Polygamy: What if it was the reverse, women having more than one husband?
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Posted By: Ivan Butcher II on January 27, 2014 I recently was invited to speak to an early childhood vocational class of 12th grade female students on this very topic. When I expressed that I believed in polygamy a few of their reactions were that I was just nasty and just wanted sex. It is obvious and true that a woman is and would be more capable of sexually satisfying several and even many men at a time, more so than a man; however, polygamy isn't about sex. I have already expressed my point of view on relationships between Black men and women in my postings, Adam and Eve Revised and The Silk Purse Conspiracy, but responding to this question, here is my perspective. There are so many issues that doesn't support women with a number of husbands, in my opinion, yet I am too aware of women with multiple baby daddies. It is truly possible, look at all the women who are raising their children alone, by different men and some keeping a relationship with each man. But look how the family suffers when those men neglect their responsibilities. The first question, I posed to the female group was, since most women have a difficult time dealing emotional with one man, how would they handle dealing with several men? I then pointed out to them, I as a male having millions of sperm cells this would enable me to impregnate, in one months time, every single female in the school. They as females given one egg each month, do they just squander their choice with more than one male? If so, who is the daddy of their child? Just saying, that not knowing isn't important, then when the woman is pregnant for one husband, what are the others to do sit around twiddling their thumbs or will they all continue to sex her? Now to me this sounds disturbing. Now, it is one thing to serve several in and out men at a time, but to serve several healthy demanding men daily, How many women really want that? Even prostitutes break down after a while. My feelings about Polygamy is not about sex, you can buy sex and have a different partners every time, to me that would be Nasty. Now, Monogamy is very important for the well being of the entire family, but my position on Polygamy is about wealth and power that a large productive family can command. How can a polygamist be Monogamous? Simply by having sex only with his wives. Polygamy, to me, only works when all the parents are involved with the raising of the children and providing the basic needs of their children. Men who father children with different women and walk away are not Polygamist. There was a time in my youth had my goals been reached, I would have been financially capable of creating the family structure I had envisioned. Considering all things, I feel that men of my age group whom have already successfully raised their families would be the best solution to unifying many of our dysfunctional black families by adoption the whole family, instead of breaking up families and spreading the children around into foster care. I feel what I and other fathers have to offer a woman raising her children alone, would benefit and make a difference in their lives. Today, I don't have a need to father any more children, so I wouldn't have a problem raising someone else's with the same assistance that the system offers to foster care providers. This arrangement could be much like a father helping to support a daughter, niece, friend or neighbor. To think that a woman and her children wouldn't become attached to the man helping them is naive; then again, to think that a man would commit himself to a woman and she have a lover would never work, there lies a dilemma. So basically, by adopting the whole family keeping them together helping the mother and her children catch themselves, like a father, when the family is able to go it alone, you see them off with your well wishes. I came across this article that would supports my idea of adopting on a broader level: Here is the link with the complete article: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/43085435 If you enjoyed this article, Join HBCU CONNECT today for similar content and opportunities via email! |
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Ivan Butcher II
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