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Wise words about men!

Wise words about men!
Posted By: Blaque Queen on November 22, 2005


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,
speak up. Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour.


Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...
there is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.
Dating is fun if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and
you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't
fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
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Kedric McKennon
Hampton University class of 2009
I like ur blog but is it for me or u? What i mean is r u applying what ur talkin about in ur current relationship? Everything you said is tru but not just about men but also women. It applies both ways. So i hope u like my answer.
Monday, November 28th 2005 at 12:57PM
WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III
Florida A&M University class of 1995
amen, great write, what can I say but stand up, apllaud and hope to see more.


I need to download this if You don't mind and this is the 1st time I have seen this.

I believe You would receive a lot of responses if You post this agin.

Just well-meaning 2 cents of advice.
William
Tuesday, April 4th 2006 at 4:52PM
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