male/Men & Female/Women". Blessings Sis. I pray you feel better soon. Wednesday, October 5th 2005 at 10:45PM |
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I see the queation but dont want to assume that u hav been stuck with a "deposit". I guess in a way all the bro's above have answered to some entent your question but its true that u will never get a 100% satifactory answer because the situation and person is never the same. My personal opinion is that Men like "go with the flow" relationships. We dont want too much pressure and attention. It makes us believe you are needy and i personally never founf that cute! But its not so much that we walk away without a care in the world, or that we dont look back an wonder we just make the best decision for us at the time. Hell, we may even think whats best for u too!LOL I mean lets be honest if a man becomes restless in a relationship and he feels the need to move around would you rather him stay and cheat or be honest and walk away without destroying your trust and friendship, if ya truly had one to begin with!?! I know it may sound cold but I rather be truthful and walk away without feeling bad than to cheat and it blow up in our faces and leave. To me its all the same the relationship is ending. I also think the reason for most relationships ending is that we dont get what we want, we take whats available and available just dont cut it anymore in my book. You want the dark skin bro 6' 6" and what not than thats what you accept because in the end youre going to steer towards that an the man u with will notice!! We see yall when yall look, we just dont care. A man knows one thing for certain. Youre going to do what you want to do no matter how hard we try to steer you in the other direction so if its going to happen then so be it, just dont be bogus with it!!! say ya ready to ride and roll. I know you going to be alright though. Just dont worry about the little things or things that u really hav no control of!!!!
Sunday, October 9th 2005 at 11:22PM |
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