u know what? I used to look in disgust at females that stuck with no good dudes. Thought it was pure stupidity. But honestly, some things are soooo much easier to say than to actually do. Your heart/emotions can make u do some crazy things. It's like...even when u know that u know that u KNOW that sumthin is bad for u, sumthin just keeps pullin u to the very thing that can hurt u. And u can tell yourself a million times that's u should move on, that he's no good, that u could do sooo much better, but it's your HEART...sumthin in there won't allow u to let go. Yeah...love definately ****
I've never been in any of those situations that u listed up above. And honestly, my first reaction is to say "oh HELL NAW! I would never take that ish!". But sometimes u just can't say what u would do until you're in the situation yourself.
I definitely understand where you are coming from. For example, my ex-boyfriend cheated on me. I was always the girl who said that I would never stay with someone who cheated. That was so much easier said than done. When you are involved with someone, and care deeply for them, you often put aside all the rules. At one point in time, I was even considering getting back with him. I am thankful that I was able to see that wasn't the right decision and I have moved on. When I got with my new boyfriend, he was extremely patient with me, but once I got over it, he told me he wanted to tell me that my ex was playing me, but felt I needed to learn on my own.
I feel sorry for women who are in the situation where their men are **** them. No woman should ever be put in that situation. Why they would stay is beyond me...I just hope they will have the strengthand courage to one day see they deserve better and walk away. Although my situation wasn't that extreme, I realized I could do and deserve better and I walked away.
Well, my aunt was murdered by her husband on some abusive ****so believe me when I say, it ain't all about emotions. Alot of people who abuse people were abused as children and alot of people who allow themselves to be abused have some underlying psychological problems that can't just be blamed on "stupidity". My aunt was being abused physically and emotionally, even spirtually. I hear alot of people screaming "HE LUCKY IT WON'T ME! I WOULDA LEFT THAT ****!". Yeah that's all and good, but if someone is damaging your psyche, you are not in the right frame of mind to be like, well I need to leave. When your self esteem has been fucced over from like birth, the ****at that damn easy.
Now on some childish shyt, females that bytch and moan about little problems, like my man is cheating on me and continue to stay in that situation, that can be linked to either stupidity or a strong forgiving heart. Take your pick.
some of it is the fact that love is illogical, but some of it is also the fact that people live to hear what they WANT to hear. so if a female can be made to believe that this is it, this is the last time, this is the last night i'll be up crying, this is the last "other woman" phone call, then many times they'll go for it. it's generally not because they're that stupid or that gullible, it's just because that will stop the pain, even if it ends up being only temporarily. it's so much harder to go through the pain it takes to move on, then it is to go through the pain he'll keep bringing back. it sounds silly but that's how it goes for a lot of women (and men too).
it's so much harder to go through the pain it takes to move on, then it is to go through the pain he'll keep bringing back. it sounds silly but that's how it goes for a lot of women (and men too).
i talked to a guy for 5 months and he went back to the girlfriend that try'd to **** him,fuc'd his room up(broke his ish),try'd to hit us with a car,try'd and faught him( this gyrls kinda manly so it was like fight'n a nig). he dogged me out n let the gyrl try to fight me when i cooked for him bought him gifts to show i cared help him with school went on dates took care of him when he was sick told him countless times how much i cared and never pressured him to be with me and never faught him or did any immature stuff to him. and didnt talk to nooooo other nigs. guys do stupid ish too. i just figure love dies hard he couldnt let go cause he try'd to let the good out way the bad when the bad like( the murder attempt on his life) is way worst then any any good combined. his loss. im not doin that ish agian :roll: :lol:
imma cosign with ma girls................
i gotta CONCUR with ashley tho...................
cuz men are very confused species, either way u gonna get called stupid for leaving him because he was a good man that made a mistake and the next chick wouldna let him go, or u stupid cuz u stay and forgive him cuz he a dog......................
im EXTREMELY forgiving cuz i know that men will stray and all i gotta do is get in that **** ONE time and he'll str8en right up................
kenya kno what I'm talkinbout!!!!!!
Thats why I dont get attached to guys...I dont got time to be depressed, crying, chasin after some loser. If I know upfront what Im dealing with then he cant hurt me, cause I already knew what to expect. I mean my mentality has allowed me to not trust no guys easily, and because of it i havent been in love before, because the thought of being vulnerable and attached scares me. DO I wanna be madly in love and be with someone great...OF COURSE...but I have yet to find " him. " I always say **** aint sh*t, cause the most of the ones I deal with aint sh*t, but I do know some really good ones exist out there...I just have yet to find him.
I've never been in any of those situations that u listed up above. And honestly, my first reaction is to say "oh HELL NAW! I would never take that ish!". But sometimes u just can't say what u would do until you're in the situation yourself.
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