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I Like It When You Hold It Tight

I Like It When You Hold It Tight
Posted By: James French on March 25, 2012


Now you just nasty!! Lol! (it’s a JOKE people!) I’m sending this one out to a demographic that I can probably not claim. I can only hope that it reaches a few people in that group and the knowledge can spread. A major shout out to the lady who reminded me of this. She shall remain nameless because I do not know her. I don’t know her and she doesn’t know me. I looked at her a few times to make sure, and we definitely do not know each other. Over the course of my life I have seen many women like her though. Come to think of it, I see women like her everywhere.
I’m talking about that lady who sees me as she walks in to anywhere U.S.A. and immediately clutches her purse as if it is the Arc of the Covenant and the devil himself is behind her with a sledge hammer and a blowtorch. It’s the lady that pretends to look straight ahead while looking at me sideways with large, horrified, Red Riding Hood just saw that grandma was a wolf eyes. I’m older now so I can say all of those things. As a younger man I was shocked and actually saddened to realize that my presence alone would cause certain people to grab their purse like that or make it a point to push down a lock on their car door when they just could have discreetly pushed the button that says “LOCK”.
Seriously though, it’s sickening. It is offensive. It is stupid.



In a weird kind of way, it’s the reason that the same people are the victims of petty robberies in those situations. That attitude and behavior creates a feeling of resentment towards the people that harbor the same characteristics, thus causing targeting of the same population. What I’m saying is, if you act scared you WILL either become a target or cause someone else who, in general looks like you and acts like you to become one.
There are a lot of people in the world. I’m not sure of the exact number…somewhere around 7 billion. I always tell myself this: If I even think about it, there is at least one person who would do it. So when you clutch a purse tight or lock a car door or walk so fast that your heels break, and I think about taking a purse or scaring someone…there is a person who would actually do that if they were in my shoes. I wouldn’t, but based on my “fact” somebody would. I just hope that those two individuals are never in the same place at the same time.
I would launch into a discussion of how to actually carry yourself in scary places and the benefits of learning self-defense or the signals that victims give off, but it is not my business to tell people how to live. I just want to tell the truth about a few things. It’s up to people whether they want to accept it or not. And though it may seem a bit callous, I have grown to like when I can intimidate people; it’s a type of power rush. The truth about it is, and I would tell all of them… I like it when you hold it tight.
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